I give my friends a lot of advice on a variety of different things and while I'm at work, I tend to be quite bored and don't have much to do so I was surfing the net and found this site and thought it might be interesting. I've been through a lot...so I think I can help some people out...
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I have a new boyfriend at university, but I find myself keeping this news from my friends at home because I don't want it to get back to my ex-boyfriend, becase he is in a very fragile place at the moment and it would really hurt him to find out that I've moved on to somebody else. What I'm trying to do is protect my ex-boyfriend, because I still care about him and don't want to hurt him any more than is necessary, but I feel bad for misleading him and my other friends. Would it be better to just come clean, even if it hurts him in the short term, or should I wait until he's in a better place until I break the news? (link)
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If you don't tell your friends and ex now they might feel betrayed by you later for keeping a secret from them. However, its not really their business. If they ask don't lie, but you don't need to go out of your way to tell them. Let them mention it first if that's easier.
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Thank you. The comment about my friends feeling betrayed is very true. I don't want to keep stuff from them, but at the same time, I don't want to drag them in to it and expect them to keep stuff from my ex-boyfriend, who they are friends with.
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