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Me & my guy friend had a fight like 2 weeks ago, then last week I called him to apologize (it was nothing big i swear...just stupid) and i don't think he was happy to hear from me. He went to out of town for a few days and just got back today and now he's leaving again tomorrow for a week and a 1/2. I havent talked to him since I've called him. He told my friend that he's not mad but he just doesn't wanna talk to me bc he's afraid then I might start to like him. I sent him a text asking him if he was still mad and he never texted me back. I need to know if I should try calling him again TONIGHT before he leaves again bc I really miss him sooo much and I don't want our friendship to be over because of this bc we've been friends for 6 yrs & have been thru soooo frikin much together! HELP PLEASE!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO???? And if I call him, what should I say to get him to listen to me? Thanks!

Well, hun, have you ever just considered the fact that he just may need space on his on terms and time. I know that with any friendship that may just come very hard for the person who's supposed to be providing that space ,but you really have and need to respect that because it could very later on show him how much you care for the friendship and him... and it may show something to yourself later on that may well suprise you.I would not suggest you calling him over the phone because he could make up all sorts of reasons to avoid you. Oh and have you thought that maybe the "nothing big" fight may have been something big to him. Yeah, I know, some things aren't as they appear right. Well, if you can talk to him face to face. Maybe run or drive(have someone else drive you to his home before he takes his leave) to his house for a brief comment. In this comment, focus upon the fact that you are sorry about the fight and that you will be provide all the space and support he needs ,and that it was a bit reckless by not noticing that the fight was a big deal because if it's a big deal to him it's a big deal to you. Tell him that you respect all the time he needs to become comfortable with your friendship again and that you're there for him. Then let it be that. But you may, or at least you should be prepared for the fact that this friendship maybe just wasn't meant to be . I know , that's wrong right. But you only can try so hard . Just be there for him in whatever and try to support his decision whatever it may be. I have this feeling that you will benefit in some way or form . I don't know why, but I think... no I know... that you two will be alright. It'll take time...but somehow I just know it. Hope I was some help and lovely day.

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(Rating: 5) THANKS SOOO MUCH!!! That helped a LOT!!! Have a lovely day yourself!
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