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Hi Advicenators.
I'm 15 years old. I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months now. We have a slight on and off relationship, but it's been good for a few months now. We are both virgins.
We are in love. There is no doubt about that.
We are 100% open with each other sexually, we have done everything but penetration sex. if something embarrassing happens, it's totally okay, we continue and laugh it off.
Recently, we both really started wanting sex. But I'm TERRIFIED of a condom breaking, and me getting pregnant. Please help me. I'm just so scared. But I really am ready for sex. I can't get on birth control by the way. Any advice

Why can't you get on birth control? If you go to a place like Planned Parenthood, you can get it for free and without your parents ever finding out.

When properly used, condoms are 98% effective. However, in reality, the number is much, much lower, since a lot of things can go wrong. If you're on birth control, it makes the chances of getting pregnant much smaller. If you're as scared as you say you are, maybe you aren't ready. There's really no hurry, you are pretty young, and definitely couldn't handle a baby at your age, right? If you can't get on birth control (and still use condoms and pulling out), I don't recommend having sex at all.


(Rating: 5) Thanks. & Because the closest planned parenthood is an hour away, and my mom would die if she found out.

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