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Sorry If Its Long!!! .. Well here it goes
Ok well theres this guy .. well call him cody.
well me and cody have know each other for like almost 2 years. and over the summer we talked about how we liked each other .. and he kind of i guess strung me along for like 2 months .. sayin he liked me but wouldn't do anything about it, but when i asked if i should juss forget it he told me not to b/c he liked me ..
he said he'd call nd he said we'd hang out but he kept blowin me off and not callin but he "liked me" so i guess he thought it was ok. so i left him a message on aim sayin to call me so we coudl talk about it .. yahh well he got the message but didnt call. so we stopped talkin for like 3 weeks .. like i was pissed. and he knew it but didnt try to make it better.
soo halloween night me him and my friend kev chels and jenn all hung out. i didnt know he was gonna be there or else i wouldn't have gone. but we ended up having so much fun and i laughed the whole time .. all the feelings i thought i was over .. came rushing back soo fast!!!
so we talked about it and we talked online the next day and he told me he liked me and everything. so 2 nights ago we hung out and went to funspot and all of us were in a guy named brody's truck. i was like practically sittin on top of him the whole like 1 and a half ride, and he had his arm around me and stuff.
- - but when we were driving home kevie (the other guy who was there) was like "so cod are you 2 like goin out now. and codys like no. and kev was like wait what. how come? and codys like you heard me .. i didnt stutter ..
i juss dont get him .. so we talked nd hes like i REALLY like you, i honestly do i juss dont want a girlfriend .. but he told kevin that he didnt even like me at all .. hes pissing me off b/c hes not even tellin me the truth .. and i just wanted an honest answer (link)
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Dear Whats he really mean?
I agree with Bianca, he is just playing games with you. Telling you he likes you but then saying he doesn't want a girlfriend. Sounds to me like he already has a girlfriend that no one knows about.
Just the fact that he doesn't admit he likes you in front of other people is reason enough to forget about having emotional feelings for him.
Yes he may make you laugh, but he treats you like garbage. That is unforgivable. Talk to your friends and ask them to warn you the next time he is going to attend a get together. That way you can be prepared to shield yourself. Don't sit on his lap, don't talk to him as much and definitely do not let him see your attraction to him. Just be casual friends and nothing more. What about this Kevie guy? OR even Brody? Do they have girlfriends? Get to know one of them a little better and move on from Cody.
Friendship is good, but he has made it very clear that he doesn't want anything more from you. It's a hard thing to choke down, but do not let him bring you down because he cannot make up his mind. Even if he comes to you in a few months and says,"ok, I am ready for a girlfriend" you should tell him he treated you horribly and lost your attentions. You should call Kevie or Brody, if they are single.
Sorry this guy has kept you on the run around, but you should learn from this and keep your distance from him.
Good Luck
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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Hey! Thanks for your help .. it makes a lot of sense and im gonna try to follow your advice. im gonna see if brody wants to hang out sometime .. hes a cool guy ... so ill see how it works out i guess .. thanks again :)
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