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Location: Michigan
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Age: 19
AIM: Digitalleech
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Alright,lets start out wit that I have a b/f back where I used to live and I go back there each weekend to see muh friends and him. We have only been together for like 3 weeks but yeah..Anyways, Theres this guy that I used to have some really strong feelings for like in middle school up until like 9th grade and then I moved so I never spoken or seen him so the feelings kinda faded. So last weekend me and 2 of muh friend go to 7*11 n him and 2 friend come in and ask if we wanna drink wit them. SO lata we all get together and ride around and drink and me and him were in the back of the van and I was layin on his lap and we kept lookin at eachother in the eyes for a long time and he kissed me finally after a while..and we juss did a lil makin out and he kiised muh neck..and he said WoW I cant believe it took us this long to hangout. He said this b/c we always have wanted to but are friend werent the same and all that stuff. So yeah we I guess u can say hooked up.But the thing is earlier that night muh "friend" said she was gonna talk to him aout whats up wit me n him and well when she was wit him she kissed him n shit..and i found that out earlier and called him and asked what the was bout and he told me..But my friend is always doin shit like that and always kissin up on guys that DO NOT WANT HER..shes nasty and a whore..SERIOUSLY!!! So im confused b/c I mean that was I guess weird for both of us and when they dropped us off I landed on the drive way and started cryin my eyes out. I waited for that moment FOREVER and I got it..but all those feelings came running back AND I cheated on someone for the FIRST TIME! I juss dont know whats up..I wanna chill wit him again but I dont wanna come off so forward to him and act like im obsessed or somethin cuz I was like that in middle school and I dont wanna be that Kinda person.I dont know how he feels bout it or even if he does..but hes a guy soo yeah know how that goes. I know I have a b/f but muh feelings arent strong like this to him as they are to the other guy.I dont know how to get by wit this or talk to him bout it or anything..I need all the adivce I can get. NOt negative advice but some good stuff..THANKYOU! PLEASE GET BACK TO ME SOON!!
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Ooooh, this is quite the situation.
So, basically, you want this second guy, and not your current boyfriend. Firstly you need to seriously think about this, unless you just want to keep cheating, because you're going to be breaking up with your current bf for someone you see as better. This will, obviously, rather hurt him, so take his personality and such into account and make sure you aren't doing anything that'll come back to bite you in the arse later on. You need to make a choice, and do it now, and as bad as it is, the status quo of bf and cheating IS a choice, just not something I really like to approve of :x
Alright, firstly about your "friend", don't worry about that, unless neither she and this guy were drunk at the time. Alcohol makes you do shit like that, as you've just experienced yourself, it's just stuff that happens. That said, be prepared to have to fend off your friend if you choose this guy and she really starts going after him. Best way to do that is to talk with the guy and have him get kinda physical if she makes a move on him. She'll get pissed and shit but she'll stop (I assume the guy is stronger than her ;x ).
This boy was honest about what he did with your friend, which I like, it sounds like he's really into you. Now, if you don't want to come off as too forward or obsessed, just try to set up another time to hangout, again with friends unless he suggests you hang out alone. Don't push the kissing (or more, if you're really drunk and/or adventurous, lol) unless you do want to come off that way, this guy seems like the type to make moves by himself after enough time and alcohol, so you can let him act. If he doesn't, then you may want to...erm...goad him on a bit, but you don't have to jump on him or anything, just tease him a bit, let him know you want him :x
You should talk to him about it, unless you do a lot of drinking and what you do when drunk embarrasses you, at which time you will need to eventually talk but it's probably a little too soon for you to want to do so ;x . It's just easier if you both are open about your feelings, issues, and how far you want this to go; awkwardness disappears when you both know what the other person wants.
Anything else, you can always ask me personally :x
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Thanks A LOT for your advice..It helps me a lot!
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