Gender: Female
Location: Texas
Member Since: July 11, 2005
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Last Update: October 23, 2005
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Ok, here's the deal. I have this boyfriend I have been with since 7th grade. We know each other very well, and are really comfortable around each other. But last winter his parents split up and he got mixed up with the wrong crowd, started doing drugs, starting ruining his life in general, and not to mention ruining our relationship not only as a couple but as I see him. He started blowing me off, not calling, not keeping promises, point blank..doing drugs. So we broke up for awhile, and I met this really great other guy. We talked about everything, and it evetually lead into a relationship. He was really laid back and we had lots of good times together. But to be honest, i couldn't open up to this kid as much as the other one. I was very standoffish and I couldn't like him to the point where I wanted to be more than just friends. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me. He was the total opposite of what the other kid was, my old boyfriend is very protective of me and gets jealous and mad vey easily. so that was just what I needed. So, a few things happened, I cheated on this kid with my old boyfriend, and I needed to break up with him. I feel like such a bad person because he is such a good guy. After awhile, my old boyfriend went to Florida to figure out who he was and get more self respect for himself. While he was down there he would call me every single night. I was the only thing he had to hold onto. Now he's back up here, and I've hung out with him, but I'm not convinced he's changed and I don't want him to go back to his old ways. I am in love with this kid because we basically grew up together, but in some ways I feel like I made the wrong decision. Sometimes I feel like I should have gone with the other kid. I need some GOOD advise because I have been thinking about this for a long time.
PLEASE HELP, thank you* (link)
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Okay, for your long question, a long answer. You need to talk to him, about EVERYTHING. How you feel about his drug shit and what not. You shouldn't feel bad about not being with tht other guy, because if you didn't feel the same way for him that he did for you, than it wasn't fair to keep going out with him.(But cheating was wrong) Now, your old boyfriend. If you really like him and what not, then you should be with him. He is after all just what you said you needed. If he changes back though, try to help him find himself again. He really probably just needs that someone, because probably when y'all broke up, he just went deeper into things because you were his only hope. I have a friend who is the exact same way. And, if you can't keep him from doing all the drugs and such, then you should tell him that you can't be with him if he does it, you've tried to help him, and you don't want him to hurt himself like that, but he just won't. He will get the point. If you also don't try to help him, he could REALLY hurt himself. Not just with drugs. So, point being, don't feel bad about the other guy. Talk to your old boyfriend and help him out. He needs you more than you think. Hope it all works out, do let me know, and e-mail me if you need anything else.
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