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Age: 19
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There is this girl that I used to be really good friends with but she ended our friendship because she found new friends. I was fine with it because she sort of just stopped hanging out with me because I wasn't "punk enough" to hang out with. I didn't really care that she ended the friendship but now everyday she acts like we are still friends. Today she blew up in me & my friends face because we heard from someone that she was talking about us again (she's done this before and said she would quit because she's scared of me and my new friends) and she started screaming and got this really scared look on her face. Plus yesterday in our Science class me and my friends were talking and talking about my friends religion (Jahoba Witness) and my ex-friend walks over and says "so is that a TV show or something?" and we all told her it was a religion and she said "So you're a Jahoba and a Witness? Well I'm prejudice" We all looked at her in shock and she later told us that she has no idea what prejudice means anyway. The whole problem is that she keeps talking about people and thinks that makes her cool. My friends want to jump her but I don't know what to do. We aren't friends at all not even FWB. She just won't leave me and my other friends alone. How can me and my friends tell her to go away? (link)
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I can understand this girl, she's simply going too far in accepting the stereotypes applied to her specific group. She has yet to learn that one does not have to be mean to people to be punk at all, one just has to stop caring about other people altogether. If she has friends that are truly "punk", they would tell her to just let it go, it isn't worth it. However, there are a lot of kids who *pretend* to be punk, and dress and act like what they think a punk is, regardless of whether it's correct or not.
Try not to blame her. She just wants to be accepted, and she's trying to find her niche, and trying to decide what group to go with. Try not to attack or hate her, but ask her to stop talking shit about you and your friends, because if she keeps doing it you don't know if you can hold them back. You don't need to still be her friend, but try to be understanding and supportive, and insist it's not you saying this, it's just that you know your friends and how much it's pissing you off. This comes across much easier than saying "just go away," which doesn't work for a lot of people - they'll just hate you more and talk more shit. She'll likely stop talking shit because at least you were nice to her :x
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Rating: 5
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Thanks. SHe doesn't understand no matter what you tell her/
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