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im 13 an di have a lot of older guy friends who work at local mall ....one of the guys just happens to be the guy who sold me my cell and he has a wife and a daughter.....another one of my firends is gay.....i just told my mom that everytime i got to the mall i give the cell phone guy a hug....and she got pissed.....this always happens...i swear everybody i kno she thinks iis gonna rape me.....then she told me how she was taken advantage of when she was a year olda than me.....i dont wanna stop givin hugs to the cell phone guy but she getts pissed

what do i do.....i try to assure her that ill be fine but she said if i keep talkin to ppl at the mall she wont let me ever go bakk

Your mom is probablly just worried about you. I know that it can get pretty annoying sometimes. Is there any reason that she has to think that he would rape you? Does he have past offences? Is he more than eight years older than you? Think about these questions first. Hearing your mom tell you how she was taken advantage of has probably changed a lot between you two. But, it's good that you have such an open relationship with each other. I wouldn't stop telling her what you were doing, it would only make you both unhappy. Talk to your mom and reassure her that you will be alright. Try to take a couple of girl freinds to the mall with you, or even invite her to come once or twice to see that everything will be alright. Try to come up with a plan that will work for both of you. Like you can only go in a group with at least one girl. Or you can't go to the mall after 5 pm. Or that you'll call her when you get to the mall, and call before you leave. Even just telling her how long you'll be there. Any of these would show your mom that you're responsible and willing to compromise like an adult, which will put her at ease, and most likely make her loosen up. Good Luck!

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(Rating: 5) great advice thanx hunni
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