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Whenever I'm around guys I get really shy and don't have much to say and then I get insecure and it's hard to be myself. So now all the guys at my school probably think I'm like really snobby or stuck up or something because I'm so quiet. Like there have been a few guys this year that have tried to be friends with me, but I just didn't know what to say around them, so they just kind of stopped talking to me. Help!!!

hey -- we've all had that problem. but wait,, they think you're snobby or stuck up because you're QUIET?!?! oh you said probably, so i'm pretty sure they don't think that! anyways, a good technique is.. that whenever you get insecure, try to vision the guy as one of your girl friends -- ok don't give up now, because i kno its hard but it WORKS if you do it right -- and just talk to them.. another good way is to surround yourself with good friends that aren't so full of them selves, and make sure you approach a guy casually (not like a mob) and if he's alone, you might want to talk to him alone so he wouldn't feel so intimidated. To keep talking to them, get a s/n if you haven't already, and this boosts friendship to the maxx, because you dont have to see them when you talk to them and it gives you time to think up something funny or good to say. Hey, you can do it! Go up to those guys you havent talked to in a while and say hey! come on.. Boys are people too, you know? try to make this big deal *something smaller* Hope i helped, and GOOD LUCK!

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