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I haven't seen my mother for 9 years, I'm 14. She's been on methampthetamines my entire life. I just got word today of where she is, I talked to her about 3 years ago. I need to go see her so that I can get over the fact that she will never be my mom. I just need some advice on what to say to her, and I really want to tell her to stop doing methampthetamines. I know that I won't be able to help her, but I just need some advice on how to deal with the fact that I will never have her as my mom, and that I will never be able to help her. I know it's hard to answer, but please, if anyone can help me. The pressure is too much, I'm seeing her this weekend. Please help me. I have no one else to turn to.
Ok, I can understand how not having your mom around would put a huge gap in your life. For that i'm sorry. I think that it was very responsible of you to except that she will never be your mother. Are you absolutly positive that you don't want her around, or that she'll leave again? Make sure, because this could be your only real chance to talk with her. I'm not trying to stress you out more though. Try to meet some place private so that you two can really talk. Explain to her calmly that she hasn't been a big part of your life, since she's been gone. Tell her exactly how you feel, but try to avoid blaming her, Phrase things to be 'I' Instead of 'You,' as in "I felt very badly these years." Instead of "You left me alone all these years!" It will make her listen more closley to what you have to say. She also might think that you want to patch things up, and she can be your mom again. So don't spend the whole day with her doing fun things, only to tell her at the end that she can't keep jumping in and out of your life. Get right to the point. Try to be alone with her, having your dad or something around is going to have you both harbor your feelings. Sorry. I hope I could help at least a little. Luck!!
(Rating: 5) Yeah, I never would've thought of that. Thanks!