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cindy

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ok...theres this guy..ofcourse..thats how theses things always start out. but that ok. well any ways, we have known each other for 10 years ok and we have just been friends. well about a month ago we went to the movies and we kissed..AWESOME! ,but unfortionately good things never last..because a week later he started being really mean to me and not talking to me. Well i didnt talk to him for about 3 weeks and then on may 18...(my birthday) i called him after me , my friend, and my cousin left my other cousins graduation (we left early) i calle dhim to ask him once again if the kiss ment anything to hin and if he like someone else...hey we're friends we talk about this stuff. He got me really upset and i started to cry so i hung up. My cousins girlfriend called him and he sais that he didnt like me he didnt mean anything by it and we weren't friends...This got me sooo upset that i cried for like 30 minutes until everybody got home then i had to hold it back but i couldnt. I am still upset. I cant think about anything lse ...except him and the past 10 years. now i'm so heart broken that i dont even know witch way i should go...go down a new path...or stay where i am and live life never fully loving anyone ever again. My friends and family tell me that it was just a crush and i'll get over it and i say well if i will get over it how come i still feel like he just broke my heart. They never kenw and never will know exactly how much i love him.He will never know either and thats what hurts the most.

Okay. This is a toughy. I understand you have a broken heart. Trust me on this one, it will heal as time goes on. I know that time might seem like forever, but you just have to do your best. Try and forget about your friend. I know it might be hard, but he will get over himself soon enough. Get back out there, flirt with other guys, have fun with your friends, be spontaneous. In a week or so, try calling him again. As much as you might not want to face him, or how much he doesn't want to face you, you guys need to talk. That way, you will be on the same page, and hopefully starting a new chapter to your friendship (as queer as that sounds). He is probably just scared of his feelings, but talk to him. Don't mention the kiss, or what it meant, just talk about your friendship. Forget about going farther than that for now. If that results, thats good, and if it doesn't, you'll still be friends. Here's a quote that might help you. "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back, they're yours." Hope this helps and feel better. If you need to talk, you know where to find me.
-cindy

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(Rating: 5) thank you...that did help but i dont think i can talk to him again, its just to hard. he's in atlanta with his dad until june 27. My friend told me that when we go to hawaii that i will have time to clear my mind, but i dont know i dont think i can ever really talk to him, i'm good at anything you tell me to do except to be brave, well when it comes to him, i've called him a few times and i think he might be tired of me. i Dunno but you did help
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