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Q: ((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap

any suggestions on what i should do?

I am 22 years old and even though a 4 year age difference is not a huge deal. I myself adore someone who is 3 years younger then me. I do understand your mom's concern. But like you said, if this guy was after you just for sex he would be long gone by now since he isn't getting anything from you. Your mom, you and him should all sit down together and have a talk. Maybe if she meets him and can trust him with you then she might start to relax. It's hard for a mom to let go of her child. He needs to earn her trust. It's a tough situation but if it's meant to be it will. Your still so young and guys will come and go. I hope you try this and it works for you. Good luck sweetie.
:-)