Are romantic fantasies a bad thing? In the 6th grade, (I'm going to 7th I just turned 13 in late may.) kids were "going out." I thought it was silly and immature, (and absolutely hilarious to watch) especially because they took their relationships so seriously and thought they were "in love". But the worst part of it is that I (in my most private of thoughts) sometimes get romantic fantasies that are equally if not more ridiculous! And I acually enjoy them. I try to avoid them because they're so ludicrous, but I can't. omg I'm soooooooooooo embarassed. Am I equally as silly as them? Am I judging them unfairly? Is this normal for 13-year-old? It would be really nice if someone could give me some info!!!

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♥ Anneliese ♥

Perfectly normal! I used to dream about my "perfect boyfriend" until I finally found him ;) So don't feel embarrassed at all. At least you know what you will want in a guy/girl, right?

It's true a lot of people take the word "love" for granted and I really did think relationships before college were stupid, ESPECIALLY middle school love and below. I'm not sure about middle school, but I do believe you can find love at a young age. Although people take it for granted, it doesn't mean true love isn't possible.

This is my opinion on love:
No one can ever describe love "correctly" or "incorrectly". This is because every person has a different definition of "love". "Love" has many different degrees. It depends on how strong you believe in the word.

Loving someone can mean ANYTHING. You can love someone romantically, or you can love someone as a friend, or as a role model, or as a family member, etc. When you're "in love" it does depend on how you're using it. If you say you love your mom, or family members, of course you're "in love". But most commonly, "in love" is only used for a "lover" or someone you're having a "relationship" with.

Love is when you love that person no matter what. You can't suddenly "fall out of love" with that person. You shouldn't just like this person just because of their looks or something superficial.

This person does NOT make you insecure or self-conscious, they should make you LESS insecure and self-conscious. They should make you feel GOOD about yourself. Not only this, but you should do the SAME for them as well. It's a you-get- and you-give- relationship.

Think about WHY you love this person. Are they good reasons? It helps to look into the future. Is this guy HUSBAND material? If the answer is no, don't bother wasting your time on someone you can't see yourself with.