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This might be kind of long, so bear with me please.(This is a real question..so don`t be rude)
About a year ago, my 23 year old cousin died.This guy was unbelivable. He was seriously like my second brother & he was soo funny. Anyways, I went to the funeral and saw all my family members there and you know, I started crying. Months went by & it seemed like I got over it. And I really did.
I have this picture of him(not even big at all) on my wall and I looked at it last night and just started crying. I mean, I stayed up all night crying for my cousin because I just barely realized that I'm not over my cousin's death. And the weird part is that I just started crying after I THOUGHT i was over his death. Totally weird I know. I couldn`t even go to school because I didn`t get any sleep.
I don`t really know what my question is, but I guess I`m asking how I can actually get over his death & cope with the fact that he isn`t coming back. I realize that he isn`t coming back, and I think that`s what makes me soo sad in the first place.Now I feel all depressed. Please help me. (link)
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I can tell that he was very close to you, and i know from first hand how hard it is to get over someone important to you like so many others in this world. Its a matter of knowing how strong you are. I lost my friend Mark 2 months after i had heard he started drugs. i almost cried each night for him as it was because his life wasn't pleasent at all. But when i heard of his death i felt responsiable for some reason even tho it wasn't at all my fualt. It took me forever to go to school again, and when i did i couldn't face anyone. I know a friend isnt even hafe as close as a cusion, but the thing is i could of so helped him. ( This happend this past october ) i got over it in a matter i knew i was better then to grieve over something that won't help my future out. I know that sounds like i just want to forget him and eveything about him, but i really don't. i made a memory book of him and talked to all my friends about him and i think thats what helped me the most. When you talk about it, it makes it more realistic faster, and it also makes it sink in, and helps the grieving process. A good cry about it every once and a while does not mean that your not over it, it just means that you did really care, and that you do miss him. You'll never get rid of that, and that would be horriable to try and get rid of that part of him thats still with you. He sounds like he was a great person, and could've done so many great things, but you know what, so can you. live out your dreams, and along the way think of him, and how he is looking down at you, hoping you make it. He probaly cared alot for you too, and wouldn't want to see you like this.
I know it sounds like sense my friend was doing drugs, that he was a horriable person, but he was the greatest ever. I felt so horriable because afterwards i realized that i should've helped him, and you really shouldn't regret things like that. So, like i said a good long cry about him every once and awhile does NOT mean that you are NOT over him. i still cry every once and awhile about mark, mostly when i view the memory book i made of him. Thats another idea, that memory book i made really did help me. maybe if you made one it would help you alot.
Hope i helped and that this didn't sound confusing
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it didn`t sound confusing at all. thanks so much.
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