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Q: but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save...

You are not going to hell. That's ridiculous, because who is he to say? and if he's really that religious he knows he should not be judgmental. The fact that you are concerned about his feelings shows that you are a nice person. If he is making you feel bad or you feel trying to 'save' you, then maybe you need a break from this friend.
I know that religion is a popular thing to talk about and means a lot of things to a lot of people, but you are entitled, in fact its your right, to believe what you want to believe and not have others force their views on you and not judge you.
Good luck and keep me posted.