hey everyone! i'm from france. i'm in high school. i'm alright at giving advice so if you ever need any help i'll do the best i can! i'll check this pretty often so that i can be the best advice giver i can get, peace and love
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Hi. I'm a fellow Advicenator. I have my own column, if you ask, I could leave you feedback with my username. Although I've always been good at advice...I feel lost right now. Maybe I do know the answer, but I just need to hear it from someone else.
For the past few years...Something hasn't been right with me. I'm tired of not fitting in, I'm tired of always needing to get good grades, I'm tired of people not telling me anything, tired of being ignored, hurt... I'm one of those 4.0+ GPA students. Friends would describe me as hyper. Heck, that's even part of my username. But all this time it's been a cover up of how I really feel. Crying by myself sometimes make me feel better, but time doesn't heal, like they say. Things get worse for me.
This year seemed to work out so well. Until last Friday I realized that this year has all been a lie. A friend told me about something my other friends have been hiding from me. I found out that the people I LOVED, my FRIENDS, were talking trash about my boyfriend and me.
They don't realize that WE HAVE ALL CHANGED. I know I have changed, and I accept that. I accept that they have changed as well. We all want our "old" friends back, but what can we do? I miss them, but I cannot change what has happened between us. My boyfriend has brightened up my life. I thought they would be happy for me. What's funny is THEY were the people that pressured me into saying YES to my boyfriend sooner than I expected. (I don't regret it at all.) I could have gone for months, not giving him an answer. "OMG, say yes already" "Oh, he's a nice guy" I remember lots of quotes, CLEARLY. And now, here they are, talking trash?
My REAL friends are supposed to be there for me. They're supposed to talk to me, even if it's something I don't want to hear. They need to at least try to see things my point of view, and NOT talk trash behind my back. They need to either talk to me about it or keep it to themselves and NOT spread around how I'm such a changed and horrible person.
The only person that is giving me the will to live is my boyfriend. I feel bad he has to see me like this. He tells me he knows how I feel, but he doesn't care because he has me. I'd like to say the same, but honestly, it hurts too much. I love him, but the pain won't go away.
I don't know what to do.
At first I wanted to like yell at my "friends" and go rawr! But then as these few days passed I just wanted to forget. But then I can't forget the pain... I see them every day. I think to myself, maybe if I forget, we can all pretend it never happened because I don't want to ruin things even more. But then I tell myself how could I pretend when something like this has happened? My brain goes back and forth...all the time.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize for the length...I really needed to get that out... Please...I need some wise words. (link)
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hey! well, like you said, i think that you pretty much gave yourself advice by writing this. i mean, what you said about real friends and what they should do, well thats exactly it. i'm not saying to stop seeing and being with all your friends, but try talking to them about it. maybe it wasnt as bad as you think, and maybe it can be "fixed". however, dont get your hopes up too much because maybe they are just mean people who have nothing else better to do than to talk trash about people they call their friends behind their back. if it turns out that it wasnt as bad as it seemed and that your friends apologized and its all good, then maybe have like a big hang out with all your friends. however, if it turns out that your friends are just bitches, then turn to new people and rely and talk to your bf to get yourself through the pain. i seriously think that talking to your friends is the best way to figure out this whole thing. if you need to talk about it more, leave a message in my inbox or leave me your sn or soemthing like that. hope this helped, peace and love
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Hello...you gave my advice quite a while ago, and I'm finally here to give feedback. lol. The advice every one gave me made me feel a better, and I know I wasn't the only one that went through that situation. Thanks for taking the time to help out a fellow advicenator. I finally had a long talk with my friends last weekend, and all is well. If you'd like more information about it, you could check out my online diary (http://kimmie4ever.diaryland.com/050522_23.html user: guest pass: cheesie) if you like. Thanks again, and I really appreciated your advice.
PS, In case you were wondering, my username here is HyperactiveMiss. In case you weren't...well...nevermind then. heh.
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