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but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save...

No... I don't think that it was right of him to say that. And I think he's wrong, if you are like you say, a generally good person who tries not to judge other and treats others decently than heaven is just as reachable for you as it is for him. It is my firm belief that undernieth it all we are all trying to reach the same place and just have different ways of getting there. No one path is better than the other, and in something as philisophical and untouchable as religion no one has the right to throw stones...
What you need to do is find the grounds that you are comfortable on, the morals that you believe are imortant and the ideals that matter the most to you and try to live up to them because YOU want to not because your christian friend tells that you need to believe them. You need to find what works for you, and if someone ever tells you that your going to hell you say to them "I know I'm a good person, and I know that I will go some place equally as good" and leave it at that. If you want feel free to throw in "I'll see you there!"
I hope that helps, and feel better because whatever Immanent Will you believe in or follow will know you better than an mortal man.
Good Luck
Frost

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