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hey i have a problem. wel yesterday was our school dance, and i hated it so much, because of some stuff that happened. what happend was that there's 2 guys that i like. 1 of them i like A LOT all the time, but the other guy i just think he's really hot and i just really really really wanted to dance with him. this other guy that i like all the time, almost every girl in the class likes him, and i know he likes someone that likes him too, but i know that it's not me. 1 of my friends realy liked him too, and yesterday he asked her to dance. and then after that i was gona ask him to dance but then right wen i was about to my friend asked him to dance, and i was really sad. and then i thought "this dance is the worst dance ever!" but then i thought "well there's i stil have a chance with that other really hot guy tht i've been wanting to dance with." and i know that this guy really likes me and everything, because we went out twice before, and he stil likes me and everything, and i stil like him, but everytime we go out we dont feel comfortable around each other, so we keep braking up. so then we talked a lil, and he we both wanted to dance together and everything, and he kept on coming up to me and tryed to ask me to dance and everything, and i was waiting for him to ask me, but he kept geting too nervous and just walked away without asking me, cuz he didn't know that i wanted to dance with him, and that i still like him too. it was the worst dance ever. i didn't get to dance with any of the two people that i liked. so for the next dance, what should i do to get them to dance with me? especialy the 2nd guy? and is ther anything i can do to get over them? please help! i rate high!

First, consider why you like each. You seem to be drawn to the fact that they're "popular", which is natural but horrible as a reason for having a relationship. Tell this to yourself everytime you want to get friendly and force yourself to take it slow.
When the next dance comes and you've got your eyes set on somebody, wait for a break in the dancing (as in the end of a song) and walk to to the person and tell them you would enjoy a dance with them. If they don't want to dance with you, it's their loss and let it go. I'm sure there'll always be someone nice and willing to dance with you, you just have to be open.
As to the second guy, if he's interested in dancing but afraid to make the approach, quit waiting and offer to dance with him. But if you always are uncomfortable with each other, you either need to have a long and open discussion about why or just skip on having a more-than-friends relationship with him.

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