im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 5 months..we had unprotected sex but he pulled out before he came..im really worried that i am pregnant, and i could never tell my parents..i have been gettin pains in my stomach, but it could jsut be me worrying..or my period is coming..what should i do..i cant keep the baby..and im jsut really worried..is there ways i could get an abortion with out my parents knowing?..like the morning after pill

please give me some adivce what to do before i go insane

We've been talking about this a lot in school recently, and my mom works at a crisis pregnancy center so I should be able to help you out.

The "withdrawl" method (your boyfriend pulling out before he came) doesn't have a very high effectivity rate. Why's this? Well..before the male actually comes, sperm is still dispersed into the vagina and he won't technically notice. This may or may not be what happened to you, but I would still reccomend having protected sex from now on. (But just to let you know - condoms still don't protect you from becoming pregnant 100% of the time. It's close to 100%, but not garunteed)

I'm not sure wether or not you are pregnant. I'd reccomend going to your local pregnancy center or planned parenthood, and ask for a free test.

If you do end up being pregnant, I -STRONGLY- do not reccomend getting an abortion. Studies show that women who have abortions tend to suffer depression later on in life. That isn't the only reason I don't reccomend it. Listen to this: my aunt had an abortion when she was younger and she regrets it now every day of her life. She is constantly wondering what that child would have been like if it were given the chance to live.

Think about abortion this way: how do you feel when you hear on the news that a baby has been hung in a closet or choked? I know that at least I always think "what kind of sick person would do that?". Abortion is the same thing. Killing an infant. Not giving it the chance to live.

If you are STILL considering abortion, I'd do an image search for "abortion" on google.com. The images are very discusting and violent, but that is truly what abortion is.

Good luck and I hope you make the right choices!


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