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Q: when i say that my ex has been on my mind a lot lately. i dont mean, when im sexually with my bf or anything. but sometimes when im alone or wiht my friends i think about him. my family moved next door to him a few days ago. we broke up about 5 months ago. i was really hurt. i know i loved him and still do. but i love my bf now. my new bf was my first. and he is so sweet. he is perfect. but how can i stop thinking about my ex. i dont feel like im being loyal to my bf. plez help
You ARE being loyal to you boyfriend, like I have explained before to girls its completely normal to not forget your ex boyfriend. & to even sometimes have thoughts of them. I mean, everytime I get a new boyfirend I always think of the last one, no matter what my feelings are for the new one. Once you care about someone a tremendous ammount, they pretty much always stay there, in the back of your head. & its a curiosity thing. You think, what if we were still together, whats he doing, whats he thinking about, who does he like now. Things of that sort. & its common & normal. Dont worry about a thing. As long as you understand the line between thoughts & actions. Thoughts about ex's stay in your head and their okay but once they become actions with him then their bad. So as long as its thinking, your being loyal. If you still feel bad though ttalk to your current boyfriend about it and explain to him that your ex has been on your mind and its really bugging you because you think it could effect your relationship. Im sure he will understand and if hes really caring and perfect he will be there for you to talk about it too.

thanks you helped a lot. i talked to my bf adn he said he understands. adn that he knows that i truely loved my ex. knowing that my bf understood something that i couldnt really makes me feel that i can really count on him. and i dont think i have to worry about it. thanks again

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