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Q: im sort of taking everyones advice.. everyone told me to talk to him and i did.. and he told me to wait for him.. and i tried doing that.. but im finally letting him go.. im changing my life now.. im letting more and more go.. and im just being more open with people.. i realized that i shouldnt just be there when he needs me.. and maybe i was moving to fast.. so now im just letting go.. and im actually happy.. im meeting a lot of new people.. and he is now telling me that he wants to go out with me.. but i dont want to.. cause im having fun right now.. im living my life the way i want to.. now how do i tell him that im not into him anymore.. i mean ive told him.. but i think that he thinks im lying.. and ive told him.. and ive told him millions of times.. and he doesnt seem to understand.. and its like im having new guy friends.. and most of them are starting to like me.. i mean its kool that one or two of them like me.. but man.. im kind of not used to this.. i know it might sound weird.. but im not really wanting all of this attention.. i mean yea i changed.. but i didnt change myself for everyone to talk to me.. like they do now.. i feel like im losing some people this way.. and im gaining others.. so i guess im asking more then one question...
how do i tell the guy that i really dont want to go out with him?? and get him to really understand??
how do i get all of the new guys to stop likeing me.. without telling them to stop liking me??
should i be happy that im getting new friends?? but then at the same time losing old ones??
and anything else that is in that.. please help..
Hey sweetie. I'm glad that you let go, I'm trying to do that at the moment too maybe you could help me later on what to do with that lol. Well anyways back to your questions. Well you told him you don't like him like that anymore and he doesn't believe you? Huh? Yeah he thinks that your always going to be there when he wants you to, when you have in the past. You can't do anything really except talk to him and you did that. Eventually he will get it, he may be a little upset but he does have to realize that you aren't always going to be there. And to get the new guys to stop liking you? Well just don't act to interested, you can still be friends with them but just don't give off the vibe that you want to go out with them. Don't shut yourself off completely because someone you really like may come along. I think you should be happy your getting new friends. Change is always good. I know the feeling of loosing old friends isn't good but maybe they are drifting away because they think you don't have time for them because you are with new people. Try to find time for everyone. Hope I helped.

thanks for the advice.. and yea of ocurse ill be her when you need help.. just ask.. or even if you dont ill be there.. thanks again..

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Hey guyz!! I'm Ryah-which is short for Mahryah but all my friends call me Ryah so you people can! :) lol Well I'm 17 years old and I'm a senior in high school and I live in Maryland! I love to help people and I try as best as I can and I'm not rude and ignorant like some people on this site! So if anyone wants any help and don't want to post it for the public then send me a message and I'll try and help you! Love yahs!

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