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Hey everybody! My name is Ann, and I think I give pretty good advice. I am nineteen, my favorite color is orange, I love pasta, am the oldest child out of five, am Catholic, and am a music education major with flute as my principle. Feel free to ask me anything, and I'll do my best!

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I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track?

Oh man, you have certainly gotten yourself in a bad situation. I know you definatly don't want a lecture, but I just want to say that at 14 you really should not be doing that; however, I think you get that now.

I am fifteen and I know that I would not want that to happen to me, so I do feel your pain. It will be extremely hard to take care of this baby at your young age, but anything beats abortion (which you should not do). If you can support this child (in all honesty), then thats fine. However, it will make things much much harder. If you don't think that you can handle it, you could always put your baby up for adoption. There are always hundreds of couples out there that would love to adopted a child and as hard as it will be to give up, a good agency will make sure your baby has a good home.

I know that this is probably the worst thing you have ever gone through, but do not give up. The mistake was made, and you are ready to deal with it. I hope that whatever decision you make, that both your life and the life of the child you now cary will in the end be wonderful.

Best wishes and prayers,
Ann

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(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot for ur advice!!! i appreciate it... i just didn`t know WHAT to do and i needed sum opinionsz =) thankz
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