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Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!

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Well your in a sticky stich!! On the one hand you could totally hook up with him for play but that could leave you heartbroken again or you could totally not hook up and give yo uthe wondering "what ifs" and obviously not getting a piece! Ok I would say see if he calls you first, ya know to see if he is at all interested? And obviously if you guys hooked up and broke up because he was going away to school (totally understandable) and he hooked up after you it wasnt because he wanted to hurt you he probably just wanted a piece and knew where to find it. But what you should do is see if he calls you first and see if he makes an effort to see you or talk to you maybe you could try and talk with him and say that (if you actually do want a piece) then you two can hook up for thanksgiving just on a sexual basis, so then you kind of remind yourself that you shouldnt let feelings get involved! (which can be soo hard!!) So basically its up to you now, you can hook up with him and keep reminding yourself that its just sexual, like maybe afterwards just remind yourself that it was totally just friends hooking up for some play, helping each other out, doing a ...sexual favour? haha :P Or you could put strength in your words and turn him down because then you wont have this sticky situation when he comes home for Xmas...new years.. If it were me I would try to find my deepest strength and turn him down because just think in a couple of weeks he'll be back and you'll be in a deeper trouble cause he'll be home for longer.... hmmm I hope i helped!

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(Rating: 5) man that's awesome advice-thanks again for reading through it and giving me your advice on it...why do guys have to make life so difficult?
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