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I have to drink coffee every day to survive. I don't drink a ton of it, probably two cups a day in the morning. My friends and I used to have a day we'd call "detox thursday" where we wouldn't drink coffee all day, but I was starting to hate detox thursdays because I felt tired and grumpy all day so I quit doing it with them. Does this mean I'm addicted? Is coffee really that bad for me? It's way better than soda, right? (link)
Hmm... welcome to coffee addiction...

Life with coffee isn't too bad, and I drink way less soda as a coffee addict now (maybe once every couple of weeks), so it probably has a net good effect on my health. Apparently a little milk or cream in your coffee reduces its staining power if you're worried about that. Eating properly seems to reduce the coffee breath problem, so take your coffee with food.

If you want to cut down on your coffee consumption, you should go gradually rather than detoxing. You can also switch to a darker roast of coffee if it's caffeine you're worried about. Generally, the darker the roast, the less caffeine. I find darker roasts taste better, too. I know the brewing method you choose influences the caffeine level, but I don't have details on that.


I want to have a party and I want to serve cheese, but I don't think plain old cheddar is very classy or interesting. What are some other good cheeses I can serve just cut up as cubes, that people might not have tried before but will still like? (link)
Havarti is a nice mellow cheese that cuts nicely. A little chewier and less sharp than cheddar, and with tiny holes in it.

Stilton is definitely in the moldy, exciting cheese category but is really good with graham crackers or fruit. It's probably going to be hard to get into cubes without crumbling.

Brie is a great party cheese, mellow on the inside with a slightly sharp-tasting crust, but is usually served in one wedge, off of which people hack bits and spread them on their fresh-baked baguettes.

Aged cheddar (3 year is great) is barely recognizable compared to regular old cheddar and is a favourite of mine. Except for the really old stuff, it cubes well too.


I just got a new job and the health care system is weird. I can choose to either pay $30 a month or $15 a month. If I pay $30 a month, the company pays for all my health care over $1600, if I spend more than that in the year. If I pay $15 a month, the company doesn't start paying until after $2800. I'm healthy and don't think I'll need more than $1600 for the year, so I think I might go with the cheap plan and save on my monthly payments. But I'll be screwed if something happens to me, like I fall off a bridge and need $4000 surgery, because I'll have to spend $2800 total instead of $1600. What would you do? (link)
Would having to come up $2800 all at once be an insurmountable challenge? If something bad (like $2800 bad) happens in the next 7 years or so, it'd be worth it to shell out for the better plan. I don't know too much about pricing in the US, but if you're doing regular check-ups and dentist's appointments, that's some amount, say $200, off the deductible already.

More insurance is nice, because savings month-to-month tend not to feel like much at the time, whereas paying 75% more for your surgery while recovering from that hypothetical fall off a bridge (or whatever) is just too much bad news all at once.


I have been divorced for almost a year, and have been seeing a guy from work for almost a year, but used to he would always want to be around me, touch me etc., now i almost have to force him to do anything. he says he still has the same feelings for me and the thing is that when we get into an arguement he always tells me to shut up, that I am f-ing stupid, or go to He@@. He always opologizes and I know he has had a really rough childhood, both parents dying, his dad shot his mom right in front of him and his grandad used to beat him, I can deal with thie emotional rollercoaster with him anymmore, should i try to work it out or kick him out?????

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He's recalcitrant except when he wants to yell at you? You can forgive if you want, but don't stick around in that toxic situation. Show him the door!




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