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Last Update:October 21, 2014
Hello, porn is wrecking my life. I am 24 and revert to it every few weeks or months for up to an hour - way too much. It makes me really depressed and I feel unstable mentally because of it. I don't want to pursue a relationship till I feel a bit more stable as I don't want to screw up anyone else's life. I guess the obvious answer is STOP DOING IT but it is like a drug that seems impossible to break! :(
What should I do?
You are not by any definition of the word addicted; addicted to porn. If you spend 1 hour viewing or reading porn and then can walk away for weeks or months at a time that is not an addiction. An addiction is when you cannot live without something, when must get your daily fix and you spend all your time trying to get that fix or in the case of porn or other things lavishing in the addiction.
I don't have an exact word for your problem but it is something like self-loathing after indulging in some form of porn. Why you may feel that way I really cannot say for certain. Most likely it has to do with upbringing, religious beliefs or both.
Porn does have it's place, if it didn't it would not be a multi billion dollar industry. If you're thinking porn only caters to the degenerates of the world you would be wrong. There is not enough of that class of people to support this industry to where it has grown. Most soft porn and some hardcore porn has become socially acceptable even though it remains somewhat closeted and viewed in secrecy.
Porn is also a relief valve for (young & older) people to masturbate with and relieve sexual tension. In some instances porn is a teaching aide for the young people to learn from. In older people they can indulge in some fantasy through porn before actually indulging themselves.
Porn definitely has its place in society. It is still something most people in polite society are not going to discuss around the water cooler. Though there is a good chance 4 out of 4 people around that water cooler have indulged in some type of porn during the past week and this includes that cute secretary. Have you ever read some of those Romance novels women read. They are more trashy than some of the porn novels men read.
In my view you are not addicted to porn. If you feel porn is a problem and you need help then you should see a psychologist as they are the ones qualified to help you.
im a male who cannt control my need to wear high heels away from work ones with a 6 or 7 inch heel if I don't I get depressed
Hey you have a harmless fetish, no problem. If it helps you from becoming depressed then it is a good thing. There are any number of fetishes out there today many far more harmful that wearing high heeled shoes. Yours is a harmless fetish you can indulge in with complete privacy by using the web to purchase your shoes.
Since you only made a statement there is not much else we or I can say to you. though if you have a question please write us back.
What is considered the normal way to grieve for a beloved friend who has recently committed suicide? Is it abnormal or even crazy to dump your current significant other of several months and develop romantic feelings for the guy who died? (Let's call that guy Levi just so we have something to call him BTW.) Would that be sick or unhealthy in any way?
I just miss Levi so, so much. I miss the time I had with him, I miss his smile, his laugh, his wonderful ability to make me and anyone else laugh until we hurt. Most of all, I miss his kind, generous, and loving heart.
I'd do anything to be able to go back in time and save him, or even just spend some more time with him. I'd give a kidney, an ovary, an eye, a limb, and 40 years off of my life to have been able to prevent his death, but of course it's too late.
I've also seemed to develop a bit of an anger issue since his death. Sometimes I feel like Jekyll and Hyde because I can be calm one minute, explode the next, and then go back to being calm. I don't know if this anger is really for Levi, the situation, or myself for taking him for granted.
One thing that can easily spark my anger is people judging him. As a devout Christian, I believe in Heaven and Hell, but unlike some, I don't believe that suicides go to Hell. Not if they've accepted Jesus that is. I believe that anyone who does that to themselves cannot be in their right minds and that God has mercy on them for that reason. Levi was mentally ill with bipolar disorder and clinical depression. Something was not working right in his brain at the moment he decided to end his own life and I believe God understood that and took him to Heaven where is happier and doesn't suffer the problems he did here on earth.
Needless to say, some people don't feel the same way and I get so mad when I hear some judgemental person who thinks they know more than God claim that Levi's in Hell. These people did not even know him. He was a devoted Christian, he loved God, he accepted Jesus, but these people claim that he died because he worshipped the "God of the unbelievers" as if that even makes sense. Also, they put him down and spit on him for killing himself when they have no idea what a great, kind hearted person he was. He really, honestly was an inspiration to me to be a better person, but his suicide was caused by him being sick, not cruel or selfish and certainly not evil.
The break up with the guy I was seeing was partially caused by romantic feelings for Levi and partially because I felt that I needed some space from my now ex that guy. He was a great guy, but I felt like things were kind of dying between us anyway. I don't want to become the kind of person who distances herself from everyone and keeps all of her feelings bottled up though, nor do I want these new feelings for Levi to make his death more painful.
Are these feelings normal? Is having grown an obsession with suicide and mental illness normal for someone in my situation? What is the normal, textbook way to mourn the loss of such a precious life that did not have to end, but that did end at the hands of the person whose life it was? Any tips on how to get through this?
I would say your grief is normal. People grieve in their own way. Then there are many different stages of grief. From what you have written you have gone through several of them and will probably go through others.
I lost a great friend someone I called my brother from another mother a few years ago. At first I was very mad at him for leaving me, not that he had a choice he was very sick. I hurt for a long time and writing this to you brings back some of that hurt. Football season is coming and my missing him will return to the forefront of my mind as we would spend hours in friendly arguments as to whose team was better. I miss those times and others.
Different from you is I don't have others talking bad of him and that is wrong, especially if they know how you feel about him. You have your beliefs and they have theirs some have very strong beliefs when it comes to suicide. I suggest you let them speak their mind a just let it roll of your back as you will not convince them otherwise. Get mad at them or arguing with them will not change things.
As for having romantic feelings for your friend now that he has passed; I feel this is one of the stages of grief that you have to go through in order to grief for your friend. This is part of your grieving process so that makes it normal. If I were a female I could see myself grieving in a similar manner for my friend as we were that close.
Our friendship was the type where we were never all that close geographically but in spirit we were always together. One of us always knew when the other needed the other. It was strange how we would call one another when one of us was having a bad day or just feeling down. That phone call changed our whole prospective on the day. I miss these calls and there is no one who can take their place.
If this is the type of friendship you had with Levi then you have the right to grieve in your own manner. You need time to grieve as well and the grief doesn't stop at the end of the calendars grieving period.
Grieve for your friend as long as you need to and always remember him. The hurt though should stop soon if it doesn't then you might want to consult with a grief consular to help with the grieving process.
My friend and i were just at the pool hanging out and these boys came up to us and started talking to us. We thought they were nice...but we thought wrong. They took us to the shallow end and started jumping on us and then they started touching us... IN THOSE PLACES!! We tried all we could to get away from them but we couldn't get away. Then they started doing that with us. we felt their you-know-whats on our frontal privates and our back privates. so basically what I'm trying to say is that they ra*** us. when they finally stopped, we got out of the pool and started crying. I need something to keep my mind off of wanting to beat the living hell out of all of them but nothing is working. Usually music and dancing is what gets my mind off of things, but not this time. Can you give me any songs or anything to do to not want to beat the living hell out of them and am able to go to the pool without remembering what happened?
You were not raped, what you were was sexually harassed WHICH IS A FELONY CRIME. What you need to do is call the police and report the boys who did this to you. I just as certain that the boys thought they were just having some fun, what they did may have been fun to them but under the law it was a crime and they need to learn that they cannot have this type of fun at other peoples expense.
By reporting what happened to you and your friends several things happen.
1. These boys learn what they did was wrong and they get punished by the courts for doing so.
2. Other boys learn that what these boys did was wrong and what can happen to them if the do as they did. By making a police report of this and allowing the police to handle this you send a message to every other boy in school and around town that this type of fun is unacceptable.
3. It starts the healing process for you as it brings some closure to what has happened to you. This event was very traumatic for you and it needs to be dealt with a closure for you has to happen. Closure must include punishment for those who hurt you.
You also need to tell your parents, not that you need them to make the police report. The police will take a report from you but they will also want to talk with your parents if you are under a certain age. So it is best that you tell your parents what happened. Yes the will be upset but not at you. YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT.
There are other things that only your parents can do to make sure this never happens again. Such as finding out why the life guards did not see this and stop it. If the life guards did see it why was it not reported to the police and in their daily report to the pool operator.
Last there is a phone number I would like you to call and to give to your friends. it is 1-500-656-HOPE. This number will connect you to an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Incest, Abuse, National Network. The calls are anonymous and confidential. They are answered by trained volunteers who can help you find the right help in the form of counselors in your home town who can help you deal properly with this. The phone is answered 247 365 days a year.
Please tell your parents, make a police report and call RAINN.
20/f I was admitted into a partial care program after OD'ing in an attempt to kill myself. It's been a few days into the program, a little more than a week since the attempt has been made.
Right now I'm in a bit of a bubble, so to speak. I haven't been out with friends, I'm not going to work, really the only communication I have at the moment is through Facebook. Our family has moved around quite frequently, but I've kept a lot of my friends through FB, and we talk frequently. Anyhow, what I'm torn about is whether or not I should post a "life update" status, if you will, and inform everyone of what's going on, why I'm so quiet and cooped up lately.
I guess what I'm concerned about is whether or not it's appropriate. I planned on making it a "friends only" status, but of course there are many acquaintances I have as FB friends as well. But I want to be honest for once, I'm sick of hiding how I feel or what I'm going through, I've been doing that for over 5 years, and look where it got me. Everyone knows me as the cheerful one, the one they can depend on. Right now I need to be able to be myself, and have support. I feel like continuing to hide and keep everything hushhush is a bad way to do that.
I don't know, I'm torn on whether or not it's a good idea to post about it. Any thoughts/opinions please?
When I finally admitted to myself that I suffered from depression and needed help. I decided to do as my brother in-law who is a recovering alcoholic does in his aa program. I chose to follow some of the steps in their 12 step program that applied to me and my illness.
One of those steps is being truthful to yourself and others. Not everyone is going to be supportive or understanding of what your going through. The ones that do understand will be supporting of you. The ones that don't understand or you somehow hurt while being depressed will not be supporting and may even say some hurtful things to you.
These are these are the people that concern me at the moment. Do you feel being only a few days into your program that you are strong enough to take whatever criticism or accept any hurtful things that might be said back to you. I know that it took me months to get to this point in my therapy before I was strong enough to take the bad with the good.
While I agree with you 100% that this is something you should do I would suggest you first talk this over with your therapist. See how the therapist feels about you doing so at this point in your recovery. Trust your therapist, he or she has only your best interest at heart.
You and I didn't get as far depressed as we did overnight. I didn't recover overnight and neither will you. I recovered and so will you if you do the work asked of you to recover.
Recovery takes time and it takes work. Trust your therapist and the therapist will tell you when you can do this and some other things you may want to do such as start to date again. When you reach that point you will be well on your way to a full recovery.
I didn't quite fall as far as you but it was close. I'm always here and I have a big shoulder if you want to talk you can always send me private messages.
Hi to everyone who comes across this page. I am a male in my late 20's. I was diagnosed with schizoaffective bipolar type disorder as a teenager. I have seen many psychiatrist's since then and have been put on a variety of drugs. The last prescription I was given was for Abilify. I started taking it about four years ago. Without my current psychiatrist's approval or knowledge I have been off it for about three months now. I don't believe I am insane. At least not yet. The problem I am having is that I can't identify with myself. I hate to do this, I don't like to whine and complain about my life. It makes me think I am ungrateful for what I have. I don't like posting this online where any random creep who feels like spreading negativity can reply to my post but I have no one to talk to in real life. My thoughts are really not making sense to me and can be entirely disturbing at times. I feel out of control, fatigued, and worst of all abnormal. Like I don't fit in with society. I believe I am inferior to most people because most people are self assured and social. I am not self assured and I don't have any friends. Not even one. My purpose for posting this is to ask if anyone has had similar experiences and how did you get past all the negativity and start being more positive and self accepting?
HI, I do not suffer with the problems you suffer with though I do have a couple of friends that are suffering with bipolar disorder. Also my wife works for the largest supplier of mental health services in the country. Through her work we are friends with a number of psychiatrist and psychologists several of whom deal with disorders like yours.
No you are not insane but you do have a mental illness that can be controlled with medication. One of the biggest problems with the problems you are dealing with is when you are on your medications you feel fine. You see no reason to take your medications and you go off them. When you do you head down the path you are now on.
You need to get back on the Abilify and any other medications you have stopped taking. You also need to call your psychiatrist and make an appointment to see him or her urgently. Tell the appointment secretary you went off your medications and need to see the doctor.
Most important is you get back on your medications and take them as directed until you see your doctor. Then follow the doctors directions for when you are to take the medications.
Also write yourself a note that you can put on your refrigerator to see everyday reminding you that you feel good because of your medications. The note should also remind you of what is like when you are off your medication as part of the problem you have is you don't remember what the other side of the illness is like. Let the not be a reminder so you stay on your meds.
So lately I have gone to sleep and been waking up with my whole body vibrating and I can't move or talk at all until I build up the strength to move a little and I read about it obviously cause I was freaked out and I was in sleep paralysis and I brushed it off and recently it happened again and I couldn't breathe and I was getting really scared and which made it even harder to breathe so my question is what's exactly is sleep paralysis and how do I get rid of it
I found a very good article on sleep paralysis From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. I will include the URL for it at the bottom.
First I have to say that none of us are doctors and that sleep paralysis is a sleep disorder that requires a proper diagnoses especially when having repeated attacks. From what I was able to briefly scan sleep paralysis as you described is likely to happen to any or all of us at one time or another and is usually an isolated event. I have had a similar attacks; twice that I can remember. Both were after very trying days.
If you are having repeated attacks close together then from what I was able to read this falls into a classification of a sleep disorder. As you will see in reading the article that is attached there are medications and treatments that can limit these attacks.
These attacks can very well be stress related. The school year is starting and maybe you changing schools going from middle school to high school. Maybe you signed up for challenge classes and don't know what to expect. Maybe this is your last year of High school I don't know you so I can't say. What I can say is that these times and these challenges can be very stressful on today's teenager and this is how the body deals with the stress.
What I suggest is that you see a doctor and tell the doctor what is going on. Since school is starting if you haven't had a physical yet for this year now is a good time to have one. The bodies way of dealing with what might be just too much stress is not good. The doctor can help and not all of the medications I saw that the use are tranquilizers. Some are hormone replacements to replace missing hormones that puberty has yet to supply which would help with stress.
My suggestion is see your doctor. This may not be a big problem but it is big enough to cause you more stress and therefore a reason to see your doctor.
Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and I don't really feel normal. For starters my breasts are too small and I'm short, so I'm physically falling behind all of my peers. I know that I'll catch up though, so that only hurts my self esteem, but I'll be ok. What I'm really concerned with is mental development. I feel like I'm too "hormonal". I Masturabate once every two days or so and I have sex fantasies and things like that (although I'm not going to actually have sex for a long time). It just concerns me because most of the kids at my school seem so innocent, like they don't have hormones, or fantasies, or anything. So an I the only one? Am I "normal"?
Relax your normal. Masturbation is something most people, including teenagers don't talk about. In your case masturbating once every two days puts you at the low end of the scale.
Most teenagers, especially boy, need to masturbate at least once a day to deal with all the new hormones being released into their body. Masturbation is not only normal it is the best way for a young teenager to deal with the sexual energy now floating through them as they go through puberty. Sexual fantasies and masturbation go hand in hand so this too is normal.
Masturbation is, according to a recent survey, something 85% of the population does. This means in a 3.4 out of every 4 people masturbate. If you are in a family of 4 this means that you and your parents masturbate. For your parents it usually means they do so as part of foreplay before sex and would include, fingering, oral sex and hand jobs.
Masturbation is not a sin, it is just not something the church, Rabbi's or Imams condone. The why of it is because it is felt the pleasure derived from masturbation will lead young people to the real thing. As an adult I don't believe this.
Masturbation allows you to get in touch with your sexuality in a safe and comfortable way. So you are normal. Relax and allow yourself to enjoy getting to know your body and sexuality. Just do so in the privacy of your bedroom with your door closed.
Hi there,I will be going on a trip to California next month and Im scared as I can be!!
Im terrified of planes and flying!!!
I have this fear,because I dream quite frequently that Im going to die,or have died on a plane because it crashed!!
I seriously dont want to get on a plane,but kts not avoidable.Just thinking about it gives me even more anxiety than I already have.
To make it worse,I have to change planes on the way!! I know Im being chicken,and I need to get over it.But Im so so scared!!
I have flown about 5 times actually,but its been 12 years since I have flown.
Can anyone help me as to how I cannot be afraid anymore??
If you can find a psychologist who would be willing to give you extensive therapy between now and the time you have to leave. A psychologist is really the only person who can work with you to help you get over the fear of flying, though it takes time.
You could also seek the help of hypnotist to help you. They can put a suggestion in you while you are under that can reduce your anxiety. The last resort is to ask your doctor for a mild tranquilizer to take just before departure and again while changing planes. Mile tranquilizers can usually be taken 4 hours apart.
If you do go the tranquilizer route DO NOT DRINK ALCOHOL WHILE TRAVELING. Alcohol at altitude has a much stronger effect than on the ground.
Now I could sit here a write about how safe it is to fly. How safe todays passenger aircraft are and how it is more likely you would get hit by a bus crossing the street then by dying in a plane crash. Somehow I think you know all this and trying to rationalize an irrational fear. It just doesn't work. Try one of the three I suggested.
Most of the time I like being a girl. I'm a very girly person in general. I like wearing dresses, I have long hair, I like necklaces, stuffed animals etc.
The thing is that when it comes to having sex or a romantic relationship with someone I'd rather be a guy. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend I feel so uncomfortable because I just don't like being a girl in bed. I also don't like being dominant, so that's not the problem. I'm just uncomfortable with my private parts and my whole gender when it comes to these things.
Because of this, we don't have sex very often.
Whenever I fantasize about either sexual or romantic relationships, I think of myself as a guy. Anything else just turns me off. I also don't like heterosexual pairings. I usually just read books or watch movies about two guys being in a relationship because a girl would just ruin the whole story for me.
This leads to another problem I have.
I don't get along with girls. Just their presence makes me feel really uncomfortable. Whenever there is a girl around, I just want to get away. I don't have any friends that are girls, I just feel really weird around them and usually don't get along with them very well.
I don't know if I'm really born in the wrong body or anything like that, because as I said, I'm not tomboy-ish, I like being girly and dressing girly.
I don't know what's wrong with me. :(
I'm really not sure how to answer you on this. I not sure if any of us are qualified to answer you. I can speak quite well on sexual identity questions, Transgender, homosexuality and other sexual problems.
Your question though takes a turn I've never encountered before that being you like being a girl except when having sex. You don't like girls so you can't be a lesbian and you don't fit, at least to my understanding a transgendered person. Neither do you fit the definition for Pansexual.
What I suggest since there may not be any among us that can offer you any help is that you contact a psychologist who specializes in sexual identity and dysfunction. I do not believe you are sexually dysfunctional though I do believe your problem my be in the area of sexual identity.
Hi this will sound really weird but a couple of days ago my head started to feel really numb like if i held ice on it or something and it still does and whenever someone talks to me I don't understand them right away and it has been taking me a while to respond. I can't get a doctors appointment until September and I am worried because I have been forgetting a LOT of things and I felt really stupid and embarrassed today because I hit my head on a pole even though I was looking straight forward and should have known not to do it. It hasn't even been easy to write this on the computer. Does anyone know what might be happening, i don't really have as many thoughts in my head as i used to and my friends are calling me stupid what is wrong?
None of us are doctors so we can not make a diagnoses. From what you are saying I would suggest you go to the nearest Hospital Emergency Room and have this checked out.
Of the possibilities; you could be suffering a small blood leak to the brain. There is also a possibility of a tumor or blood clot. These are all serious conditions all of which require radiology exam to rule out.
All of the conditions are serious to life threatening. Do not drive, do not drive yourself to the hospital. In fact I would suggest even if you have someone that could drive you to the hospital that you call 911 and have them come and transport you. The paramedics can do a field assessment and transport you to the proper hospital based on their assessment.
This is the type of problem that is why we have the 911 system. Call them and let them assist you. Call 911 and get to a hospital now, today from wherever you are.
I'm a female and 15 years old I have no emotions I haven't felt anything since I was 8! My mother is worried about me because I have show a symptoms of depression lately. My mom says I'm depressed because I'm stressed but I think it's because I found out my father killed people and that's why he is in prison! I'm was courious if this was a normal thing or should I be worried or I don't exactly know so if anyone has anything that would help I would really apreciate it!
Having no emotion is an emotion of itself. Having no feelings is different and this may be what you are saying. From what you wrote I think this is what you are saying.
Your father being in prison for killing people can have an effect on you adversely as you describe. Now how your dad killed someone is important also. If say he did so unintentionally in an auto accident that is way different than intentional homicide. People go to prison for unintentional homicide just the same as for intentional homicide. The only difference is the term of incarceration.
I'm always here if you want to follow up and I would like to hear back from you as to how your are feeling. This is not how you have to live there is help. Please get the help that is out there.
Still this can be very stressful on a child so both you and your mother are correct. Stress causes depression. Depression causes pain which in your writing I believe you are saying is no emotion. Having been that depressed myself I belief this is what you're saying.
Feeling as you do one could say is both normal and abnormal. It is normal considering the circumstances that you would feel as you do. It is abnormal for you to have to lives this way for there is help for the depression, stress and pain you live with.
This help starts with a visit to your family doctor so that you can be properly diagnosed for the depression you suffer from. From there you follow your doctor's instructions as to what treatment is needed. By following your doctor's instruction and taking any medication your doctor or other doctors prescribe as prescribed. You will feel much better in about 4 to 6 weeks as the medicine and talk therapy do what they do best.
I'm always here if you want to follow up and I would like to hear back from you as to how your are feeling. This is not how you have to live there is help. Please get the help that is out there.
For almost 2 weeks, I have been taking Zoloft. I haven't felt better whatsoever. I thought it would be working by now, but it's not and I'm not sure when it will.
I have been experiencing countless moments of feeling like I am in a dream. I don't feel like I'm in my body. I do think I have depersonalization. I have been experiencing this for a couple years, but I feel like it has gotten worse. I overthink way too much, and I think it's caused by my anxiety. Whenever I think of the thought of not being in my own body, I get that feeling for long periods of time. I can't get my mind off it and I don't know what to do. I'm almost certain that Zoloft will help this go away, but the meds haven't worked yet.
Give the medication one moe week. If you don't start to feel better call your doctor In the mean time try to relax and give the medication a chance to work.
Would it be okay for me ti tslk to him on fb send him and texts and talk to him on the phone as long as I don't see him in person until I talk to her.
Yes I think that would be fine
My dad died when I was 12 and awhile back I wrote on here about how my cousins husband told me I could call him dad and now my cousin and him are seperated I feel bad for my cousin I really do I don't want to sound selfish but I miss thos father daughter talks we use to have and I don't 'rwant to talk to my cousin about how I feel because I know sh e is hurting right now before he left he said just because they are together anymore dosnt mean I am not his daughter anymore but how is that possible when I can't talk to him or see him anymore. What should I do? He left when I wasn't there. I didn't even get to say goodbye.
I seem to remember your original letter I do not remember if I answered you.
When two people separate they hurt more than just themselves. If there are children involved they hurt their children and then of course there are members of their extended families that are hurt who have formed attachments to them. This is where you come in to this picture.
Right now you must feel some allegiance to your cousin as she is family yet you miss the father daughter relationship you have had with her husband. I think this is a natural situation for you given how close you were to him and your cousin. What he meant in what he said to you when he left you cousin is what a father would say to his children when moving out of the family home. They say something to the effect that just because mom and I don't live together anymore doesn't mean I am not still your father. He is and always will be.
I believe this is what he was trying to say to you. That you can still come to him just as you did before he and your cousin separated, that you did not get a chance to say good bye. You say you were not there when they separated so I am wondering how this got to you? Did your cousin tell you this?
If your cousin told you that he said this then it would be okay for you to talk to her now and ask her how she would feel if you stayed in touch with him. You should tell why you need to stay in touch with him then ask her if it is okay with her if you do. If she is not the one that told you this then give your cousin some time to heal and then talk to her.
In the mean time you could send him emails but not see him in person until you have spoken to your cousin and get her blessing.
I'm an 11 year old female
Even though it takes me an hour to go to sleep without a light source, and outside at night I'll start getting sick (she's witnessed this), and once I tried to talk to her, and said it was nyctophobia, she only laughed and said it's not a phobia. She also tries to fix it on her own. The problem is, she thinks she could fix it, but she isn't trained to do it,I know I need a psychologist or something like that, but she refuses to admit it. She is all like,“common, (my name), you never had this before!" When really,I did. I remember I had several night lights. What should I do?
In this instance both you and your mom are somewhat correct. This is a common phobia that usually is found in younger children and generally clears on its own as children get older and learn there is no boogeyman. In your case there may be a reason you are having anxiety attacks at bedtime and at night.
You probably did have this problem as a young child. Did it ever go away. If it did and has since returned then something has happened to cause it. It could be some type of trauma, not an injury type but something you saw or read. It could also be something someone has said to you that has scared you.
Based on what you have written that about what mom said and the night lights you had. I believe at one time when you were much younger you had the normal night time phobias of young children. This is why mom said what she said we parents have a tendency to forget the normal things.
since you cannot talk to your mom or she is not willing to listen to you. Is it possible you could talk to your grandparents or possibly a favorite Aunt or Uncle who would then talk to mom for you. Other than that the only other thing I can say to you is to deal with this until mom takes you for your back to school physical and then tell the doctor. You are old enough now that mom doesn't have to be in the exam room with you and you can ask her to wait in the waiting room. It will be just you the doctor and if it is a male doctor his nurse so you can talk freely to him or her. Then tell the doctor about this and let the doctor talk to mom.
If your school system is not like mine and does not require back to school physicals. Then when you return to school go talk to the school nurse.
Four years ago I have been suffering with terrible anxiety and panic attacks. I was diagnosed with Panic Disorder. I was taking clonazepam for it 1mg 2x daily.
However, about a year ago I researched what ADHD was and I thought I matched all the symptoms. I went to go see my Psychiatrists and he was willing to try Ritalin. I immediately had so much energy and was finally able to keep a job for the few months I was on it. I then read the Rx label and it said may cause new bi polar symptoms including mania. I also found out it was a controlled narcotic.
I went back to my Psychiatrists told him about how much evergy I had and he then diagnosed me with Bi Polar I. He put me on Abilify which I only tried for one day. I was very confused of all these diagnoses within four years. In the mean time I still suffered with anxiety attacks and had a fear of failure going back to work..
How do I know if I am Bi Polar or ADHD now? I got a second opinion and he says ADHD and my counselor says I am not Bi- Polar. How can he make such a quick judgement?
When it comes to psychiatry and the practice there of. In many states in the U.S. any doctor that did a rotation in psychiatry during their Residency can practice psychiatry. This does not make them the best psychiatrists.
The best psychiatrists are the ones who have been Board Certified by the College of Psychiatrists. These are Medical Doctors who have done a Fellowship in psychiatry after their residency and past all the test and standards to practice psychiatry.
Your counselor may be a clinician such as a psychologist or social worker who is trained to help you deal with the problems of your illness but is not a medical doctor and in most states is not allowed to make a diagnosis. Though they can suggest to you what they think. I know this is a bit confusing but so is anything that concerns one's mental health.
Since it would be wrong of me to make any type of judgment here and you are still confused and being re-diagnosed between two different illnesses. I suggest you do the following:
Find a board Certified Psychiatrist for another opinion. Call the State Board of licensing or your local hospital if need to find one. Then allow that doctor to help you find a psychologist he or she can work with for you to work with in dealing with whatever diagnoses this doctor finds.
As for the medication. If by chance you are diagnosed as bipolar the medications for this illness take time to work. They do not work overnight and yes they will make you feel different for a while. Give them a chance to build up in you and give your body a chance to get use to them. Do not stop taking them without first talking with your doctor. All that might be needed is a change is dosage to make you feel better.
Yes some of these drugs are a schedule II or I drugs. This is not something to be concerned about. It mostly concerns how the doctor prescribes and how the drug is tracked by FDA. Just because it is a Narcotic does not mean you are going to become a Junkie.
Ever since I was about six years old I always used to sing in the car. I was not very good at it but it was something that I did. I knew all the lyrics and song titles etc.) Now that I have been driving on my own for 5 yrs I always sing in the car very loudly and I am not any good. When I sing I feel very good. I will NEVER sing around anyone because I know that I am terrible at it. However, in my car I feel safe and no one can judge me so I will jam out to my favorite songs over and over sometimes.
Could these be manic episodes that I am having for all these years? I am 23. Or could it be ADHD?
I sing in the house too but only when there is no one around. I dance too sometimes also not very good at that but only in the privacy of my own home.
Can someone please explain to me if this sounds like a manic episode? I also suffer from panic attacks and I have social anxiety. Any advice would be great.
We are not doctors so we cannot make any medical diagnosis. I will say that this does not sound anything like bipolar disorder or ADHD. It sounds more like a coping mechanism of some type, possibly something you developed a long time ago to deal with the panic attacks.
Bipolar disorder is the current name for manic depression. A person who suffers with manic depression or bipolar disorder has swift mood swings that can last for hours to days. Mood swings that go from being extremely happy one minute to extremely depressed the next. This does not sound like that. ADHD is more of a compulsive disorder which this also does not sound like you.
If this coping mechanism works for you don't worry about it. There are many different ways people find to cope with things in life. A good friend of mines wife likes to do her housework in the nude. This is her way of coping with the daily stress of life. She keeps a bathrobe by the door incase she has to answer the door. There is nothing wrong with this either. Just before the kids come home from school she takes her shower and gets dressed. She is a happy well adjusted and stress free person and a great cook. (Just thought I would throw that last part in, have no idea if how she does her house work effect her cooking)
Have you ever seen a therapist for either your panic attacks or social anxiety disorder. If you haven't you should as a therapist can be a big help in properly dealing with both of these problem. Your family doctor can also offer you medication to help with the panic attacks while you see a therapist about them.
Both the panic attacks and the social anxiety are caused by triggers. In therapy you can learn to identify the triggers before the attacks begin and deal with them in a more acceptable manner then a panic attack.
There is no reason to have to live with these problems for this is help for the asking. as far as the singing goes. If it makes you feel better then continue.
I started taking Zoloft last night. I have severe anxiety and depression. I decided to give it a shot, but I was scared of it getting worse. Well...
I know it hasn't been 24 hours yet, but I feel as if it's getting worse and I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's because I'm freaking myself out over it. I've been scared to take medicine, so I have not. But I decided I cannot live like this anymore. I must find a solution. So I decided to take them but what if it just keeps getting worse and worse? Anyone who takes any antidepressants that know how long I'll feel like this? :(
Please do not listen to littlesky9 for he or she does not know what he or she is talking about. The only thing he or she may be a bit correct about is the suicide thing as it is a side effect of some antidepressant medications.
Zoloft is one of the older antidepressants and used by many doctor for people under 18 because it is a very stable medication that does not have many side effects including suicide. Although like other medications it does come with the warning to contact you doctor is you start having suicidal ideations.
Hopefully I have cleared that up for you. Antidepressants are not like antibiotics. They do not start working over night. They need to build up in your body as they are a hormonal replacement for hormones such as serotonin a natural hormone made by your body. When people suffer depression, especially clinical depression diminished or insufficient serotonin levels is usually the culprit.
The time it takes for these levels to build up in your body depends on the dosage you are on and how your doctor decides to build you up. In my case I was started at a low dosage and 3 weeks later the dosage was increased. Along the way I started to feel better and better as the dosage increased and my body stored more and more of the antidepressant.
What is very important with this medication is to take it exactly as prescribed by the doctor. Try to take it every day at the same time especially while you are building up on it. Being compliant with your medication and seeing both your doctor and therapist and being open with them so that the stressor that is causing your depression can be identified is key to recovery.
Clinical depression is caused by stress. Stress causes depression, depression causes pain, including mental pain which causes depression. It is a vicious circle that has to be broken. Proper medical treatment and talk therapy is how you recover.
Give the medication time to work, you should start to feel a bit better in a few days and then a bit better every day there after. If not then call the doctor to see if a change in dosage or if a different medication may be needed. But please stay on the medication it will work. If this is your first depressive episode you will not have to take the medication forever. Probably for a year to 18 months and then the doctor will take you off of it.
Please do not listen to littlesky9 for whoever that is does not know what they are talking about. I've been there. I've taken the medication and I have recovered by doing just what I am advising you to do.
I am a teenager. I've suffered with Anxiety, Depression, and Depersonalization for the past few years and have decided it's time to fix it. I can't live like this. The doctors want me to go on Zoloft, but I'm scared that there will be side effects or something. I rejected medication a couple years back, and I sort of regret it. I want to get better, but I don't want to have any hallucinations or for it to get worse. Any advice? What do you think I should do?
Take the medication. Zoloft is one of the older medications and has few side effects. The most noticeable one is a decreased sexual desire or ability.
Now Antidepressants and antibiotics do not work the same. An antidepressant takes time to build up in your system. So the effect will can take several weeks to take effect. It is a more natural feeling that you should start to feel a bit better day by day as you body absorbs the new hormones Zoloft is supplying.
For your part you should just forget about the medication and just let it do its job. If you start to have feeling that you don't think are right the first person to tell is one of your parents and then your prescribing doctor.
Most people do not suffer any real side effects from this medication. You may feel drowsy or have a dry mouth at first. Tell mom or dad if you do but it should pass as your body grows accustomed to the medication.
Most important is to take the medication as prescribed and as close to the same time every day.
My son has been on Zoloft for two years and has suffered no side effects at all.