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My face acne is bad, & I was wondering if anyone would know the best acne cure. Comment below. (link)
Definitely NOT anything over the counter especially if it's a really bad and consistent case. For this you need to see a family doctor. They can give you prescription cream and often have samples that eats away at what causes the acne.

Nothing that doesn't have prescription strength drug in it will be able to handle the issue effectively. If your doctor feels the case needs referring to a specialist a dermatologist will assess you and start treatment.

I am a 25 year old female and I don't know what's wtong with me. I akready go to pineland 3 says a week on meds and I am still having problem s with my mental health. I am real emotional all time like for instance one minute ill be all hyper and happy and the next I will be agitated and ready to come unglued over every little thike like for instance I came home from pineland to find that my niece had stuff all over my bed and I snapped but stugf lack that dosnt usually bother me and I bursted into tears anf told her to get out of my site. Why would I cry over something like that. When I was in group today and I was reading some material I noticed that I kept getting lost in mid sentence and the sentenceskept running together and couldn't concentrate. Like I said I am already on celexa f or anxiety and depression and I am on adderall for adhd but why am I getting mad so easy because I've never had problems with anger before and ehy does my moods keep switching like a light switch that's never happened and for the past month I have been crying for ehat seems to be no reason at all why? (link)
We aren't doctors but having experience with the mental health system I can tell you one thing is for sure. You MUST talk to your psychiatrist pronto and tell him/her or the group leader for your mental health program exactly what you told us.

From experience I can say that your dosages of medication are either way off (in terms of to little/too much of something) and or are not working properly to treat your particular illness.

You need to be straight up with your doctor about what has been happening recently and how hellish it has been. They can make changes that will work for you and get you feeling a lot better. Don't fear this as it happens with everyone at the start. Things need fine tuned.

Another key thing you need to do is keep a record. Every day before bed write out the date and in detail everything you felt that was positive or negative in terms of illness and keep looking to find a pattern of these up and down moods, anxiety etc etc. and bring that record into the doctor as it will guide them in figuring out how your moods and illness is cycling. Been there. It's rough but when they sort it out life becomes normal again.

hey, am a highschool senior ,i want to ask you about what i should do about this boy which i love very much and he also does love me. i know that beacuse he asked me to be his girlfriend by his friend way back before but i said no at that time, beacuse am not able to have a boyfriend beacuse am not old enough. now am 17 years old but am still not able to do so, and my parents would kill me too,and going behind their back is not an option beacuse i will die of guilt, so since then no one knows i love him just me, am pretending that i don't love him but i don't know what to do any more beacuse its killing me inside, the amazing thing is we talk not in school but by e-mail as normal classmates and what i hate about talking to him by e-mail is that it will make it more awkward when we see each other in school beacuse we dont talk in school as normal classmates for the reason that our friends will make fun of us. so am feeling bad everyday after school beacuse i didn't get a chance to talk to him as my classmate, some of it is my fault beacuse i dont also treat him as one of my other classmates and he is so afraid of me even to say"hi" so i don't know what to do. if you have any advice for me i will be happy to take any of your suggestions thank you!!! (link)
Ordinarily I would tell people never to defy or hide a thing from parents. However, in a few months you are legally an adult. By law you can make your own decisions then.

The question is what is it they are objecting to about you having a relationship especially when you are virtually an adult? I would tell them that you know they don't like the idea of it but that so-and-so is a great person.

Introduce them to him and his parents and make them aware of how many years you both have felt the same but couldn't act. I think they'll get it then.

As far as death by feelings of guilt it's not possible. Sure you feel bad but if you know something is right and justified... It's your decision but if your heart says you need to tell him and act on this I would stop denying it.

Your parents can always learn to change their perception once they see the relationship is healthy. I would at your age do what feels right and deal with whatever their reaction may be later as you're an adult.

You can't control what they will think but you can control being miserable for not doing what you heart says is correct. Teens needs to form relationships and learn from them. It's healthy.

I'm a 21 year old male. I have a problem while peeing. When I start peeing the tip of my penis seems to burn a lot and when I get done peeing I feel like still need to go but nothing comes out and it all burns. Here and there I get a achy feeling between my testicals and butt. Some times if i like push up on my penis like on the urethra tube a couple drops of a cloudy fluid comes out its like cloudy whitish gray. Its not come its not sticky or anything its almost like pre come stuff but I'm not sexually excited. Ive looked up symptoms of prostate infections and chymidia and they are very close its just with the std it says you get a greenish leak of fluid or blood which I don't have. And the problem where I get done peeing and the feeling there like still having to pee seems like it leans to the prostate. Also the whitish fluid could be seminal fluid leaked by the prostate. My prostate does get infected a lot just never had this much of a problem in my penis area also when I have sex and ejaculate it kinda hurts like the fluid is blocked coming out it tingles a little and in the area between testicals and butt it hurts. Any input on this I'd appreciate it thanks everyone (link)
We aren't doctors however, it does sound like an infection of some sort. You really need to consult your physician and tell them exactly what you told us and have them diagnose and treat it. In the long run you will be fine but if you put off seeing someone about it the symptoms will get worse.

Hello there,

For the past week, I've been having the weirdest dreams. I'm not going to go into detail about them, but they're always very weird and effect me the next day. When I wake up, I feel very weird and am just out of it most of the day. I heard it may have been caused from a change in diet; I have been starting to eat healthier recently, if that matters.
Anyways, I just don't like having these weird dreams. I'm often awake late at night because of this, and I hate that. What can I do about this? Any advice appreciated. (link)
Dreams are thought pictures. They are nothing more than what you have been thinking about or afraid of while awake manifest in picture form when you sleep.

The only way to get them to stop is to confront or change what you are troubled by in real life. You see, your brain doesn't stop working as you sleep. They have no power to hurt or affect you unless you allow yourself to become affected.

Your diet likely has nothing to do with it. However, side-effects from certain medications can in fact cause these kind of dreams. You just need to remind yourself before sleep and throughout the day that they have no power to bother you and have no basis in reality.

Hi! My english teacher gave us a discussion topic and i was asked to think about why people that dont like science fiction still like the book Enders game. If you dont like science fiction and read/saw Enders game why did you like it? if you have an opinion of your own go ahead and type it in. Thanks! (link)
We can't do your homework for you. You won't learn that way or achieve what your teacher wants you to with the assignment.

Random responses from us without attribution to real people you quoted would get you a zero in most school programs I've been in.

What you need to do is consult the Internet for newspaper articles, reviews of the film, and for quotes you can source from them or credible people that will help answer what has been asked. Then throw in your own opinion of why you think people feel this way and how you felt.

Before doing this consult your teacher first thing in the morning. Tell him/her that you understand the question you were supposed to answer in your homework but don't know how to do so. Cite the fact that you don't know a soul that outside of your classmates who have read it nor have done so and liked it that had ZERO interest in sci-fi going in. They'll for sure have some ideas to get you on track and writing a better paper than you would consulting us.

I was wondering if anyone or someone they know has any suggestions for books that help with CMA exams.

I bought 2 anatomy books already and then I have one that I got that has 2 sample tests included but after I bought it, numerous people have given reviews that some answers in the book are incorrect. But then before I take the test, I figure that I can then use that book and test myself to know exactly what's right and what's wrong. So I'll use that later. The book only covers exams and explanations. But I need something else.

I just got into the program at school and I won't be done until next May so I figured I could go ahead and study now instead of later which is why I got some things now.


Thanks. (link)
It appears to me that you are getting quite ahead of yourself. The courses don't even start until next year for you. While it's good to read up on the subject you shouldn't be too concerned with an exam that is quite a distance away.

What you can do if you want to read up on the exams and texts used in the program is to consult the head of the program that accepted you. They can tell you what their students are reading and using and what to do to know to be ahead of the game when CMA exams occur. As it's a year from now I would bet you would be well versed and prepared for them by the school then. Definitely consult the school about text books they currently use.

My parents have left me in charge at home while they are away of my sister 15 and brother 12.
Yesterday I caught my sister wearing a bikini(sliding triangle top and small side tying bottoms)that she is not supposed to have and taking SELFIES of herself in it, that she was going to send to the guy that bought the bikini for her that is nearly as old as me.

What do I do
1. Give her the bikini back, pretend I know nothing about it and possibly land myself in trouble if my parents find out about the bikini.
2. Keep the bikini give it to my parents on their return and tell them about the SELFIES and the guy, my sister will be in big trouble.
3. Give my sister a chance but insist the bikini is destroyed as part of the deal. (link)
The bikini is her possession. It's up to your parents to decide whether she is allowed to have it. You need to make them aware of it and step back and allow them to parent.

You should tel your sister that the bikini is hers and may be okay with your parents but that taking pictures in it and sending to random people could be really dumb and illegal if she's a minor and recipients are adults. You need to fill her in on how dangerous that can be. Then tell your folks. They need to know. Make absolutely no deals with her and destroy nothing. Let your parents take it from there.

i just joined my sports team and we started our workouts for the summer three days ago and we have only had 3 practices, my coach just sent out the emails saying i made the team but i was thinking about it and i really dont want to play... i really respect my coach and dont know how to tell her that i just dont want to play because i know i would bring the team down because i am just not good nor will i enjoy it. if you had any advice on how to tell her, if i should email or have a face to face convo, or just what i should say it would really help out thanks! (link)
What are you really afraid of? Ask yourself. Your fears of failure and letting others down has nothing to do with the sports team. The thing is you may be quite good at this.

You had to be or the coach wouldn't have picked you. Think of the experience and good you would lose if you quit before even starting. Don't let anything stand in your way of doing and actually trying.

I would tell your coach face-to-face that you have problems with self-doubt and fear as well as letting people down and not being confident. That's what you will get to work on over the summer as you play.

I'll tell you something every last one of your teammates is dealing with this same irrational fear or something else when they play as well. They'll help you help each other to become good. Stick in there. You owe it to yourself. You'll son see,

I'm almost 17 and he's 15. one day he just comes out and says that he likes me and I didn't know how to tell him I didn't like him back so I kinda just went along with it but then he asked me out and I said I wasn't ready to go out or have a boyfriend. All of a sudden I have some feelings for him that I've never had before and he doesn't talk to me much. I don't know what to do??? I kinda like him but don't know if he still likes me or not. (link)
Talk to him. Tell him back then you were scared and didn't want to hurt either of you. Let him know you were taken by surprise and weren't sure what your feelings were and wasn't ready for a boyfriend. Let him know how you feel now and see what happens. The ball now needs to be in his court. He may be interested or may not be or could be feeling snubbed. Either way get the truth out there and see how it is resolved.

My boyfriend and I are both 15 and we are both virgins. He wants to have sex with me but he knows that I am not ready. He says he will try not to do anything that I will not be comfortable with but he told me he doesn't know how long he can hold it off for. Also, I don't really like the idea of giving him head or him fingering me as I have not done any of this before. Any advise? (link)
If you aren't ready for this or uncomfortable tell him it's not happening. He needs to respect that or get out. That's the truth and bottom line.

He says he isn't pressuring you so what's this can't hold out much longer crap he's feeding you? He's being selfish and doesn't have concern for you. I know you love him but be firm that he needs to back off and if he can't wait find some other girl. What concerns me most is that he cares about his desires and not yours.

It's perfectly fine if you aren't in to doing the other things you mentioned either. If you don't want to do something don't. Someone who truly loves you will understand that it's not for you to be doing right now. If they can't understand it excuse my language tough shit. You're in charge of your body and what you are emotionally and physically ready for. If your gut says "no" than obey it. It's never wrong.

I'm 15 and a girl. And I'm typing this on my tablet, so sorry for any mistakes.

I've known I need braces since I had a cavity a few years ago.

Sometimes I'll sit and rest my chin in my hand and if I sit lke that to long my teeth will hurt but other than a few things like that they realy didn't that much.

But about a month ago they started to hurt, bad. Every time I would eat and sometimes for no reason randomly. It would be in only one tooth, then an hour later be my bottom teeth on the other side of my mouth, amd was constantly switching teeth and sides of my mouth.

It was driving me crazy, and I went to the dentist but he couldn't n find anything wrong, and said that the only thing he could find that could be causing it is my 2nd Class Overbite and said he strongly recommended braces. So we set up the appointment to get them, (the 29th).

A few days later the pain stopped suddenly. But about a week ago the started again, but only the bottom left teeth. It's off and on. Sometimes a dull ache that doesn't bother me amd other times it's almost to much to handle.

I am going back to the dentist in a week so I'm not to worried, but I was wondering if any of you people could maybe help me figure out what is causing it or find something to help. (link)
You have received decent advice from the previous posters. However, I have something to add. Before putting money out there for braces that may not fix your problem get a second opinion.

See a different dentist and one who has background as a surgeon. Let him/her X-ray your teeth and check them out to figure out what it could be. You may need a specialist rather than a general dentist to figure this out. Again, it could be another problem not dental causing it. See a dentist and then raise it with a general doctor about pain that the dentist cannot locate.

Hi, I'm sorry, I didn't really know which category to put this in. If you could help me I would be grateful.

So I went to a school dance years ago and a random guy that I didn't know walked up and started dancing with me. It was okay at first but things started getting more...skeptical, I guess. He got behind me and started grinding up against me, and his hands held me at my waist. I felt slightly uncomfortable at this point but didn't say anything. Then his hands moved over the spot where my genitals were and his fingers were rubbing against that spot. That was when I tried to move away, but he just pulled me back and did it more. I tried to say 'no' and 'stop' but it didn't come out very loudly. I tried moving away several times.

My question this considered sexual assault? (link)
Yes. Any time someone attempts something of a sexual nature to you and you have clearly said "NO" no matter the volume or tone of voice it's assault. You should tell an adult you trust be it a teacher, parent or ANYONE and be sure the person who did this is swiftly dealt with. Your telling the truth may prevent him from taking advantage of others. No means no.

I am a high school senior and I cannot imagine any more of this hell. Sitting in a classroom being lectured about irrelevant information is not in any way fulfilling or satisfying to me. The idea that I am stuck going to class every day for the next portion of my life is almost too much for me to handle. The "core curriculum" sounds like death and I do not want to spend the entirety of my young life being lectured and assigned readings over western civilization in the precolombian times.
I thought this feeling would end once I graduated HS but I know now that is not going to be the case.
I want to go out and make a difference in someone's life. I want to travel, photograph, listen to music, meet people, and just make something of my life. I cannot handle irrelevant classes and busy work for 4 more years without going insane and becoming clinically depressed.

Not going to college is not an option so don't suggest that. (link)
College isn't like high school. When you apply for the program you want to do all of the courses are relevant to it.

You may have to do 1 or 2 college English courses during a 3-4 year program but the thrust is on your field of study almost all the time with a community college.

University is different as yes you have to study irrelevant material as part of what your degree say you must have to graduate.

It sounds as though what you need to do is take a year off and decide what you truly want to do with your life during that time. Travel now, take the photography classes that will make you happy, experience music, theater and culture and relax for awhile.

I doubt your parents will mind much if they know you intend on going to college but have no idea what you want to study yet and need to explore it further. After all, you are spending their money so best to get it right.

It's NOT courses or school that makes you clinically depressed. It's an illness and sure these things don't help but do not cause it. If you feel depressed, aren't interested in much that you used to or feel trapped, unable to function see a doctor. It can make a big difference for you.

I have a corn snake around 5 /6 months old i have been feeding him pinkies but today i tries him on fuzzies at the start he wouldn't touch the fuzzie but after about half an hour he started eating but then he struggled to eat it but eventually did... But im just wondering if i should still keep him on pinkies which i give every 7 days or start him on fuzzies any help and advice will be appreciated (link)
Try calling these guys and explain what snake you have and ask why it won't eat. They're expert at Reptillia whereas the pet shop won't be.

Hello advicenators,

I am going to be buying a "new used" car pretty soon. I got a new job recently and I will be able to afford the payments. Im looking to spend somewhere in the $18-25,000 range. I don't want to buy something I'll regret with that amount of money. I have never bought from a dealership before.

What are some tips? What are some things I should look out for (Any salesmen tricks I should be wary of, or extra things that I shouldn't be paying for?) I'm a girl in my 20s that knows pretty much nothing about cars (other than how to fill up oil and change a tire-the basics) and I totally expect to be taken advantage of when it comes to cars. I'm not stupid but there's a lot of car stuff I don't know.

So anything helps, really. I'm going to do some test drives this weekend. I've researched and decided on a couple of different makes and models based on extensive internet searches and reviews. I would like to be prepared before I go.

Thank you! (link)
Read Lemon Aid Guide to Used Cars. They have one for new cars too. In it is each car maker's models by year, recalls, and common problems.

Use that and take someone with you who knows about buying cars when testing them and potentially purchasing. Be ready to walk away from a deal or if something doesn't sit right. You want someone with you who is accustomed to hearing engine knocks, knows handling etc. Never buy a car that pulls to one side or the other. It's had an accident.

I work with a guy that comes to work drinking starts complaining and making facial expression at me no matter what I do or don't do....I do what I am suppose to do he has his own work to do but feels if we are not helping him....we are goofing off....we are only obliged to help him if nothing else is on the table....I also have other duties now which he seems to resent and complains about me and rolls his eyes....from what I understand it is a form of bullying should I come right out and ask him what his problem is? I do my fair share he would like everyone else to do his work....he only likes you if you do he is very childish and when hes not there everyone comments on how nice the employee morale is. (link)
Your boss likely knows that this is his personality and that he has a drinking (and or other) problems. But you are right in the fact you don't have to take the abuse, comments, anything that creeps you out.

Approach your boss or human resources person and illustrate how this person behaves around you and that you are uncomfortable and it affecting your job. Let them handle the situation.

It's 100% the wrong thing to do in talking to him yourself and especially asking him "what's your problem?" If you do that it becomes a pissing contest and a nasty one as now he has reason to tell others you went after him.

Your superiors can handle the situation and no doubt other people are or will complain about what he has done on their own or as a group. Hang in there it will work out but not usually not instantly. That's the trouble with human resource decisions. Try distancing yourself if you can as much as possible at work also.

Im 14, 15 in september and my Boyfriend is 19, nearly 20. We both really like each other and he hasnt tried to do anything I dont want to do. But our parents dont know we are dating and im not sure how to, or if I should tell them, what do you think i should do? (link)
The law and society sees you correctly as a child because you are under 18 and are 14. They also view him as an adult which he is at 20-years-old.

It doesn't matter if anything happened that shouldn't it's not legal nor right morally or otherwise for him to pursue a relationship with you. He should find someone his own age and you most certainly should tell your parents about this. They need to know as it's not right as much as you may like him--it's quite wrong. You need to tell someone as his interest is unnatural and potentially much more harmful than you know.

My mother's last boyfriend was a bit unstable. He drank excessively, smoked marijuana, and couldn't manage his money, instead spending it on everything and anything. He recently lost his job, and out of pity my mother let him move back in with us. It's all ready been 4 months and though he's found a job he isn't leaving. He makes everyone uncomfortable. He plays really loud music so that the neighbours complain and drinks and smokes in the house. He hit my brother when he told him to stop. My mother's tried confronting him but he just twists her words around and says 'are you going to throw me on the streets?' and yesterday, I was alone in the house with him, and he was worse than usual and started screaming at me to undress because im such a whore. I don't feel safe in the house, and I'm just a bit scared and worried. Advice? (link)
You mother loves him so either turns a blind eye and or is also scared of him simultaneously. He's a bully and has no right to strike you or your brother. It's called assault and he should be charged with it. That would change everything.

What you should do is find an adult you really trust be it a teacher or relative and tell them the truth about how abusive your home life is and what he's doing with drugs, hitting people, threatening them and excessive drinking and especially the demands to undress because he thought you were a "whore."

It's disturbing but they can intervene and talk to your mother and provide you with counselling and other support. You need to talk to your mother both you and your brother in a controlled setting about the kind of damage this guy is inflicting and that maybe she should ask him to leave. Your welfare needs to be first.

can anyone suggest a good plot from my next story please ? (link)
I'm not sure I read this question correctly. From what I can gather you are a storyteller with writer's block and lack of a setting or idea for a story.

What you should ask yourself first is "who are my audience?" Try to think of what they like about your stories if you have written others. Then think about themes, topics or ideas you want to explore that don't necessarily have to connect together but through your story will.

That's how you develop characters. Think of what you would want to read and grabs you and then write the kind of story you would gravitate to. Don't worry the best writing takes time. If hitting a block come back to it later.

If I suggested a plot to you than there would be no good in it or value to you. Essentially, I would be the writer in that case. You have great ideas within you. You just have to wait, listen for them and try writing what you feel in the moment.

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