Latelty I've put on a bit of weight.
And too much weight for my liking.

I think I'm becoming somewhat obsessed with the way I look, I've started dressing in dark clothes and baggy jeans to hide what I've put on although I know that you can see it anyway.

It's too hot to wear what I'm wearing when walking home from school and I sometimes feel faint from the heat but if I wear something else, it feels like people are staring at me.


I have thought about not eating but I've heard it can just make matters worse so I just kept excersizing and dieting but it's not working! I've been at it at a month and it isn't working!
I don't want to go to a doctor because they'll send me home saying I'm not overweight which I'm not but I don't like the way I look.

I want to skip meals but then I'm scared it's accidently going to get into my head and it's going to become a regular thing and I don't want that. I'm trying hard not to make myself sick after every meal and I'm trying even harder to actually eat.

I just need advice on how to cope.
I don't want to tell my mom, so please don't suggest it. I honestly don't want to tell anyone I just know I need some help.


-- I am NOT doing this to get attention, the only reason I'm asking on advicenators is because it's the only place I know that lets me stay anonymous so it is not for attention and please, if you have nothing helpfull to say please do not say it.

Maybe this diet and fitness journal will be of help to you. This is the link:

http://www.fitday.com/WebFit/Index.html

You don't have to tell anyone, but don't be embarrassed or afraid to. You say you know you need some help. It's just about impossible to get help if you do not tell anyone. Ever thought of that?

Don't ever starve yourself. For one thing, it's really bad because you are depriving your body. Your body DEPENDS on food to keep you alive and working. Without food it will have to work even harder and it won't have enough energy. Do you know why not eating will make it worse? Because after depriving yourself, you will be starving for food. And eventually you'll eat it all back. If you plan to not eat it all back and continue starving yourself, you're just slowly killing yourself and I don't think you want to do that.

The best way to lose weight is to give yourself time. You need to eat a big breakfast, and eat less things as the day goes. It's like an upside down triangle. Never eat food at night. You need to exercise. You need a healthy diet. I'm sure you know this already.

I'm not professional, so I can't tell you everything, but I did look up some sites that you might what to take a look at. If you ever needs more information, just look it up...you'll get tons of results. Here are some links:

- http://www.weight.addr.com/
- http://www.dietsurf.com/easy-diets.htm
- http://www.floraproactiv.com/a-better-diet/index.stm
- http://kidshealth.org/teen/question/dieting/lose_weight_safely.html
- http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/loseweight.htm
- http://www.ivillage.co.uk/dietandfitness/wtmngment/weightloss/articles/0,9544,233_576059,00.html

If you don't like the way you look, you either have to be patient and work for it, or accept and love the way you are.

You say you've been exercising and dieting for a week, but it's not working. Are you really doing enough though? Maybe you're not doing something right, or you're not doing enough. Just do some research on dieting and exercising.

Don't be afraid of wearing clothes that aren't baggy or black. Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and good. Some clothes make you look even slimmer. Just take a trip to the mall and get a change in your wardrobe...it will make you feel better.

Everyone is beautiful whatever their shape or size is. Don't worry about what people will think about you. You want people to love you for who you are, not for your looks. Just learn to love yourself no matter what the outcome is after you diet and exercise. If you do that everything will be a breeze and you will never be disappointed.

Good luck!