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I cheated on my husband cause i felt abanden lonely.not sexy but i met this guy and we use to talk.and made me felt wanted again but not.even a.week.later he asked to borrow money so i said k then.1 month later again and i said no. Then he tells me he had sex with his ex.and ask to borrow money again i told him no and he dont answer.his.calls no more is that all he.wanted to make me.feel loved and.wanted just to use me (link)
He preyed on your vulnerability and was only in it for sex and money. He knows you needed to feel loved so he acted as though he were providing that.

You're wise not to have anything else to do with him. He only wants to bleed you dry financially and use you. That's the truth unfortunately. He's pretty brazen with asking for money only after knowing someone 7 days.

I am seriously, seriously dreading October 15th as my older brother and his wife might be visiting. I seriously do not like this because each time they come down here, they end up using my room. I do not like this as they have a habit of going through my things and give me problems with what I own. Examples include my old action figures when I was a child which are stuffed in the closet and a Confederate Flag which I have hanging on my wall (I keep it mainly for my admiration for History). They also give me issues about something new each time they visit.

Sometimes it is something they just brought up or imagined. I say this because many years ago back when they visited in 2005, they had the nerve to accuse me of yelling at their only child when I do not recall such a thing and now I fear they might accuse me of something EVEN worse.

Lastly, I do not like being displaced because I feel a sense of inferiority considering I still live with my father. I also do not like this because I have no where to leave when my brother and his wife visit. I have tried to tell my family I do not like them using my room nor do I like them giving me problems. I want my room to be mine when they come. I am sick of being walked on by my family who does not respect how I feel when my brother and his wife come to visit.

How do I get them to listen where everyone wins and I keep what is mine?

Displaced and Frustrated. (link)
I don't know the layout of your home but I am willing to guess that your room is probably one of the only places they can go.

If it were not than I can't see them staying there otherwise. You need to ask your father to speak to them that you are upset over last time they stayed in your room.

Have him tell them that it was disrespectful to riffle through your personal belongings and make critical comments towards you about them or in general. And, he needs to develop a backbone and tell them that they treat you and everyone else in the house with respect or find a hotel.

You yourself can't come out and say that. However, you are well within your right to let them know that you're not putting up with their shit for another second if they start in. Let it roll off your back if you can as these people aren't worth it relatives or not.

You can tell your father that for those reasons and them being cruel towards you and accusatory that you would prefer them not to use your room and see what happens. Do it in a mature fashion and don't whine if he doesn't side with you due to space.

The other thing is if you think you have something in your room that they'll criticize you for find a way to move it to a file cabinet, or place you can lock it up and keep them from accessing.

If you knew your 27 year old brother was on cocaine and heroin and you felt that having him arrested was the only way to protect his life, would you do it?

If you, your parents, and your other siblings had tried everything, and I mean EVERYTHING short of getting him arrested and it all had failed to get him off of the drugs, what would you do? What if you had enough proof that he possesses drugs for the police to make the arrest? Would you actually call the police and have your own brother cuffed and thrown in jail?

He's already been arrested twice and sent to rehab twice and of he's arrested again he could be in big, BIG trouble. He might hate you if you do it and although your parents have talked about doing it themselves, everyone else might think you're a horrible brother. Still, you love home too much to let those consequences control your decision.

He actually overdosed once and almost died. His roommate had to call an ambulance and when they got there, your brother had stopped breathing and they had to shove a tube down his throat to force air into his lungs. You had to drive you parents to the hospital because upon hearing the news, they went into some kind of episode driven by the fear that their son was either dying or dead.

In addition to the fear you feel for your brother, your parents are living in agony because they're terrified for his life and you're worried that their stress and anxiety is damaging their health. You mom can't sleep well most nights and can't sleep at all some nights. She's constantly on the verge of having a coronary because of she can't live with the terror of her son dying from a drug overdose and your dad is always stressed out too. Your siblings live in agony as well and it'd just be better for everyone if your brother got off the drugs one way or another. What would you do? (link)
I would hand him the note you just wrote us and tell him this is where the rest of the family are at with his addiction. Stage an intervention with the family and try to get him back into treatment.

If he won't you have to get tough as a family and let him know that if he's on hard drugs or any drugs that you don't want to be involved with him anymore.

Your family needs to tell him that if he
pardon my word choice fucks up again and lands in jail that he could be behind bars for quite a while. The problem with addiction is that you can lead an addict to help but it's on them to take it and make it work.

It hasn't worked before. He needs something more aggressive with treatment but it's on him to stick with the program and get better. You have to try.

Are you a bad brother for wanting what is best for him no matter what? No. You aren't. You're all backed up against a wall here. Would I report him to a probation officer or tell the police what he has in his possession?

That's tough but if it's life and death and your parents are considering it as a last resort than as a family make the decision together not alone.

You can imagine if you or they do so that he's not going to be happy with whomever does perhaps for the rest of his or your lives but if it saves his.. A Catch 22.

Try as a family to get him to enter rehab again and that this is his last chance and that a probation officer or those who arrested him previously would have to be contacted in order to save his life. No clear-cut answer for this.

15/f. I've been feeling ill for the past couple days but it's gotten a lot worse. Please tell me what I have with my list of symptoms. I am a vegetarian and have been for 2 years and over muscle cramps and spasms in my legs from not eating properly. I have a pounding terrible headache. I am super nauseous whenever I move or lookaf anything and when I lay down, it feels like my bed is spinning. My throat is a bit sore. And my stomach is killing me. I feel like I need to throw up but when I got to the washroom, nothin happens and I just feel more nauseous. Please tell me what I have (link)
First things first we are not doctors and our advice should not ever take the place of medical advice from a professional. That is exactly what you are needing.

You need to consult an emergency room or doctor at first opportunity. Ask them about your headache, cramps, nausea and that everything around you feels like it's spinning. That certainly isn't normal and of concern.

Tell them you can't function. Any time you cannot fully function is when you need an ER visit. Better safe than sorry with treating it as an emergency. To reiterate NOBODY here can tell you what the doctor needs to diagnose.


Here is some of my education background:

I did a high school program where I was able to get two free years of college as a high school student. I graduated with my associates at the age of 18. My advisor shoved most of our college courses during our senior year of high school--I took 27 credit hours in one semester. I barely even graduated. My GPA was knocked down. The remaining two years, I transferred to a university and graduated with a bachelors degree in Psychology. My GPA was also low because I was mentally exhausted from the year before, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I just had a rough year and I struggled to keep my grades up.

The last year of my undergrad studies, I tried my best to pull my grades back up. Making B's one semester and finally A's and B's my last semester pulling my GPA up to a 3.6 that semester and a 3.0 for my overall GPA. I reached the requirements to apply for the graduate school of my choosing.

I want to go into graduate school for counseling but I'm afraid I won't get into it. I may have reached the requirement GPA but because it's not GREAT, they will determine it through my personal statement, my GRE score, and an interview. I am TERRIBLE at standardized tests. I never do well on them. I have been studying and I've been trying to be confident. My test date is a month away and even though the school I want to go to has no required score for the GRE. I want to do well. I want to get into the school.

I know that the explanation I have given are no excuses for my grades and my GPA.

Do you have any advice for me to not get too anxious? Any tricks and tips for the GRE or to get into graduate school? I've been stressing over it and I can't help but keep worrying. (link)
Pretend that high school doesn't exist at this point. Recruiters will only be interested in your B.A. in Psychology and the GPA out of university and grades which relate to what you need to study for the counselling program.

When you write your personal statement about why you should be a candidate for their program tell them that you were in a high school program where you were expected to do 27 high school credits in a year and earn an university degree.

Mention that you worked your behind off and that your GPA then and right after suffered because of a diagnosis of an anxiety disorder and depression but that you slugged it out and got A's and B's final semester.

If they see you are someone who will stick in there no matter what life throws at them when they interview you and in this statement than you'll have no problem. They can't not take a look at you based on this disclosure.

I'm Canadian so I don't know what a GRE is. However, if you don't require a score nor need to take it if I read correctly than why do it? If I misread and it is needed the best thing to do is study as much as you can and give it your all and don't worry about it. Let it unfold. If you stress you won't do well.

If you are meant to be a counsellor you will be eventually regardless of whether it's in their program or another university. I would also be looking at other schools too. a 3.0 GPA means you're an average student. It's not bad given what you have dealt with health wise.

I'm 14 almost 15 and my boyfriend wants to have sex this weekend it's his birthday. I feel that I'm ready but..people say we're to young and I'd never be able to admit it to my mom.. Any advise? (link)
WAIT! If you feel unsure than tell him you want to wait because you aren't ready. He should respect that. If he doesn't than that's his problem and he shouldn't be yours. You'll be fine but not feeling 100% means it's not time for you yet and that's okay. You'd regret it otherwise.

I just want to confirm something, we have hbo with our cable package - we can watch HBO channels and watch HBO moves On Demand. I recently discovered HBO Go where you can apparently stream HBO movies and tv shows but I'm a bit confused. Are we about to use HBO Go for free since we also have HBO in our cable package, or do we also have to pay extra to use the HBO Go services? Thank you! (link)
That's a question best directed to your cable or satellite provider. They can tell you whether or not its free or a pay service with the package you are subscribed to or not.

Does anyone know the height of ariana grande in 2014??? AS i want to follow her style and i'm a big fan thank youu (link)
5 ft 0 and 1/4 inches. That's what her agents have listed on her official bio on Internet Movie Database as current.

I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do (link)
I would explain first of all what this account is and allows the account holder to do. Then see what they say.

As long as you are old enough by Facbook's policy to be on the site it should be okay. What I would do is give your parents the password to the account, list of friends and the opportunity to see what you are posting before you put it up for others to see.

Even if you set your account to post for a certain time and then automatically erase to my knowledge other people can take snapshots of what you put up or forward them to others without knowledge. As long as you are responsible and think about what should or shouldn't be posted and allow parents to monitor than it should be alright.

They may not see it that way so don't get annoyed. If they see you have a mature reaction in the future their stance on it could change.

I'm fifteen and a female. I met this guy like 5 days ago and recently he stopped talking and calling me. I called him today and it went straight to voicemail. Should I call him again or just leave him alone (link)
I already answered you. Hopefully, it's in your inbox folder.

My boyfriend's mom wasn't supposed to be home for another hour yesterday and she walked in on us having sex. She was so mad she couldn't talk at first and then she yelled at me to get out of her house and never come back and she watched me get dressed and didn't leave until I left. Obviously I deeply regret what we did and we shouldn't have been that stupid and I just don't know what to do now. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 23. His mom is unpredictable and emotionally unstable and she said she wants to tell my parents about this. I am so humiliated and ashamed and I haven't decided if I should tell my mom yet i don't know if I can handle that right now. Should I? What am I supposed to do now? I can't apologize to his mom or talk to her at all because she hates me now but I want to do all I can to make this situation better. Please help me!!! (link)
By law at 18-years-old you are in most places in U.S. and Canada viewed as an adult. At 23-years-old your boyfriend is an adult.

Even if his mother isn't thrilled about this at your age you both have the right to choose to be sexually active and engage or not.

You didn't do anything wrong and did what was indeed a natural thing because you are in love with each other. That's a good thing.

I doubt the woman hates you but rather had a great "shock" she wasn't ready for and in the moment lashed out at you. Then again she may be super over-protective of him. In which case he has to make her aware of how important you are and that he's making sound choices and wouldn't be doing this with you if he weren't being cautious and wasn't committed.

What do you do? Well, rather than have his mother call yours which she probably won't tell your mother you have something that you're mortified over and embarrassed about and ask her advice on what to do and how to handle it especially if the woman is mentally unstable as you say.

One thing that may be a good idea if mom agrees is to invite his mother into your home to meet your family and see that you aren't a bad person at all and nor are your family for her and her son.

In the future if engaging in said activity make sure it's in a place where you can't be walked in on and promise that to everyone. I'm sure you won't be permanently banished or unable to see your boyfriend. It's likely anger and shock in the moment at seeing you both. Believe me a lot of people get walked in on so this isn't an uncommon thing.

I'm fifteen and a female. I met this guy like 5 days ago and recently he stopped talking and calling me. I called him today and it went straight to voicemail. Should I call him again or just leave him alone (link)
How often did you call him? That makes a difference. If all the calling was one-sided and made by you and he didn't call much he may have the wrong impression that you're needy.

Then again, the guy could be extremely busy with school, activities and other commitments that he hasn't been able to get back to people this week. It's not likely but it's possible.

The thing is maybe he was interested in you then but for whatever reason isn't any longer. Rather than doing the courtesy of telling you the truth and hurting you he could be hoping that not answering to your number will get you to move on.

What would I do? I wouldn't text, call or leave any messages. If he wants to get in contact he knows exactly how to find you. Let him come to you and initiate things from here on. In the meantime move on with life.

If he calls great if not that's okay too. You really didn't know each other outside of the one meeting. If you call again you'll definitely set the wrong impression permanently with him unfortunately. He needs to lead and or not from this point.

I've had suicidal thoughts for a large portion of my life but recently it's been getting worse. Due to recent events, I really hate myself and I can't shake this feeling of hopelessness.

I told my boyfriend this last night and he got really angry at me and called me a coward and pathetic. I get where he's coming from and I realise now that I can't kill myself because it's selfish and would hurt my mom. But now I can't stop feeling completely worthless and depressed.

How do I get rid of this feeling? I feel so alone, but I'm scared if I tell any of my other friends they'll react the same way and end up hating me.

Also, he said he was once depressed and his best friends started getting angry and shouting at him too and he got better. So now he's doing the same to me. Why isn't it working?

I'm also really confused because he said I need to look within myself and ask myself the hard questions in life. But I don't know what that means and he won't tell me. What do I do?

Also, should I try and get him to stop hating me and apologise to him? I feel like he's the only person I really trust to tell all this to but at the same time I don't know if he still cares..‚Äč

UPDATE: today I had a talk with him and he wanted to break up because I was a coward, emotionally unstable, weak and unreliable to him. He said I was holding him back from his career in comic books but he still loves me and that we should break up to make ourselves better people.

What does this all mean? And what should I do? (link)
You aren't a coward or any of things he stated about you. You have an illness in depression that you cannot control (yet) without proper medical treatment and counseling.

You may have loved this guy more than anyone at one time but I have to give you a reality check-- He's acting like an inconsiderate ass who doesn't give a damn for you. Worst of all his actions are showing this to be the truth. Someone who genuinely loves you would never do this.

Better off without him. Trust me, he's not acting like a real man as strong men do not behave this way with women they are with. They support them and most would find out everything they could to help their partner rather than putting them down.

He'll still be trying to make it in comic books or whatever else when you get this situation controlled and are excelling in life and all things. That's the reality. And believe me the issue isn't about his comic book art career desire. There's more to it and it's issues with him and not you.

The illness has made you see yourself as pathetic etc. which depression always does constantly 24/7 non-stop in one's inner thoughts if not treated correctly.

What you need to do is admit to yourself that "I have a serious problem here. I need to get my depression under control and I'm not functioning well especially if feeling suicidal."

Once you realize this go to any local ER. Tell them that you have depression, dark thoughts, and that you feel alone, lost and have been made to feel pathetic and cowardly. Be up front no matter what that have had thoughts of suicide. That's vital. Hide absolutely nothing and let all this information come out. You need to to gain control of this problem.

What happens is that the on-call psychiatrist assesses the situation and determines what counseling you need, medication etc. If he/she feels you need rest or could seriously harm yourself and or have delusions they can have you stay 72 hours for observation to figure out the right course of action.

I KNOW you don't like that idea but really all it amounts to is much needed rest where you don't have to focus on work or anything else rather than getting better. You can still see your family, watch TV, relax etc and go about some normal activities at the hospital. You should go home shortly after. All of what I'm saying from personal experience.

You have an illness and that's all it is you aren't crazy and will be okay. Ditching this guy may in fact be the best thing for you as you may find someone who loves you unconditionally and meets those standards.

Also, if people are angry with you over an illness you can't control and are saying the same things as he has been do yourself a huge favor and ditch those who you know aren't real friends. You don't need that because real friends would NEVER ever say these things or level blame.

It all comes down to them reacting and or acting out of total ignorance and fear of something that they themselves don't understand. It's far too easy to be ignorant in society than informed about mental health and how this affects people.

Anyone who gives you grief about it has a serious issue but it's not something for you to worry about as it's on them to wake-up.

If these people are important to you stand up to them with the truth about your illness and how hurt they make you feel with their erroneous views and ask them to either shut up and be out of the picture permanently or show some support already. For every 1 of them there are 10 people who will treat you better.

Hang in there. Once you learn your real self-worth through all of this there will be no limit to what you can enjoy in life or become or the quality friends either. You just have to take the first step to become well again. It will all fall into place. It does take time no lies there but the whole world can open to you once you address what is going on.

Hi! I am 13 and my boobs are saggy, my bra size is 36B can a plastic surgeon do it or am I too young? How much would it cost
Your question made me sad. No matter what size breasts are or if they sag or droop it's normal. They come in all shapes and sizes. Your body is fine and beautiful and you shouldn't think otherwise or that yours is inadequate. You need to learn that. It's important to self-esteem to have a healthy view of your body.

Secondly, you are still developing at 13-years-old in a constantly changing body that will by the time you are 18 be an adult body. Cup size, shape can change during this time.

The poster below is right that a plastic surgeon would be reluctant to treat you at your age and the fact you are still developing.

They couldn't and wouldn't do an augmentation on a child. The only time they may help is if breasts were grossly out of proportion for a person's body and were causing them pain in some fashion. I've heard of people with that.

You need to realize you have nothing to feel embarrassed by and to learn to be comfortable with your body even though some changes are awkward right now to handle. If you have concerns about anything you wrote us about talk to an older female be it a parent, aunt, friend's parent or trusted person about it. They'll reiterate what I said but also let you know that this is normal. You could use that.

so me and my bf are going to camp with the rest of our grade and i dont know what do because i want to try and get my first kiss with him without anyone seeing what to do and if i dont ill be fine but it would be way harder in school you have time i am going april 8 am 2015 please give me advie tell me the instructions for 3 days of the first kiss plan but its the last day the third day so if ya want i have a 2 hour bus drive to the camp maybe that will help and i have one full day with him but around alot of people and teacher so maybe you could help me please please please help!!!! (link)
I'm going to state the obvious. If you want to kiss someone do it already. There's no way you or any teenager can or will wait until April 2015.

Furthermore, why put yourself in an uncontrollable situation where others can ruin it for you rather than do so where you feel safe and comfortable with the other person?

There's a whole bunch of time until then but you should shoot for as close to the present than way off in the distance. it's no big deal or anything embarrassing either.

It's natural. If you want to be kissed tell him or just initiate it. You don't need a camping trip that is so far off or this perfect setting or moment planned... You negate the problems with said trip that you are expecting. If already together this really shouldn't be an issue or difficulty between you. Has to occur eventually. No worries.

I'm starting school in a couple days. It's an independent one-on-one program, where I do the work at home and go to school for about one hour a week or so. Well, I'm honestly terrified. I'm scared that the teacher will try something; like rape me or something. She's a female as am I, but she can be like a lesbian or something. I know I'm sounding really paranoid; I have a bad paranoia disorder, and maybe I'm just overreacting. The reason that this came to mind is because I had a classmate who was raped in kindergarten and now I'm terrified because me and the teacher will be alone. I'm sure I'll be more comfortable after being there a few times, but it just scares me so much. I could see if my mother could just sit in the back while I'm with the teacher, but I wouldn't really want to waste my mothers' time and make my parents think that I can't do this. What should I do? (link)
When you get this way with irrational thought or fear tell yourself "That's Not Real" for starters and start noticing that this is your disorder talking nonsense and passing it off as something that deserves your attention or could be reality.

In reality all that will happen is a standard student/teacher relationship no more no less. You might find yourself really enjoying working with this person.

I think what you should do is approach this teacher day one and mention why you are working from home. Let them know how hard it is to deal with your disorder and irrational, paranoid thinking and that you are terrified of being at the school or around them. Then the two of you can work around this illness together if on the same page. You can certainly do this but it won't come off easily.

The other thing you need to do is talk to your psychiatrist and tell them that the biggest problem you have is with irrational fears and bizarre thoughts acting as your own thinking and being duped by it.

Also, that you aren't able to see an irrational idea as being just that. See what they can do to work with you at knocking this fear down about the teacher and school.

I have always cut not for attention but for the thing I've went through and are going through I haven't done it in like 10 months but still want to its an addiction I fight every day hundreds of time daily. I've been been molested by three adults. Two of them were when I was young and one which it was my eighteenth birthday of all days. I have nightmares, trust issues and more. I cry multiple times a day I have been abused physically by my mother and an ex. And all it takes to break me is a rude comment from my husband or anyone. I think I'm the ugliest human. But everyone says I'm beautiful. I'm a little overweight. I have no confidace. I'm on medicine for my depression. But anything and everything kills my heart. A raising of the voice = panic attack/ asthma. I'm sensitive and don't leave my house unless Dr. Appt. My husband tells me its because I live in the past but I can't forget getting raped and the abuse sexual or physical. I have a therapist but one hour every two weeks feels like not enough to discuss past and present issues. Any advice and please don't tell me I'm stupid for cutting because I've quite its just most of the time I'll see a knife and want to or look at My meds and want to take them all to end it over everything. I have seen many therapists from age 4 up to 22 current. So please give me anything you think would help. Thanks! (link)
What you need do is tell your psychiatrist that none of the medication you are on is doing anything at all to help you. You do nee medication but the doses or the medicine they gave you may not be aggressive enough to treat your illness.

You have to be honest with them about having multiple therapists and psychiatrists in the past and that you illness has never gotten any better from what they have done. Be 100% honest with them as it's the only way to get better.

Tell them everything you wrote about cutting here and how powerful a drive to do it you experience. If you don't tell them everything in detail they really can't do anything at all to fix the issue.

Talk to them about your self-esteem, struggle to function especially and the abuse you suffered that still bothers you relentlessly. They need to know this info.

You're going to need to do something that you won't want to do but could save your life and turn your life around permanently. You need to go to an ER and tell them you can't function and are struggling to live right now and every single detail you outlined above.

What will happen is that an on-call psychiatrist will see you look into your medical history, the information you presented and observe you to figure out your medication and real illness and what is fueling all this.

What they will do is figure out the correct treatment before sending you home. If they think you cannot cope, are a harm to yourself or others could to you than they will keep you in hospital for 72 hrs at least to be sure you leave well.

This should not be dreaded. In fact all it amounts to is rest in a secure environment until they get things corrected for you so you never have this as a problem again. It doesn't mean you are crazy but just have an illness to deal with and confront. It's the best thing you could ever do for yourself. They only tend to keep people longer if delusional ie with bipolar as that takes time to be handled.

This is something we will actually need! Soccer and jump rope may be fun, but defense is important. We could be threatened on the street, challenged,etc. Us girls need it the most. We are in risk of rape, domestic violence,etc. In gym boys do wrestling for a unit while girls do yoga. I have 3 arguments against that
1. Downward dog isn't gonna protect you from sexual harassment.
2. Girls need to know how to fight more whether society likes it or not, since we can't rely on natural strength
3. It won't even help boys defend themselves because say they are being jumped, by 3 or more guys 1 on 1 combat will be useless and you'll need to do more then to hold them down for 3 seconds to be able to get away and alert the cops
They need to be talking to us about the dangers of the real world and how to defend ourselves, it's not gonna be inappropriate, it'll be useful and it won't disturb/scare. And even if it does, we'll be glad we learned it when we still have our hard earned money, or not have AIDS, and we'll skip a lot of much more traumatizing experiences. (link)
I'm sure there are a lot of educators even at school who would love for students to have such training.

However, you have to look at two factors. First, martial arts is a specialty and not something that just anyone can instruct you in on a regular basis. They would have to contract an expert to come in and do this. No doubt the cost of hiring someone who only does a class per week or along that line is too high despite benefit.

What you could do is approach the admin of your school and mention that you see more value in self-defense techniques than yoga or some other form of gym and don't understand why males are shown wrestling and you aren't and highlight what you stated above.

Ask them if it would be possible to have a martial arts expert in to teach 3-4 90 minute sessions of techniques and make it open to everyone based on space. See what they think as there may be ways they can make something work.

The downside is that some not all educators feel that kids being street smart and able to defend themselves is on the kid and their parents to pay for and educate outside of the school. You may deal with that mentality but likely not.

Hey I'm a 14 year old girl and I feel like such a loser. I'm just so different from all of my classmates. They like to pretend that they don't care, and that they're too cool for things, and stuff like that so it makes me feel stupid when I get enthusiastic or excited about something. I also watch sci fi shows and read too many books and excel in science and history class. I correct the teacher a lot and go into long winded explanations because I get excited about the subject. I apologize too much even when I didn't do anything. I write poems that I never show anyone because not even my own mother would understand my depressed inner thoughts. And to top it all off, I have a dreadful case of social anxiety, so I replay and disect conversations in my head until my thoughts about how stupid I am eat me alive. How can I fix myself? What's even wrong with me? (link)
Be who you are and don' give a damn what anyone else may or may not be thinking.Your personality is not something to be ashamed over. It's a good one with admirable qualities so no worries.

As far as your inner-thinking goes if it's full of anxious thoughts, dark ones, troubled thinking than no matter what don't hide that. If you have social anxiety problems make it known. Seek out professional help from a medical professional and work on these issues. Medication if they decide may help eliminate these feelings.

Anxiety disorders are an illness like any other that needs to be dealt with and doesn't mean that you are at fault for it. It doesn't mean something is wrong with who you are a a person either. You need help there and working on your self-image and self-worth as you haven't a clear view on that. Stop looking at yourself through a dirty (mental) mirror.

recently I was informed by someone on "Kik Messenger" that he had somehow gotten my ip address and gained access to certain information about me, sending a screenshot of the info he found by plugging my ip adress into a website. about a week later, I noticed my phone would refuse to connect to my wifi, whereas my parents and siblings mobile devices and laptops connected just fine. the man had mentioned something about being able to get into my phone, so I blocked him and deleted kik. I just find it a little ironic that my phone is the only one with problems "obtaining an ip adress" it might be just me being paranoid over nothing, but if you have any idea if him getting into my phone is at all possible, or what is going on with my phone, that would be great, As I am only 13 and honestly have no knowledge whatsoever about these kinds of things like "hacking" or what have you.. (I have the HTC Desire 601) any information would be greatly appreciated, thanks (: (link)
The minute this happened I would have told your parents and alerted them to what occurred. They could then get in contact with their service provider and they could go after this person, give you a new SIM Card or phone and make sure that this person didn't have access to the account.

You have to let them know exactly what was said and when your phone started malfunctioning. It may not be related but have adults look into the situation for you. I'm sure someone else will have more technical info but I would start there. Get the police involved too.

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