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i have lived through just about anything you can imagine.. so let me help you out with ANY topic. nothing is too extreme! i'm 18 and majoring in psychology at college. i know this stuff.
Gender: Female
Location: Michigan
Occupation: student--->psychology major
Age: 18
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I'm about to turn 21, and I've been with my first and only boyfriend for about a year and a half. He adores me and I believe that if we were to stay together he would love me until he dies. Unfortunately, I am not so secure in my feelings.

There are some down sides to the relationship:
A) I am a dedicated student while he seems to have little ambition. He dropped out of college and works at a fast food place.

B)Because I'm in college we are living in two different cities.

C) He is extremely insecure. He gets unreasonably angry with me when he knows I've spoken to another guy. He has also told me that if we ever break up he would be too upset to want to get back together.

D) Because I haven't had a previous relationship, I often have doubts. I'm not unhappy in the relationship, but sometimes I wonder if there is a better match for me.

Should I end a relationship I am comfortable with for the possibility of one that is 'ideal' for me? (link)
wow, your situation is quite similar to my own. i am also in college dating a guy not in school and living about 3 hours apart. when i first came to school, we actually took a "break" for a couple weeks while i sorted out those feelings. my advice would be to not do that. it complicates things and makes it hard to trust your feelings even more. i think it's great that you haven't been in other relationships. sometimes those can complicate a current relationship. sure, it's completely normal to wonder "what if" but i wouldn't act on. if you're already completely happy with the relationship you have don't give it up. good luck with it all...


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Thanks. Glad someone else understands.




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