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My name is Christina, and I'll try to answer questions honestly, and to the best of my ability. I give pretty good advice, I think.

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Okay, so I said the wrong thing at one point and told my guy I didn't feel like I could trust him (of course, at the time, I was just mad and upset, and everyone says the wrong things/stupid things when they're mad).
The thing was, he lied to me about something totally mundane, and he did it to keep me from worrying, but he can't lie to me worth crap, and I can always tell when he's lying, but I never know what he's lying about.
I have major trust issues because my last guy lied to me, cheated on me, then lied to me about cheating on me and lying to me. Lol. I mean, you'd have trust issues too.
So yesterday we talked, and he said something about maybe taking it a little too fast if I felt I couldn't trust him, and now he wants to refrain from sex...lol. Like, he wants to go back in time to like, right before we had sex. So it'll be physical, but like...not physical.
I asked him every confirmation question I could think of, including "is this leading to some sort of a breakup? If it is, be honest and don't string me along," and he didn't even let me finish before he said "What? No!" like "that's ridiculous". I mean, we've been engaged since august, and we're still engaged - he laughed at me when I sounded all nervous about it - he said "just because I want to go back in time doesn't mean I'm changing the future," so I don't think we're breaking up anytime soon.
But I don't understand the not wanting sex.
I have a couple of ideas - one might've been that every time we've seen each other lately has kinda led to sex because our schedules are so crazy that we never see each other.
Anyone have any other ideas? Thanks in advance for your help.

Okay, he may be just saying that because he wants you to trust him, and he thinks that if he takes things back, maybe he could earn your trust back. If you want the sex to stay, then tell him you'd rather continue having sex, that you would just prefer him telling you the truth, even if it may make you worry.

I hope that helps.

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(Rating: 5) I didn't think of that. Thanks =)
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