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Hi everyone, I'm 14/f and I was j/w if it would be bad if I eventually went out with a 19 year old guy. I'm going to be 15 in May. I've been talking to this guy for a year now. He seems really really sweet, but we haven't met yet. I just feel like I'm starting to like him now. We were going to go see a movie one time, but we didn't end up going because it was really late. I decided not to go. He always used to say I'm too young and everything, so he was afraid to meet me, but then all of a sudden that one time he was going to go somewhere with me. He doesn't seem to care about my age all that much now. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, but I'm just saying if we met and everything, would it be wrong for me to be going out with a 19 year old? In my opinion, it's not that bad. I know we could both get in trouble, but he's really sweet. I've talked to a lot of people that I don't know on the internet, and he doesn't seem like one of those guys that only cares about sex. He never tries to talk about it with me like other gross guys do. I was also wondering how I could maybe hint to him when I'm talking to him on the internet again that I like him. I'll probably be talking to him tomorrow night. If we ever met also, what are some suggestions as to where we could meet and hang out since it'll be the first time. If anyone can, please answer! I just want a few suggestions. I'm soo very sorry that this question is so long. And I also know that you'll probably tell me it's a big age difference, but age shouldn't matter if you really like someone right? You could always keep the relationship a secret, and not do anything illegal with that person until your old enough and you know you won't get in trouble. If your nice when you answer, and you give good advice I'll rate you a 5!!!! Thank you so much again, and sorry about the length. :-)

Is the age gap too much? Not to me because age really shouldn't be that much of an issue. But there is the matter of expectations and you will need to deal with that if you do go out with him. At 19, he probably would be wanting or expecting some kind of sexual activity with a girl he went out with. Maybe not all the way, but he is unlikely to be happy for long with just holding hands. So that is a major issue you will have to deal with. I see nothing wrong with you going to the movies with him, dating him, but just don't let his age dominate how fast you move with him. Wait until you are ready and if he isn't willing to wait, then maybe things wont work out. Do not ever let him pressure you or feel like you should because otherwise "he will find a girl that will". That is a crap reason to decide to go all the way.

By the way, keep it simple sure but don't necessarily keep it a secret either. That rather implies there is more going on. If it is just going out and you are not doing anything wrong, there should be no reason to keep it a secret.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you very much! Your advice was really great, and you were really nice. Thanks again! :-)
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