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Okay so this week was the week that the eighth graders at my school went on the southern cities trip. I'm in the eighth grade but didn't go. This boy I like, we'll call him kevin, went. I miss him soo much and I can't wait to see him on monday, and I was even planning on asking him out, but there's one small problem. he's already got a girlfriend. they've been going out over a month already.
he flirts with me all the time when she's not around, and people mistake him for my boyfriend and me for his girlfriend all the time. it makes it really awkward sometimes, but we usually just make a joke out of it. he used to hug me and hold my hand before they got together, now he doesn't do any of that because of her.
I've missed him soo much this week it's made me not think straight. I've started cutting myself, smoking and sneeking out every night this week. I thought about commiting suicide several times and last night I was even about to steal some of the gin out of my mom's liquor cabinet. Is my missing kevin having to do with this? What should I do about it?
This week has barely been tolerable, but has because of a boy named josh. Because of the majority of the kids going on the 8th grade trip, out of 115 of us, there was only about 30 still at school this week. They put all of us in one big class all week and when we rotated, we rotated together. meaning I had more classes with josh that I usually do.
We didn't do much all week because of the people being gone, so the whole week was like a big study hall. well this week in science, 3rd period the boys would all play fast ball with a paper ball they made and the girls would watch tv/listen to music/play truth-or-dare or whatever. welll everytime josh caught the ball, he'd throw it at me, and ofcourse it'd always hit me. i'd pick it up off the ground and stick my tongue out at him. he'd pout and eventually I'd cave and give him the ball back. in which he'd smirk at me and stick out his tongue.
what should i do about him? I know kevin likes me..but I dont know or understand what's going on with josh.
I'm sorry this is long, and just for that, you all get 5's if you give me a good answer. :] (link)
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You're depending on Kevin too much. You depend on him to keep you happy, and to cheer you up and to make you smile and to just be THERE. I know the feeling.
At first, you were probably best friends or something. Then, he started holding your hands, hugging you and other physical stuff. Whenever you're alone with him, you feel so cared for and so loved and you don't want to let go of that.
The solution: Let go of him. Or at least, just be friends. Don't think of him as your boyfriend because you'll be disappointed. Tell him to stop with the public display of affection, because it'll just make you fall for him even more. It'll make it harder to let go. I know you're already starting to develop more feelings for him and it's gonna be hard to pull away, but you have to because it's unfair to you and his girlfriend.
If he doesn't like you (as a girlfriend) enough to leave his current girlfriend, then he probably doesn't like you in that way. It's not worth it. Don't be depressed over him. HE'S not worth it if he's playing with your feelings (especially when you both know that he has a girlfriend).
As for Josh, he might like you and he might not. Start being friends with him first and just go from there. Don't jump to conclusions... Spend time together and see if you feel something for him. If it works out, great. If not, he's not the right guy for you and there are other fish in the ocean.
Before I go, just remember one thing: You don't need a boy to complete you. You are just fine the way you are.
Good luck.
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Rating: 5
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Thanks alot alot. you're most definitly going as one of my favorite advice givers. :]
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