Homecoming is coming up soon. I can't go because my uncle's wedding is on the same day. But my boyfriend is considering going with my friend who can't find a date, actually she can she just doesn't feel like going with the guy she likes for some reason. Anyways, I said I was okay with them going, but I'm really not but saying I'm okay with it so I don't look too possessive. But I feel uncomfortable with any girl going to one of the most romantic dances with my boyfriend. Should I tell them I'm not okay with it? How do I tell them without sounding like I don't trust them? Is this a bad sign on the boyfriend's part or can he really be doing it just to be nice? And is it bad on the friend's part?

I don't think it's wrong. It's really awesome you're trying to not be the "possessive girlfriend". It's hard not to get jealous and possessive though, I know.

I think you should let the two of them go. I mean, no sense in making two people miserable right?

And now here's the deal: How about you let them go together and dance, and have fun and etc, but request that they don't do any romantic and slow dances? I mean, it's reasonable right? They both have dates, they get to have fun, and they still get to dance together. Anyone with common sense would realize having their boyfriend slow dance with another girl will NOT make the girlfriend very comfortable. I'm sure they'll be okay with that since they seemed to care enough to ask you if it was okay if they went together.

I don't think your boyfriend was trying to make you feel bad or anything. He probably was just being nice. If you're so worried about it, just talk to them. I'm sure they'll understand. If not, maybe they truly weren't who you thought they were.

Good luck!