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Q: just warning you, this may get long!

last night me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years were in my room and sleeping. not fooling around, literally sleeping. then my dad comes in and freaks out bitching like we had sex or something.

the situation is that i'm the only girl in the family and they treat me like crap. i do the dishes almost every night, take care of my sick grandma, do the laundry, clean the house, and do well in school yet they still look down upon me like i can't be trusted. i am a very responsible girl and i have had enough of them snooping through my room and checking up on me.

the only possible reason why i think they could be acting like this is that we don't communicate very well with each other, let alone get along. maybe bitching is their way of talking to me? even so, that doesn't explain the overprotectiveness!

my question is what can i do to make them trust me? i feel like i've done everything, all ending in failure.

i used to really HATE them for what they put me through, but when they made an effort to BE NICE things got better. our relationship has improved over the past two of months, but after what happened last night, my grudge against them has returned.

please help, i don't know what else i can do. it seems like nothing is ever good enough for them...

-frustrated
Well, since you're the only girl in the family, they're really worried about you, specially your father. He's always worried about his "little girl", but you have to make him understand you're not a little girl anymore, youre a lady. Of course they will be over protective and stuff, but you should be proud to be the reponsible one. And some parents dont even care about their kids.
Talk to your brothers and force them to do the dishes. Or you can make a new rule in the family, each washes what he/she used. We do that in our family, and we leave our brother's dish unwashed. Anyway, I think you're having a 'trust' problem with you parents, so confront them, if they say something you dont like, say "why dont you trust me!" with a frustrated tone, to let them know that its upsetting you.

thanks for the advice; i wish my bros would do the dishes, problem is they work. even when they're home my parents claim that washing dishes is a "woman's job". crazy crazy i tell ya. thanks again though girl

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