This Is Me. Take it - Or Leave it
I'm Emily
I'm 18 years young
I can be a bit straight forward but it comes from the heart
I'm moving to Florida next week!
I have a Jeep and it is very sexy.
I'm a little short for my liking
I am an aspiring model
I'm going to college for massage therapy, but am hoping to get into the entertainment business.
I used to be on my highschool's fencing team, and I miss it a whole lot ::sigh::
I used to fence with a sabre.
Art is my life
Andy Warhol is AMAZING!
I'm obsessed with tattoos and piercings
I am a guitarist, a photographer, a painter, and an artist.
I'm a loner, I'm a loser but I like it that way.
My friends and family mean the world to me.
I have 3 dogs.
I've been through more than I should.
I've been told I'm too adult for my age.
I'll answer your questions if you need it [=

Words of advice on love:
- Don't ever let someone tell you that you are not in love.
- If you say that you THINK you're in love, then you aren't. If you really feel it, then you are.
- Never let someone judge your relationship unless they know FACTS.
- To me, age is not an issue. If you are 13 and dating a 30 year old, then it's a big deal. If it's 5 or 6 years, not a big deal.
- If you are being abused mentally/physically GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Don't give the excuse that he apologized. If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you.

I'm not a fan of answering questions that are listed in the FAQ. If it's a question you can look up on Google then please, look it up on google. Don't be lazy.

I do not like when people have issues with typing.

iif u typ3 liik3 thiiz iit piissesz m3 0ff. Alot.


I'm 17 & been with my boyfriend who's 18 for awhile now and we have an amazing connection. Our relationship is healthy, fun, and still growing. I'm a virgin, he's not. He's not exactly pressuring me, but when we're both in the mood he'll want to go further. I feel like I lead him on too. How do I tell him it will happen but for now, I'm not ready and pressuring me doesn't help.

You say exactly what you told us.

"It will happen eventually, but for right now I'm not ready and with you pressuring me it's not helping me."

If he cares about you, he'll understand and respect your wishes.


so i really like ashlees new hair. can someone give me some links to sites or some CURRENT pictures of ashlee simpson with her long hair and her new nose.

ill rate high!



im having revival at my church all this week. i forgot to ask off from work, and im the type of person that hates to inconvenience people. i got someone to work for me monday. my only two days are today and friday. today, im supost to be training a new girl(about the 5th one theyve had me train),so, their definetely gonig to be inconvenienced. plus, tomorrow,i have a family graduation party to go to. i just feel bad asking for the whole week off, and inconveniencing them. any ideas on what i can say?

Just tell them the truth. Tell them that it's somewhere you HAVE to be, and you have no way of getting out of it. You can also say that you are visiting family members and your parents forgot to tell you about it early enough for you to take off of work. Apologize a million times, normally, if it's family related they will be a bit more lenient.


Hey everyone!

Im buying thongs for the first time this week,and i heard they were a little on the high side.I just wanted to know where yall get yours and what stores have the best and decent prices for them like say for example,4 thongs for 10 something like that thanks a bunch!

Mandee 5 for 12

Macy's (depending on brand) 3 for 20 or 4 for 20

JC Penny, not so sure, I don't buy mine from there, but trust me they aren't expensive.

Sears about the same or less as Macy's

Victoria's secret 5 for 25 or 3 for 20 (if they are the lacey ones).

Happy Thong Shopping!


Hey! Long time no see. This is sbloemeke, by the way, if you remember me. :)
Alright, so onto the question.
I have a friend, let's call her Mary. I met her through Helplink here, believe it or not, when we were both mentors. I IMed her a month after adding her to find out who she was, and she was wondering the same thing. Well, we became friends after that, and eventually we learned that we share a brain wave, and really don't need to talk too much about emotions because we know exactly what the other person is feeling.
Well, she had always been a bit on the depressive side of the spectrum, but nothing major until recently. She would have her times where she wanted to die, but the thought of me and what I'd feel ended up stopping her from doing it. It worked the same with me, by the way.
Well, recently she had some problems. She got into a bit of trouble with the school for cutting classes, which she never did. The school didn't listen to her, her parents, other students, or other teachers. As a result, she could have lost credits and in the end not graduated. I don't know if she lost the credits, but I know she has a bunch of detentions at lunch and on Saturdays. She still seemed fine and had a hope at winning orchestra president, and she worked so hard at it. She lost, and that is the point where I really began to become afraid.
Mary just stopped IMing me then. I never heard from her, even in E-Mail, and I usually got a IM from her once every 3 days, and I sent one every 3 days, about. I IMed her yesterday, and the result absolutely shocked me. She changed completely. She doesn't care anymore, she is isolating herself to stop problems, she is amazingly calm, and she is considering leaving her school which she loves for a private school.
Now, I have been mentoring people for one and a half years, so I see stages in a person. Unfortunately, I have never seen a person in this state who ever survives more than three weeks afterwards, unless they are put into a hospital. And even after they get out, they usually kill themselves 3 weeks or so after getting out. It does nothing at this point. And there is nothing I think anyone can do.
I am really upset. I am upset for her, I am upset for her friends, and I am upset that one of my truest, closest friends is probably going to be dead in only a matter of time. I don't know what to do. I can't call their hospital or psychiatric ward since I do not live there, I do not know the number, and my parents would lock ME up if they ever found out any of this. I also would feel awful if I find out that was a game with me or anything along those lines. I cannot tell any of her friends, because I have not ever talked to any one of them, and don't know how to contact them.
So, I am left with counseling her myself to see somebody or try to help her on my own. However, the last time I did that, I broke down. I witnessed her nervous breakdown, and I couldn't do anything to help it. I tried to give positive remarks, but I just was mentally decapacitated after that hour, and I was doing more harm than good at that time. I broke down myself, and almost killed MYSELF on the spot there. So, that is out of question as well.

So, I have a rock and a hard place to choose from. Yet, if I don't choose, my life is guilt from here on out.

What do I do?

You can't blame yourself for anything that happens to her. Because, in reality, people will do as they please no matter what anyone says.

Maybe you are wrong about her, maybe by her isolating herself from things it's a way for her to refocus herself, and by going to a new school is a chance for her to start out new. I've been in situations where I just stopped talking to people, isolated myself from the world practically, and I'd sit in my room and play guitar and cry. THAT was my therapy.

Different people have different ways of dealing with their problems and their emotions. And it is completely unnecessary for you to consider ending your OWN life due to someone else's problems. Think of how many times one of your best friends has had a nervous break down. Now, if every time that happened and you considered ending your own life... I would say that you would have needed to speak to someone.

I lost a friend a year and a half ago. I blamed myself because I said that only if I was there with her at that party, she would still be alive today. You can't keep going and blaming yourself. When someone is born, their clock already starts ticking. They only have a certain amount of time to live on this earth. Once that time runs out, there's nothing you can do. When it's their time to go, it's their time to go.

You need to tell her that her problems right now are only temporary, and by ending her life it's a permanent solution to temporary problems. Things are ALWAYS going to get worse before they get better. So, once she feels like she's hit rock bottom, she may feel like that for a little while longer but things will start getting better for her.


PLEASE !!! i need to find a good (which means NOT ghetto/crappy/cheapo) acting/modeling agaency! does anyone have ANY ideas???? I rate 5's...helpful or not!
**I live in the Columbia, South Carolina area...


You can look at ANY place there. Call ahead of time and ask them what they charge. If they ask you to pay money up front DO NOT GO THERE IT IS A SCAM!! Real modeling agencies such as Ford Models and Industry Models they don't ask you to pay money upfront. If they do, it's just a scam. All they want is your money.

So, if someone asks you for money what do you do?! NOT GO THERE! My mom was scammed out of 5000 + dollars from the Barbizon agency. I went there for a year. Never did I get any auditions, pictures taken. NOTHING. I went to these lame acting classes where she didn't teach you diddily squat. So, just be careful.


I'm not worried about my weight but I'm just curious... I've been keeping track of my weight daily, and sometimes the scale gives back some weird numbers. Like, I've heard that it's unhealthy to lose more than 1 or 2 pounds a week, but I'll go to bed one night and wake up 4 pounds lighter. It's so strange. Has anyone else had this happen to them? Or is my scale messed up? Or am I just weird? Thanks ahead!

If you are weighing yourself at night, and you've just eaten dinner, your stomach is still full and has not fully digested your food yet. When you wake up in the morning, you've fully digested your food and you tend to weigh less.

Try this, before you go to bed, push out your stomach to make it look like you are pregnant, or at least attempt to. See how far it goes out. When you wake up in the morning, do it again and I will tell you, it won't go out even the slightest bit.

You're not weird, it's normal. And I doubt it's unhealthy to lose more than 1 to 2 pounds a week. People can drop 5 pounds in 3 days. Maybe even less. Just by using the toilet or not eating you can lose like 3 pounds.

You're scale is not messed up, nor are you weird. It's nothing to worry about.


wat r som synonyms for the word 'said'? im writing a narrative piece for LA class n im really stupid with this stuf. i have:


and that is it. i checked the thesaurus on dictionary.com but it doesnt really help.

i appreciate it. kbyee



ok i had my first period on may 1. it lasted for about six days and after that it was just light discharge...and now after over a month its just discharge and my period hasnt come back... should i be worrying??

Nope. The first time you get your period, the first 3-4 years it most likely will not be in a one month schedule. Your body needs time to figure itself out and get things situated. It's completely normal for it to not come back. One of my friends get's hers once every 3-4 months. I can get mine twice in a month, skip 3 months then get it for the whole month. It's quite annoying. Give it about a year and if things don't change, and you're aggrivated by it you could always talk to your mother and see if you could visit a gynecologist to see if they can put you on birth control pills to put your period on a schedule.


Is color gaurd popular like cheerleader, because my sister said that it was like being a cheerleader, but i dont know if that is true or not?
So, my question is this basically:
Are color gaurd people treated like how the cheerleaders are? (popular or not?)
Thanks ahead of time?


Well, it depends on your school.

Being in color guard is being part of the band. It's definately not being like a cheerleader. Yes, there is choreography but you just twirl flags. I'm not saying it's not complicated, because it can be. But cheerleading is alot more athletic than colorguard. And being in the colorguard, since you are part of the band, you may be considered a band geek. Depends on the reputation your band has in your school. In my school, they are well respected so being in color guard isn't something you'll be made fun of.


how do you uplaod a picture on myspace?

By your picture (or the sillouette of a person) you will see a link that says Upload/Change photos. Click there, the bar at the top that says browse click on that and find the file path to your picture and press upload.


Ok, so my friend and I had this really huge argument last night over which brand was better: Hollister or Abercrombie and Fitch. She thinks Hollister's way better, I think Abercrombie's waaay better. What do y'all think?(o yea, then there's my other friend who thinks American Eagle's better)

Well, that's a dumb arguement. It's all a matter of opinion.

Personally, I like Hollister. I like the SoCal prep look. It's cute. And Hollister isn't as rediculously overpriced as Abercrombie. Polos in Hollister are 25. Abercrombie they are 40. That's kinda outrageous to me. The jeans are better quality and better fitting to me too. My two favorite stores are American Eagle and Hollister. And Hot topic. But obviously, you weren't arguing about Hot Topic.

My vote is for Hollister. All the way =)


Dear Columnists,
I need help really bad. Last weekend I was at a sleepover with me and my 2 other friends. They are my best friends. I was talking to my -ex and he said that he liked my friend...(one of the ones that was sleeping over)They went out for a while and I cried the whole time. She broke up with him because she felt bad ad that she did want this kid to Jepordise our friendship. She is giving me time but I feel inside as I never want them to get back together...Even though I am being selfish. I still love him! We have been off and on for a little. What should I do?

Srry it was SO long.

I rate 5's for good answers!


You're not being selfish. It's messed up that someone who is supposed to be your best friend dated your ex.

Even if you were over him, it's still messed up. Your "best friends" aren't supposed to take what you just had. That's just wrong. I was with my ex for almost 2 years, and though I am over him and I have moved on and so has he I would be DEVASTATED if I found out that one of my friends was dating him. That's like, a total shot to the heart. If I were in your position, I would have already said my fuck you's to your friend and your ex. That's really messed up. I would have just said that they she wasn't a true friend to go and do that. Especially if she knows that you weren't over him.

Even if she didn't know you weren't over him, she shouldn't have just gone out with him unless she talked to you about it. That's just my opinion.

I think you need to figure things out with your ex, find out what his feelings are and ask him where you stand in his life right now. Because, if he has no feelings then what the hell is the point of having you go through the heartache thinking that there's still something left in the relationship that you can salvage?


Does anyone know the best brand for liberty spikes?
Because,im not sure.

I think your question is what is the best brand of GEL to use for liberty spikes?

If so, try using Got2B Glued. You can find it at Wal*Mart it's around 5-6 bucks. My brother uses it to spike his hair.. And he has pretty long hair. It holds up for a LOOOONG time.


I'm doing this thing for my boyfriend for our one year aniversary...and well I need 365 reason why I love him. However I'm having a terrible time with creativity. So if you could just tell me some of the things you love about your Bf/Gf/crush that would be great. I won't steal your ideas, I'm hopeing they will remind me of my guy


Oh I remember doing something like this with my ex! We both came up with a list of 100 reasons why we love eachother. And I'm letting you know, getting to 365 reasons could be nearly impossible.

Anyway, here is my list of reasons that I had:

Sure, you can steal a few ideas from there. But think of all the cute things that he has done for you and stupid things that you two have done together. Add a few inside jokes in there too.

I love the way you smile at me
I love the way you play with my hair
I love the way you kiss my lips
I love how you seem to always find my hand
I love how you always cover my eyes when there is a snake or spider on TV so I donâ??t get scared
I love when I kiss your neck you pull away cause you think Iâ??m tryna give you a hickey ; )
I love when I say good night to you on the phone
I love when you call me after we fight
I love when you kiss me when I cry
I love that youâ??re amazing at everything you do
I love that you play soccer
I love that youâ??re ALMOST as obsessed with Spongebob and your car than you are with me
I love when you talk to me about computer stuff and I have no clue what youâ??re saying
I love when you nibble my lip when we kiss
I love when we dance to our song, you whisper â??I love youâ?? in my ear
I love when you try to sing even though youâ??re terrible at it
I love when you try to dance and canâ??t
I love how you hate to dance but youâ??ll dance with me to our song
I love how you call me first thing in the morning
I love how you love me
I love how I lay on you and you keep your arms around me
I love when you try to act mad at me, you canâ??t stay mad
I love when we have dinner at your house you always get me my drink
I love how you pick me up when you hug me
I love when you kiss my nose
I love when weâ??re on the phone and you play our song just to make me cry
I love when you tell me Iâ??m beautiful even when I look like shit
I love that youâ??re insanely smart
I love that you NEVER take down that god damn Sin City poster of those flippinâ?? hookers
I love how you help me out when we play retarded video games
I love how you couldnâ??t figure out to open your trunk and I had to do it for you
I love that you trust me
I love that you canâ??t stay mad at me
I love the feeling when I wake up I know youâ??re thinking of me
I love when we feed each other popcorn
I love it when you share your candy J
I love how you spin me around when we dance in the rain
I love when I stand on your feet and we try to dance like that
I love that you can look me in the eyes, tell me you love me, and mean it
I love those stupid sponge bob boxers you wear
I love that your obsessed with Star Wars
I love that you think my dog looks like an Ewok
I love it when we take naps together
I love when weâ??re in the pool and we try to kiss under water, but we never do it right
I love that we can be retarded together
I love that you hate taking pictures
I love that you are a pain in the ass 99% of the time
I love trying to get close at the movie theater, but we cant cause the stupid arm rest is in the way
I love when you get jealous that I talk to other guys
I love that youâ??ll watch girlie movies with me
I love when you think some scenes in The Notebook are sweet
I love that you care a lot about Sam
I love how you always defend me when your brother makes fun of me
I love how you can come up with 100 reasons why you love me in 45 minutes
I love when you write me poems
I love when you send me romantic songs or songs that remind you of me
I love how youâ??re the Michael to my Jackie
I love how youâ??re the Pokey to my Gumbie
I love that you love my Jackie face
I love you being my Jedi Knight
I love when you make me watch every God damn star wars movie
I love when you let me wear your sweatshirt
I love that face you make when I run my fingers through your hair
I love how youâ??re the only one I let touch my feet
I love when you give me foot massages
I love when you rub my back
I love when you text me in the middle of class to tell me you got a hat trick and then donâ??t explain what it is
I love when you call me in the middle of the night to make sure I went to sleep
I love when you call just to say hi
I love when you save the last bit of chocolate just for me
I love getting butterflies before I see you
I love feeling like every kiss is our fist kiss all over again
I love when we snuggle under the blanket
I love writing every song about you
I love when after I see you, I canâ??t stop thinking about you
I love that kiss we share when we havenâ??t seen each other in a week
I love the feeling I get in my stomach when we kiss
I love listening to your heart beat
I love looking into your eyes and getting lost in them
I love how you sneeze like a NINJA
I love when you kiss my nose
I love when you attempt to put makeup on me
I love when you let me sit on your lap when youâ??re on the computer
I love when we fake argue and call each other names
I love when itâ??s 10:22 and you say â??Happy 10:22â??
I love the smell of you after you get out of the pool
I love that you know what color my hair is. People have trouble with that
I love when you let me rest my head on you in the car
I love falling asleep with you in the car
I love when you pick me up and bring me upstairs
I love being able to be myself around you
I love that you try to put my needs before yours
I love it when youâ??re there to catch me when I fall
I love waking up next to you
I love watching Nip/Tuck with you
I love thinking of reasons why I love you
I love the way we kiss after we make up
I love when you send me emails
I love how when you say I love you Emily Nichole you spell out my middle name
I love everything about you


Does anyone know how to get your myspace off private?

- Click on 'Account Settings' right next to your picture.

- Go to 'Privacy Settings' (5th one down)

- Under Who Can View My Profile you can select whichever your prefrence is.

If that doesn't work, and your profile has you listed as being under 16, you can go and change your age to 16 or older. Any profile with a person under 16 is automatically set as private.

If yours is set as that, you can click on --

"Who Can View My Full Profile"
- My Friends Only
- Anyone under 18 on MySpace

Those are the only two options for it.


hi okaii im 14 and i have had it for about a year and ahlaf or sumtin like that... and like i got it the last on may 15 and it ended the 21st... now its june 1st and i have it again??? its been 10 days is this normal??

The first 3-4 years you get your period it will not be on an exact one month schedule. So yes, it is completely normal for this to be happening. It may have never happened to you before, but it happens sometimes.

If you are not sexually active, then really, there's nothing to worry about.

Also, if this happens again you can talk to your mother and ask her to bring you to a gynecologist and have you put on birth control pills to regulate your period. Your gynecologist can give you other advice on what to do as well.


im 13.
i just got my frist period this morning.
i dont wanna tell my mom! should i keep it low for a while? or no..?
i took some of my sis's pads.

There is absolutely no reason to keep it from your mother. Remember, she's a woman too. She had been through the SAME thing when she was your age. If you really think about it, it's stupid to keep it from your mom. I mean, who would know better about getting a period than a woman who has had it for most of her life?

All you need to tell her is "Hey mom... I've got some news. I got my first period today."

She'll do either one of 3 things:

Scream and freak out saying MY LITTLE GIRL IS A WOMAN NOW!

Say, oh congradulations honey and not make a big deal about it.

Or give you a dollar and say cool (Like my mom).

No need to be nervous about telling your mom. She can also give you advice on how to keep yourself clean down there while getting your period. Not anything to worry about =) Best of luck to you.


i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person?

First of all, do not jump to the conclusion that you are pregnant. Trust me, I know plenty of girls who have been there and freak out about it.

Number one, you need to take a pregnancy test if you have not taken one already.

If you feel that you may have had, or could have a miscarriage you need to still take another pregnancy test.

Wait it out, if you get your period you probably are not pregnant. But also keep in mind that women CAN get a period while they are pregnant. Just because you get your period, does not mean that you automatically are not pregnant.

Again, you need to wait it out. Wait about a week and if you do not get your period take a pregnancy test and see what happens. At this point if you truely are pregnant you should be getting a much more accurate reading on a home pregnancy test. You cannot know for sure if you've had a miscarriage this far along.

Once you have found out FOR A FACT that you are pregnant you might want to start with the father of your future child. Let him know that there is something you need to tell him and you don't want him to be angry or freak out, but that you are pregnant. He won't take it well, I can tell you that much right now. He'll either get A) Mad or B) Really upset/ nervous. Once you've done that, tell HIS parents together that you are. After that, tell yours. Tell your parents that you were sorry you were so stupid (if you insult yourself it makes it sound better) for making such a huge mistake.

But also keep in mind-- When you have sex NO MATTER WHAT THERE IS ALWAYS A CHANCE OF PREGNANCY! My friend could be known as an "accident". He was concieved while his mother was on birth control and his father used a condom. So, no matter what there is always a chance. But not to sound like a bitch, it is YOUR fault that you may be pregnant. YOU made the decision to have sex so YOU have to deal with the consequenses. Having sex was meant for reproduction, not just the pleasure of teenagers. It's harsh, but the truth.

I agree with you on not getting an abortion. It's wrong. However, giving it up for adoption is not. There are so many couples in this world incapable of having children and you were able to have one so why not give them something they can't have?

But for right now PLEASE do not stress yourself out, the more stressed you are, the more likely you are to have a miscarriage. And once again, WAIT IT OUT! Take another test in a week and see what happens. If you get your period within the next week, when you've finished your period take a test. Whatever the outcome of the test, it's probably correct.

Best of luck to you and I hope all goes well for you and telling your parents if you are pregnant.

Keep me updated if you wish



Alright so i want to, but i'm afraid i'm going to cut myself or something, and this sounds wierd but the hair is like in there growing out, so how would i shave that?

First of all, if your pubic hairs are long, you need to cut them first so that it's easier to shave. Once you've done that, take a razor that you have used at least 2 times (A new one will cut you up like crazy) and shave SLOWLY and gently one spot at a time until you've shaved to your liking. After shaving, you should put lotion on there (sounds weird I know, but trust me). If you don't, your first time it will be incredibly itchy and you will get horrid razor burn.


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