My mother's speech on my wedding day, "...my daughter is wise beyond her years, and has been more of a mother to me than I have to her..."
It was a touching moment for me, and a realisation that she was probably right.
I'm 28 yrs old, and helping people is the most rewarding feeling for me.
I have had my share of downs, and lived to tell the tale. Amongst just some of the hurdles I faced in my life: my attempted suicide, harrased by my fathers ex lover for 2 years, my father's many affairs (at least 6), my mother's breakdown which left me to fend for myself as a 14 year old along with my 3 month old sister at the time. Seeing my friend murdered, having aother friend commit suicide, disovering 4 new half brothers and sisters.
After everything life threw at me, I have managed to come out a stronger person, and much much wiser. Sometimes the going get's rough and I feel helpless and frustrated, but I always bounce back.
I'm here to give advice as best I can, and pride myself on having always given fair, and objective advice - even when it was to very close friends, and my advice wasn't in their favor.
Gender: Female
Location: Johannesburg, South Africa
Occupation: Personal Assitant, wife & stepmom
Age: 28
Member Since: October 27, 2004
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HI,
this is regarding my question on Confused.. Just recently. I don't hear from him, no calls, no txt messages no e-mails where he is.. I dont' get it. hes hanging me on the line.. I mean.. if he didnt wanna talk or be with me he should at least tell me someway or another. I told him.. I don't like whats goin on etc.. and ive txt messaged him to message me back.. but no replies from him.. why is he doing this... he told me b4 that he still wants to be with me.. etc.. and his friends know about me.. he says.. so what can be the problem.. I try telling myself that hes just bz and has things he needs to doo so he cant talk to me rite now. but I know its a lie... :( I need some advice from you.. can u help me out.. pls...
-ss (link)
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Girl, I really don't mean to be harsh to you... but, he is totally playing you.
Simply put, he is a coward, and although he told you he wants to be with you, by not answering your calls, txt msg's etc, he is too much of a coward to be straight forward with you. He probably doesn't know how to tell you that it is over. Some guys (in fact most guys) just don't know how to vocalise their feelings. And from what you have said, it is definitely over!
My friend, the only advice I can give you, is to try to forget about him and move on. Don't humiliate yourself by running after him, especially if he's not responding. Stop lying to yourself, and be truthful.
Just let him go. If things are meant to be, then he will be in touch with YOU, not the other way round. You have made enough of an effort.
As hard as it might be for you, just let him be.
And keep your chin up! Remember that every pot has it's lid. It doesn't sound like this is the lid for your pot...
Good luck to you... just holler if you need any more advice.
:o)
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HI,
is there a way I can get in touch with you besides this site? maybe e-mail of some sorts.
-ss
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