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ok. i`ve been knowing thiss guy.. since 6th grade and i`ve fallen for him. *since 6th grade* but i was a fat girl and he wasn`t so he didn`t like me. we were kool, kinda friends i guess, but you can tell he didn`t like me cause i used to ask him out all the time. well throughout middle school, my like for him got stronger and stronger. and i lost weight during summer b4 9th grade. well in 9th grade, he started talking to me more, and more. and we evolved a friend ship. he had a girl friend, but she could nvr do nething durin the weekends, so i used to do stuff with him all the time, and he used to cuddle with me. well they broke up and we started talkin, and he asked me out on his birthday. well we broke up but even tho we were broken up we were still actin like we were goin out. he had another g/f and he cheated on her with me and was still tellin me he loved me, and i cheated on my b/f with him. well now he has no g/f and i have no b/f and we tell each other tht we arent goin to get one. but i dont understand why WE D0NT G0 BACK 0UT. i mean we tell each other we love each other, and spend each minute with each other, everyday @ school and everyweekend. but he is goin off to a school next year tht is like 5 hours from here. only gonna come down once a month, but idk. we`re at the end of out 10th grade year. and we have been talking since october of 2004 so almost 2 years. but we don`t go out but we act like we do and everyone at school thinks we do. please i need advice.

I have gone through the exact same thing. Although, I think the reason he won't rush into anything is because he likes the way it is now. When he asks you out, he stands the risk of losing you AGAIN. He won't ask you out because the way you guys act like you're together without having to really call it a "commitment" seems like a better option. I say if you want to take things to the next level, talk to him about how you want to take things back up a knotch. Reassure him that yuo only have eyes for him, and that you will fight to make it work. After all, "love" is a strong term and if that is what you feel towards this boy, and he says it's how he feels about you, then you should have no problem convincing him that you two should be together. If that doesn't work, try pulling away alittle. Guys always wont what they can't seem to have, so if you bump up the hard-to-get knotch, he'll come running back in no time :) About the schol situation: If you don't think yuo can manage a long distance realtionship, I think you shuold seriously think twice before you talk to him about being together. Good Luck! I'm here for followup.

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