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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :)
Can a relationship survive on not so good sex my boyfriend is 22. I'm not sure if it's because he was in a terrible accident when he was younger but he can't stay hard and if he does get off its not very much. I enjoy sex a lot. Could these become a problem.
Although a relationship is not all about sex, Sex has a lot to do with a good relationship.
If there is no sexual content in the relationship then it would be considered platonic.
Technically, The answer to your question would all depend on the standards and expectations you seek in a partner. I would say as long as you both have a good solid relationship with good communication then I don't see why not. Sex isn't what a relationship is about, It's only part of a relationship.
I know, I know... not very mature of me. :) But I dearly love this old pair of footy PJs my ex gave me years ago. They are threadbare, and I would like to buy a new pair but I haven't seen any in local stores. I hate to buy on-line, but if you can tell me a site that has them and that you trust with your CC info then I will. Thanks!
I have seen them at Walmart
Can anyone tell me if fullmoneysystem.com is a scam or a real way to make money online? I watched the video and it all looks really good but seems to good to be true, you know what I mean? I don't have a lot of money so I don't want to risk this if it looks like a fraud to any of you. I am not very smart about these things, so can you help me?
I hate it burst your bubble, but it's a scam.
There are no ways to make money offline without a catch.
If you want to make some money I suggest something like babysitting or a part time job. Websites and Surveys are a crack of bullshit.
It's like telling someone to stick a needle in their ass and it will magically grow
Hi! Can you tell me what web browser you think is the best one to use and why? There are so many now I don't even know which one is going to be safest and hopefully still fast. Does anyone know?
Less lag, Loads faster and No spam.
What do you think about the idea of buying a car off Craigslist in a city where you don't live? I found a car I would really like, and was thinking I could get on a train and go pick it up then drive back. Has anyone ever done this before? Did it work out well for you?
Best bet is buying from a private dealer.
I would definitely stay away from Craigslist as it is and can be the biggest scam. Anytime you buy a car make sure you ask the owner if they can provide a report, Car accident history etc.
Never go on Craigslist for something like that unless you really want to take a chance on being disappointed.
My daughter is a Junior in HS and she is dating a freshman. I really don't have a problem with it but most of her friends are freshman also and my husband does not like it at all! My husband thinks she should be hanging out with other teenagers her age with the same goals (looking at colleges, soccer, etc). I'm not so sure. I tend to think hubby is more concerned with the way it looks. I figure if she is happy and they are good kids then it's okay.
She says the kids her age are not nice. She tends to hang out with others where she can be the leader of the pack. I think she feels more confidence with the younger crowd.
My husband wants her to cut it off with this boy. She wants to go to prom with him. I'm thinking it's okay. What do you think?
Sounds like your husband is being a typical dad
Your daughter being a junior in High School I am assuming that she would be around 16-17 years old while the boyfriend may be 15-16. Honestly, I really don't see a big deal here and I think your husband is over thinking it.
I am in my late 20's and most of my friends are from 22-25 years while I am a few years older. I would be more concerned if your daughter was 17 dating someone who was 13-14 years old. If they are a year or two apart then I wouldn't sweat it. I know this is also hard to hear as a parent but if your daughter is sexually active with her boyfriend then again, I wouldn't sweat it either. I would make sure she is on birth control just to be on the safe side though. Many states the legal age to consent is 16 which again she is fine.
Let the girl go to the prom, Wish her good luck and be happy for her.
I am a 44 year old woman. I have been married for 3 years. During the marriage I have been happy, but my husband hasn´t been. He has cheated on me 3 times, left me twice, and has currently asked me for a divorce. My problem is: I fight tooth and nail for a reconciliation. I have used logic, patience, understanding, and giving in to my husband´s every whim to get him to see how worthwhile it is to have a good life together. I feel all it takes is maturity and respect to make things work. To me, divorce is the last resort. I would feel like a total failure with divorce. When I didn´t agree to divorce, my husband became infuriated. He started throwing things, breaking things, and yelling F*** YOU, I HATE YOU. I cant let him go! I have an addiction to this man that I cant shake. What do I do?
You have become addicted to having someone around, Not really the marriage in general. People who hold onto relationships/People in an unhealthy environment are often people who are afraid to be alone and suffer some sort of anxiety or depression.
From the sound of it, You're marriage has hit the end of the road. Unless you both have agreed to attend marriage counseling together, Then unfortunately you may have to take the necessary steps towards divorce. Sometimes things don't always go the way we want them too and divorce does not mean you failed. Often people misjudge the word "Failure and Divorce" You see, Relationships of any kind don't come without a risk. Love, Is a risk we take from the start, Even in a friendship. You are not the only one to have a bad marriage, Go through divorce or even try to wits end to make a marriage work.
Sometimes in order to move on we need to learn to except that a situation is what it is and learn to let it go. If you can't shake it on your own then I would suggest connecting with a therapist who can help you cope through it. In order for a marriage to work, TWO people have to be willing to work together as one and in this case he doesn't seem to be working with you. To me, This sounds like an unhealthy marriage and would really be best to go your own way.
I an a 14year old male vergin and i want to lose my verginity badly with another woman! If there is any girl out there willing enough to "do it" despite my looks, i will reward you with whatever i got being $20+! I am not circumsized just to let you know! My address will be given to you only by email!!
I am also Canadian! I will not lose my verginity to a chubby! Or men!!!
For starters, This is NOT a dating site.
Also, To offer money in exchange for sex is called prostitution. It is a crime in which you can get in serious trouble for.
Also to note the obvious, You are a minor. Giving your personal information to strangers is NOT a good idea at all. The internet is flooded with pedophiles etc. Giving out your information can get you and someone else into some serious legal troubles. The age to even consent to sex is 16, Anyone who has sex with someone your age can be charged for statutory rape whether you have given the consent or not.
Stop being desperate, Do not give random strangers your personal information as you NEVER know who you are talking too online. People lie all the time and again, You are putting yourself and your family at risk by feeding your personal information.
I'm a 19 year old girl and I've been engaged to the love of my life for over a year now. He's 19 as well. Our relationship is great and everything runs smoothly except one thing. He's met all of my family and they love him but I haven't met all of his family yet because they live out of state. The problem is is that some of them have judged me cruely; told my fiancé I wasn't hardworking and wasn't worthy enough to be with him, even though they don't know me. Because of this they've been trying to get him to leave me for a girl that's a family friend down where they live. My fiance's reassured me that their opinion doesn't change how he feels about me and never will and they will have to live with it, but I don't know what to do. Not only was all this very hurtful but now I'm very worried about meeting them and if something bad will happen with them plotting to get my fiancé with another girl. I've even started wondering myself whether I'm good enough for him now. What should I do? Should I just ignore them? Should I talk to my fiancé more about it? I'm so afraid to meet them now because I don't know what will happen. Please help me. Any advice will help. Has anyone else had a similar situation?
Adviceman is right, This happens all the time.
Unfortunately, There is an old saying that when you marry someone, You marry the entire family too.
Meaning, This can go a few ways, You're fiance can talk to his family about how disrespectful it is too him that they are not accepting of his relationship and engagement to you as he is a grown adult who is entitled to his own choice.
Many times when a family pressures another family member over a relationship they are in, The relationship overtime becomes vulnerable and strained. One thing you never ever want too do is come between your fiance and his family. I am married, I could go on and on about what a rough road it was between my husband and I with is side of the family but long story short, Just be you and hope they will come around in time.
Unfortunately on my behalf, Certain members never did come around 6 years later. That is okay, You do not have to be best friends with these people but show you are respectful and mature enough to remain on mutual terms with them. My best advice is that your fiance needs to have a serious talk with his family. Tell them to stop and that the choice is his and he chooses you and it will remain that way.
My guy friend has been ignoring me for 3 days. From thinking back I can short of guess what I did wrong but there's no reason to get mad at me because if that.
Anyways, I have been trying to get him to talk to me but I didn't succeed. We don't have many class together and when ever I see him he tries to walk away before I can get close to him. I don't want to talk to him when we have class and he leaves immediately before I can say anything.
What should I do?
If he was truly a friend in the first place then he would give you the respect to talk to you. Any relationship takes two, Right now instead of being a two you are a one.
If he has been deliberately ignoring you while you are trying to reach out too him, Try sending him a text message or leave him a voice mail. Don't go on a full blown rant just ask him if everything is okay and that you are here if he wants to talk. If he decides to respond then great, If not then I would wait around a week or so if he decides not too come around then I would start to question where you two stand.
Did he recently get a girlfriend? This might have something to do with it? On the other hand, If he doesn't come around at all maybe he is trying to wean his way out of the friendship
what would you do if your underage daughter got pregnant after having consensual sex with a boy?
My sister is having twin girls next month, but she can't decide what to name them. She asked me for suggestions, but I couldn't think of anything either... Anyway, we need name suggestions. Both of them should start with the same letter and/or sound good together. Thanks!
Juliana and Alexis (My favorite)
Ashley and Ashlyn
Britany and Briana
Ashlyn and Aislyn
Melissa and Melanie
Amy and Anna
Vanessa and Jaleah
Im in a long distance relationship for 1 year now. when he left in January, it kinda felt a little different.
He keeps telling i should find someone better and that i deserve better. He also said he wants me to be skinnier and says I sometimes look ugly when i dont do my hair. He also broke up with me a few times (at least i thought he did)
I told him like 4 times, that if he does this again to me, i wont come back. yeah like i said i did that 4 times, i always forgive him.
Now he did it again, told me his "Im-gonna-break-up-with-you-speech" again and that hurt me so much.
I told him that this really hurts me and he didnt even apologize. he was just like "ok.sorry"
We said that i will visit him in summer again, and he still wants me to come. I mean i want to come too, but it cant go on like that right?
I really dont know what to do...
Thank you for reading that, I appreciate every advice
No guy that truly cares about someone would EVER care about their appearance. This guy is a classic asshole who is controlling and manipulative. Guess what, You don't owe him shit. If someone can't except you for who you are as a person, Then you shouldn't be with them to begin with. It is NOT about how you look, It's about who you are. Find someone who loves you for YOU as a person and appreciates you. Who gives a flying shit about your hair or your weight, It's not what matters. I feel sorry for this jerk I really do, Good luck to him on ever finding anyone who is willing to accept that bullshit. Stop forgiving him, Stop talking to him period. Cut him loose and move on
Thanks for helping… I am a 21 year old Female. I met a guy in the Army online almost a year ago. We have met before; however majority of our relationship has been long distance. He is in Hawaii and I am in Florida. He has 3 more years in his contract and he hopes to reenlist.
My dilemma is that I want to move to Hawaii and be with him and hopefully get married one day. WHAT IS STOPPING ME? 1. I just got accepted to a master’s program to become a teacher. Long story short, we stopped communicating for a while and I tried to move on with my life. The program is going to take about 2 years to complete 2. Hawaii is so far and I've never moved so far from my support system/family. 3. I'm scared, and honestly couldn't see myself making such a huge leap.
However, I love this guy. I’m young and I feel like these should be my happiest years. Even though I am about to accomplish a huge goal in my life (graduating with my bachelor's in Psychology) I’m still not happy. I feel alone and empty, and simply by talking to him I feel like I mean something that I’m important. Being a psych major, I know that all of our feelings and action derive from somewhere.
I don’t want it to seem like I need a guy to give my life meaning. I have goals and dreams of my own. I want to work in education so eventually I plan to get me doctorates. I just feel like life is too short to continue doing the same thing when I’m not happy. He wants me to come to Hawaii, but he also wants me to do what’s best for me. Which would be staying in Florida to get my master’s.
My ideal course of action: Graduate in May. Find a job in Florida and work, so I can save money. Also, so I can gain experience, so when I move to Hawaii finding a job would be less difficult. Before this year is over I move to Hawaii, work, and continue my education. I want to spend my life with him, so marriage will fit in somewhere.
Education is definitely what I would choose, I understand that you are in love but on the other hand I would never pass up an opportunity to pursue a career you've worked hard for. Is it possible you could expand the opportunity into the state of Hawaii?
Here are a few things to think about, IF it didn't work out between you and him when you moved do you have a backup plan? Would you financially be able to live independently on your own?
In my eyes, Everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be then it will. I wouldn't sacrifice my education or my career. In the long run what would be best for you, Sometimes it's not always about what you want.
If you feel it is beneficial to you too move, Then do so. Add up the plus and the negs and decide...
I have reached a point where I am very confused about my relationship and it's future. I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off since april of 2011. I have wanted to be in a relationship with him since that time. He has more recently July 2013 decided he's fully on board, wants to get married, and move away to florida within the next few years. We've had a lot of issues, both his and mine along the way, all stemming from his inability to commit..
So fast forward to thanksgiving 2013, when I find out via a google search about the owners of his home, he was married. I believed it to have been over, or he would have told me. Right? Not that that's an excuse anyways. But come to find out, his complete inability to commit, refusing to allow me in his house, not meeting friends, etc. Was because he's been in the middle of a separation/divorce since he has known me (she's fighting him for every step of the way, she didn't work a day the whole marriage but is demanding more than her share). Because her family is the elusive "jerk" room mate excuse he has used for the past two years..
He swears he hasn't touched her since we've been together, she lives in a different state, No kids, all that stuff. And maybe I'm naive but I believe him. My issue is that I resent him, and the circumstances he has put us in. We are amazing together, we used to have so much fun together, he just gets me. We have never felt this way for anyone before. I just felt like if we've been through all the bull that we have, and we're still together. We are strong enough to make it work.
But he's afraid he'll lose more money in the divorce if I live there, he comes over on my days off, but refuses to live here. As I work nights, he doesn't see a reason to be in my apartment when I'm not here. He follows through most of my days off, but it's not enough. Hanging out on days off isn't what someone who's madly in love, wants to marry you and move you away does.. I just feel like we should be so much more. And I'm angry at him, all the time. Even when he doesn't do anything wrong. I have no patience, the smallest things set me off. And we fight all the time. Sometimes his doing as well. I just resent that were dealing with this, that he can't do what's necessary to make me feel confident after a colossal lie. And I'm afraid were going to just end up hating each other because I'm so angry sometimes I make us miserable.
He thinks I'm over thinking it, that I am making myself more miserable than is necessary over this. But I can't have what I want, deserve and am promised for at least another month or two because of her. And I know it's short term.. but it's the principle. And I've been the one compromising and settling for less for YEARS.. I just don't know what to do. Am I overreacting, should I just accept it and coast. I just feel like he has no right to even ask me to do that. I'm just at the point where I'm exhausted with it, always fighting, always wondering, anxious. I don't enjoy our time together, I haven't seen him in two days and i don't even miss him. I was hoping that would go away or get better.. but it isn't. But the idea of leaving literally causes me to crumble. I love him more than I can express, I just can't do this on his terms anymore..
Over thinking it? No, You have a valid reason to be second guessing.
You have been with this man on and off for almost 3 years and he hasn't told you NONE of this?! Not only is the way you found out sketchy but I would of call it off right then and there as the entire relationship has been a lie. The man hasn't been upfront with you, He has been putting off his "second" life to the side to hide you from knowing the entire truth. Separated or not, It has been THREE years and sweetie on some level the guy has lied too you, He has man himself seem available when he wasn't. If someone isn't capable of being committed then they should of NEVER been in a relationship to begin with. He lead you on, He wasn't telling you the entire truth and at this point whether he touched her or not, I wouldn't believe that line of bullshit either.
You both have a history of being on and off in the last 3 years but really what raises a big flag with me is that he never came out and told you the truth. This would really make me question whether I could ever believe anything that comes out the mans mouth. I wouldn't want to be with someone who hid something like that from me for THREE years never mind hid something like that period. A relationship should be upfront and honest, I don't give a shit if he wasn't living with this women. He owed it too you to tell you why he wasn't able to be committed but have you asked yourself this, Do you feel at all that you were led on and lied too? Don't you wonder whether he strung you along?...
Sometimes we can love someone but I would be questioning whether you can look past the fact that he kept lying for the past 3 years. It IS a big deal. You need to do on YOUR terms, Unfortunately I believe you need to move on. Find someone who is faithful and honest with you, Not someone who keeps you on the sidelines waiting to clear old baggage.
Hi, I am a 20 year old from Nevada. So I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He would not mention his one ex because he thought that I wouldn't know her. Finally, I asked for him to show me whether I knew her or not. He showed me and she was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She is tan, curvy, fit, thick long hair, gorgeous smile, perfect green eyes, and everyone seems to love her. He says that her beauty is fake and created only by makeup. He also said the reason why he broke up with her is because he had found out that she had sex with all of his friends. For some reason I can't find myself to believe him. With a girl as beautiful as that, I feel like a downgrade. I feel more insecure than ever and I don't even know. What do I do? How should I even feel? What now?
You know what is really unattractive? When someone shows lack of confidence. Just because someone is beautiful doesn't mean they were the best person or had the best personality. This girl may have the looks but obviously he didn't meet his expectations somehow. NOBODY is perfect
You are not a competition of any women, You are with him and he is with you that is all that matters. This guy's ex is a has been, She is the past and you both need to put it behind you and focus on the relationship you have now. Who gives a shit how pretty she is, It may even be true she has a bad rep. Wouldn't you rather be YOU then be someone with a bad rep? I sure would.
Point is, She doesn't matter. You need to learn to be happy with who you are. You're boyfriend is with YOU, He picked YOU. Being insecure is only going to hurt you and your relationship. Stop worrying about everyone else and old baggage and learn to be happy with yourself.
Thick medium length brown hair
Tan Assyrian skin
Wears a lot of makeup
Big boobs - Small butt
Flexible but not fit
Outgoing/Kinda Lazy/Not much talents/Parties/Drinks/Smokes/ Dependent/Sleeps around a lot and gives guys whatever they want
Long brown hair
Tan Latina skin
Doesn't need much makeup
Average boobs - Big butt
Average flexible but very fit
Sings/Dances/Guitar/Piano/Smart/Skates/Chill/Artist/Independent and strong/Has values
A relationship isn't about looks, "Picking" who to be with out of looks is the wrong concept of what a relationship is.
You choose based on who you can see yourself being with. Who has a good personality, Who makes you happy, Who do you have more in common with?
Someone can be attractive and have an absolute shitty personally while someone can be decent looking and have the best personality in the world.
It isn't about what someone looks like. To choose over looks is shallow, It is about the person and who they are.
Trying to keep this short: boyfriend of four years, have lived together three - have had issues with finding messages and texts, nothing ever extremely horrible, though. ex girlfriend used to text him pictures of her face, he'd say cute, but confronted and reply was that meant nothing, he's known her forever they just talk sometimes. fb message to a girl and told her she was pretty, but it was an old coworker. lots of random messages at like, 2am when i'm sleeping to girls (only girls) saying hey, none of the girls really reply though (at least that i can see), he was just bored and wanted to talk to people. always an answer. the one time i definitely found a DISGUSTING conversation, i got so upset and ran out of the house. when i came back, we were talking and when i wanted to go back upstairs to show him, he told me he wanted to see why i was upset and when he saw that he deleted it cause he was embarrassed but it was an old conversation with a girl he re-added on Facebook and when you re-add someone, old conversations pop up. i saw it was more recent on his message box and the month of the conversation was the but once again, i'm not a Facebook expert i wasn't sure if that was exactly true and since the message was gone i couldn't prove it anymore, so i let it slide and haven't looked at anything again since.
well, till today. my friends just recently broke up over this issue so i don't know if that was it or what came over me, but i looked. facebook, didn't see anything (but there's the archived option where i found those things before but mobile doesn't show you that stuff). no texts. but then i saw he had a myspace app and apparently he still has myspace, none of our friends do and this profile i found seems to be new, not the old one i knew him to have. the earliest date for a profile pic upload was like a month ago but i don't know if that's just how it looks with privacy settings and whatnot, i have no idea how new myspace works. all his friends on there though are trashy girls, with their cleavage out or they're half-naked. there is not one guy. and he's "connected" to alot of them and their photos which i googled and i guess that means you like their photo and their stuff will instantly post on your stream or something. also, lots of "hey" messages on there as well, but not a lot of replies again. one woman, a conversation. she's married. he says he's single. then he says he lives in new york (she lives there) he makes a comment she's gorgeous. she keeps her side of the conversation completely normal, non-flirty. she just seems like an older lady that wants to chat with people. he says a lot of other random things that aren't true in there (i guess just for conversation? idk)
he's on her top 8 or whatever haha, he doesn't have one. so i don't know how to really take it. i haven't read anything truly sexually or anything but still the fact he has this page and it seems to have it to talk to trashy chicks is pissing me off. especially when we just had a fight (which we've had a lot) about him thinking i'm cheating on him, when the only friends i have are HIS friends cause he didn't like my girl friends cause he thought they were sluts.
i just don't know how to feel - like i understand i crept, i betrayed his trust but i found things - what about MINE? i know nothings indefinitely said, whether he deleted it all or not i don't know... i feel like i just can't come at him with "YOU SAID THIS GIRLS PRETTY AND THATS IT". lots of people nowadays seem to think that that's ok, harmless flirting. i don't do that with guys, though. i don't message anyone. i just feel this is shady. i have a tendency to go into arguments, get flustered and then i just back out cause i lost my point and ground and i don't want to do that. i took photos this time of the conversation, checked the dates so i know everything's from like, two days ago and i can show them again if i need to.
i just need opinions. is this a line crossed? would you say anything or just know that this is there and keep that in mind? part of me just wants to make a myspace just to solely send him a friend request on it, just so he gets the message that i know its there and i can see his friends and stuff. and i just won't even say anything to him about it.
and sorry if this posted twice - i went to double check and see if it posted and i didn't see it listed so i thought maybe it didn't submit!
The lines were crossed a few times
Why isn't he spending time with you and sleeping rather then sending random messages at 2am to these women? I believe a relationship should have it's boundaries. Harmless flirting can certainly send the wrong message to people even without intentions of doing so. This ex of his, He needs to tell her it's over and that he is happy in a relationship with you. There should be no reason at all that he should even be in contact with an ex, It is baggage and drama. Sounds to me that maybe he isn't totally committed to being in a relationship or perhaps he is looking to find someone else. Sounds to me that he isn't understanding that his actions are disrespectful. Does he hide the fact that he is in a relationship with you? Do these women he flirts with know that he is in a relationship?
I would sit him down and express how you feel. If he is at all understanding of your feelings then he should lay off the flirting. It's a bit much, If he wants to be in a serious relationship then he needs to man up and stop playing around or he will be in a relationship by himself.
I am talking to a old bf i used to have 5 years ago. We have been talking for about a month and the sparks are flying high for one another. A couple of days ago he had asked me for a picture, so i gave it to him. Yesterday he had asked me for another one, I said no because I had 0 and he had 1. He of course pleaded and begged me to give him one. So I asked for my friends advice and she said just to give him one. I ended up giving him 3 pictures b/c my friend said they all looked nice. I was waiting for him to give me one of him but he never did. that night he called me just wanting to talk. While we were on the phone he was texting someone, for some reason I have the feeling that he was texting another girl because what guy at night while he is talking to a girl be texting a guy? Am i right?! LOL I pretended like it didn't bother me or i didn't notice. While i was on the phone with him all of the sudden it went silent like i was placed on hold...so i just hung up ...After my night shift ended and i was driving home thinking about what happened last night i feel like the idiot that gave him 4 pictures in total when i don't have any! and the texting thing while i was on the phone also bothers me....I'm so mad and so hurt that i just started to ignore him...well i guessed he noticed because now his text says why are you ignoring me? and idk what to reply!!
Please help...btw I know for a fact he doesn't have a gf
You are over thinking the situation
You both aren't dating, If he wants a picture of you don't give him one. You are not obligated to give anything to him nor do you owe him anything. If he IS interested in you, Then he will make you a priority and effort to contact you. I would maybe hold off on how much you give out to him, Hold off on what you tell him etc. There shouldn't be any rush, I disagree with this friend of yours. Sparks don't fly out of revealing pictures of yourself. Sending photo's maybe will make him want you more and if it does, Then you know it was for all the wrong reasons. Don't give yourself out to be easy or desperate, If he is ignoring you then fuck him all together. It could be possible that he has a girlfriend or someone else he is talking too. If you really want to know if he likes you for you then hold off and see if he reaches out too you. Stop contacting him and wait too see if he comes around, If not then move on. If you both end up meeting up, Take things slow. Taking it slow is how you will find out of he is really into you or not or if he is playing you while he has another chick on the side.