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okay my [guy] best friends girl friend, who is also my friend since 8th grade, is talking HELLA shit about me...shes always thought that hes liked me more than friends but he doesnt at all..me and him have been best friends for a really long time and me and her have hung out in the same group of friends since 8th grade but weve never been close..ive talked to her many times about if she has a problem with me and why and it always gets resolved but then shell start talking about me after a few weeks after that..im gunna talk to her tomorrow i think because this time shes really over done it..to my face she kisses my ass and acts all fake n stuff and even comes to me for advice on her and her bf/my best friend and im sick of it..whut shold i do without causing drama, etc??
Look.
She is obviously jealous of your closeness with your best friend and is venting by stirring up trouble. She is also weak-minded and intimidated. Take this to your advantage.
Don't bother being nice or sweet to her. Go up to her, make straight eye-contact and tell her 'Look, if you have a problem, I suggest you come to me instead of embarrassing yourself any further with your feeble-minded gossip. If you want to be mature about this, you quit talking behind my back and we can either resolve this conflict right now and you can stop talking about me or you can deal with the fact that I am close friends with your boyfriend, who happens to be my best friend and suck it up. Just because you're threatened by MY presence and existence, doesn't mean you have the right to blab about me. Grow some fucking balls and have the decency and maturity to tell me what the hell it is you want from me to my face."
There. It's that simple. She'll probably tell some people you're a bitch and then your life will seem a little simpler because people won't cross your path. At least you can say you had the courage to be upfront, unlike her. You'll embarrass her like no tomorrow!
There is no other way. You can't ignore her since she is dating your best friend and if you are nice to her, she'll assume that it is her right to walk all over you.
Or, you can just ignore the fact that she blabs about you and go by your day. At least you will look more civil than her.
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