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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!

I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Hey it's me again, the thing is, I am friends with this other girl, she's really sweet but I geuss she just doesn't like him. The thing is, the whole of last term he knew I liked him and he avoided me, it's only after I told him I had a guy that he relaxed and started acting nice. I mean for my bday he even gave me a card that said I looked stunning....I'm getting totally mixed signals!!! And yeah I don't blame him for wanting a gurl, but then why doesn't he give me a chance at all? I mean online he seems to be pretty interested in the same things that I am and we just click, I just wish he'd be the same here!!! (link)
Maybe he gets nervous when he thinks you like him. It could be he likes being your friend and is afraid that if you start dating it could mess up your friendship.You two really need to talk about it, do it online if you have to sometimes that is easier.It really sounds as if he has some feelings for you.keep up the online chat.I also think you need to talk about what would happen if you dated and if you thought you could still be friends if you should break up sometime down the road.I think he will come around sooner or later.Keep talking but just do put on to much don't want to scare him off.Keep after it and let me know if I can be more help.

Theres this boy that I used to like and he didn't even know what I looked like. Recently, I said hi to him in the halls and now he knows what I look like. My friend asked him if he thought I was pretty and he said yes. We have been talking online everyday for a long time and we feel we know each other pretty well. We don't know each other well enough in person, which I'm going to try to accomplish soon. I had a friend talk to him and he was saying that I wasn't the right type of girl for him, all though when he described to me the girls he likes, it sounded so much like me it was scary. He says I would be a better friend, like I am now, then a girlfriend. I really want to change his mind! Maybe if he gets to know me in person, he would! What can I do? I know we are perfect for each other, and his friends and my friends know it too. I have started developing feelings for him again, but he doesn't know and if I tell him, i'm afraid he'll reject me. Help!

~ Does he like me!? ~ (link)
He said he liked you as a friend. continue you online talking and he may eventually decide he'd like to try something else. Don't be pushy and try to rush things because you're right, he'll probably be turned off by that.Also keep friends out of it.Nothing is worse than a bunch of he said, she saids...not to mention things could get screwed up.Keep chatting and hopefully he will come around soon.

ok theres this guy every day in the last class of the day he hits me in my arm and stuff does that means he likes me...or NOT?? (link)
It could mean he likes you. What are your ages.Young boys will do this, not to good at expressing themselves.Does he say anything? If he is flirtting then I'd say odds are good he likes you!:)

Okay well there is this guy and I like him ALOT and I mean we talk all the time but everytime we talk he asks me to do stuff with him and I say yes but when it comes to the point im not ready and if i say no im a total loser and i like him but i think he is using me

*Please help!* (link)
Kinda looks like you're being used.That doesn't make YOU the loser.If this guy loves you he will respect your wishes not to do anything without making you feel like a loser.If he doesn't then why do you want him anyway?

Ok my neighbor is bi and she invited me over one time with her and another bi girl who i didnt kno was bi but then we got really really drunk and i made out with both of them and i woke up and i thought it was REALLY gross i mean ok and then i found out they werent drunk but i was and so they kept telling me i was bi and im like NO IM NOT and they keep telling me i am soo i dont believe them but am i? (link)
NO.It sounds like maybe these two set you up by getting you drunk.They don't sound like they are good friends so steer clear of them.Good friends don't set you up like that.......what losers.You are fine, nothing to be ashamed of. However what they did could very well be considered rape.They are no friends of yours.

hey yall ok i give great advice to friends about girls but i cant give me any. so... i like this girl she nos it i told her she imed me and said i like u more as a friend but i wrote a letter to her saying i understand but should i give it to her and after i give it to her should i ak her out plz help (link)
I think you should give her the note....Better yet tell her in person that you understand.Then, you stay friends and don't ask her out right away.Maybe over time if you are good enough friends she will change her opinion and she will want to date.You will send a mixed signal if you ask her out now...You just told her you understood that she only wanted to be friends right? Good luck to you :)

I really want my boyfriend to kiss me before I kiss him. I was thinking of asking one of my best friends if they would tell him that I want him to kiss me before I kiss him. Do you guys think that will work? And does anyone have any other ideas? (link)
I think you should stop worrying about it and let it happen in it's own time.He will kiss you when he's ready to. Hope you don't have to wait too long :) Don't get others involved in it. None of their business and could be embarrassing for him.

Okay so, there is this guy that I like. The only problem is, I don't think he knows me. He is in my drama class but we never talk and I am sorta nervous to be around him. My friend is really good friends with him though, but I am also nervous to tell her! I really like him though, what do I do?!? (link)
Well when the friend you have in common is talking to him you march right on over and get introduced.I know you are nervous but it will be okay.You will hit it off or you won't.You'll never know unless you try!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months, and lately I feel as if I'm losing him very slowly. Everyday he seems less and less interested in me. (Example) He gets off the phone more often without a reason, and isn't passionate when we kiss. I'm wondering if he's slipping through my grip, or is there a way for me to stop this...

Retro_romance (link)
There is probably nothing you can do to stop this.Talk it over with him and see whats going on.You will find out sooner or later anyway so ask.If he's loosing intrest for some reason, go out and find someone else and turn this one loose.

Alright, I think I like my friends ex. I went out with him before they went out. She said I couldnt like him so I stopped. Well I said I stopped but I didnt.. after what seemed like forever he asked her out, and they broke up exactly one week after, because she was a flirt with so many other guys.. what do I do? They are over but i dont want her to get mad!! I dont know where my head is?!?!?!? (link)
If she is your friend she should be happy for you.True friends do not dictate who your other friends are. So long as she isn't dating this guy then I see nothing wrong with you seeing him.You found him first anyway!

Well theres this guy ive been talking to for like 6 or 7 months now i met him through my friend. Well hes pretty cool and all. But hes always telling my friends that he likes me and all this stuff but we've never met in person all we do is talk on the phone and hes going to ask me out pretty soon and i dont know if i really should because it would cause problems with this girl and i havent even met him and probably never will since im always so busy i mean we've both been at the same parties but never noticed it or anything. So my question is when he askes me out how should i tell him no with a good reason without hurting his feelings?!? Thanks a bunch xoxo (sorry its long ill rate a 5 if you give a reasonable answer) (link)
You be truthful.Explain why you just want to keep it as friends.That doesn't mean you can't meet each other someday.Friends talk in person too! Lots of luck!

ok I finally met this kid who ive been talking to on the internet.. and im so confused with the way I feel about him. Its like I couldnt decide whether I liked him or not. Im basically preppy girl, and hes a punk rock (dude) kind of guy. Hes so different than the guys I hang around, and I cant decide if its good or bad. I know him and my guy friends wouldnt get along, and I dont know what to do or how to feel. I'm so confused. Any help?.. I rate :-) (link)
you liked him on the internet didn't you? Don't let his looks scare you off.I would personally be cautious of anyone I met online but meet him in public places for awhile and introduce him to friends.If all goes well, then judge him by his actions and not what he looks like or what others think of him.Good luck!

So i get really sweaty under my arm pits and i noe its normal but its annoying to me. Ive tried so many deodorants does anyone recomend anything?? (link)
Try some powder that contains baking soda.Use with your regular deoderant.

my dog has severe nervous agression he has never been hit he lives with a female dog my self and my son he has never gone to bite me but growelled you go to stroke him he cowers and wees i cannot touch his feet he screams he has slightly bite other pple but not badly he does not like other dogs he gets on with our other dog but occasionally they disagree they are both neutered he is the most loving and attentive dog ive seen towards myself he sleeps at my feet follows me everywhi dont know what to do ere crys when i leave the room (link)
I would take him to a vet to make sure he is not hurting somewhere.They will be able to help you. You want to be careful that he doesn't bite your son if he is small.Also you can never be to careful these days...people seem hell bent to sue each other for everything under the sun.So, you don't want him to bite someone else.You might walk up behind him sometime and clap your hands. See if he hears okay.I had a dog that would turn around and bite because he was simply startled every time he didn't see you coming.Good luck with it....I love dogs!

ok well me and my boyfriend who loved eachother broke up and ive kinda moved still single and he has another girlfriend.yeah it hurts considering shes a bff and she went behind my back.well i like this one guy named bradley and another named jeremy.bradley kinda is a player but hes not sweet to anyone else like he is to me.jeremy has a girlfriend but hes planning to break up with her i think and today at school i relized i liked him.he came up behind me in the hall to hug me.the problem is that i dont think i like bradley,i like jeremy more.i dont know what to do and also my boyfriend was huggin all up on me today because my friend wasnt here.what should i do?

X3 signed X3
Heart Challenged (link)
You aren't married so date them all.Sooner or later one will stick out as being the best one for you.Until that time just have fun.

I have this problem with frozen pizzas: I can't cook them. Any pointers? (link)
oh boy,you just throw it in the oven.When its done enough for you, you eat it.What exactly are you having a problem with? Don't burn the house down:)

Hey you guys.
I Just wanted to know what is the diffence between Oral sex and "real sex" jw.
:-) (link)
"Real sex" is penis in vagina. Oral sex is penis in mouth.Simple as that.:)

What do you guys think about having an "Ask Alice" column in a school newspaper.
like where an annonymous person (possibly me) answers annonymous questions asked my students in the school. some could be put online, and some just sent back to the students. do you think that it is a good idea, i read about it in a book, it was called "Teen Idol" by Meg Cabbot, anyone ever read it? then you may know what i am talking about, only in the book it was called "Ask Annie"

the person (maybe me) would remain annonymous so that the people asking the questions would not know who you were or if you were apart of one group or clique and them another, that way the person asking the question isnt scare or whatever!!

So, do you think that this is a good idea?

Haven't read the book but sounds like it could be a good idea.The thing is I don't know how you would keep anon.You would have to get with people to get it started and secrets don't seem well kept in schools.Good lick with it though.

Okie dokie, recently I started working....on the job, I've discovered that I am crushing on my manager and all my co-workers can tell that I like him..... he's a dancer and all this stuff so a lot of people think he is gay, but I don't think he is.... when we are around he eachother, we make the best of eachothers time... and on the first day of work I got real sick and he was very concerned. Then the next day, he asked me if I was feeling better, so he is really caring. But he laughs at everything I say and it seems like he flirts with me I dunno if he likes me or not..... and we have SOOOO MUCH IN COMMON! But I think that he won't date me (or I think I wouldn't have a chance) because of the fratnerization issue (dating anyone higher personal than you which will cause you to get fired or moved to another department.). So what should I do? Like me and him could keep a down-low relationship or somthing, but is he even interested? (link)
Don't even ask.He may like you but if he does let him be the one to say something.You could get fired yourself if he doesn't return the feeling and he thinks it will become a problem.You can't date every guy who happens to like you after all.Some will just be friends.

okay i have a BIG problem , i hate going to the school i go to and ive been really depressed lately. I try to tell my parents i dont want to go to that school but of course like most parents they dont listen. All i do is cry and i hardly get any sleep at night..i need a break from all of it i try to tell them i need a break before going to school to clear my head so i can actually pay attention. How is the best way to tell them all of this and how do i get their attention for atleast 5 minutes? Thank you sooooo much!! Xoxo (link)
You don't say how old you are.If it is any school but college you have to go because it's against the law for your parents NOT to send you.
Why is it you don't want to go? Somebody giving you a hard time? Maybe they don't have a choice where they send you to school.Most school districts will charge you extra if you don't live in their district.I'm sure that didn't help much, maybe you can give a few more details?

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