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Last Update:December 11, 2013
I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
Okay i am a 13/f in middle school.Okay my friend T and me have been friends every since 3 grade to now.Last year in 6th grade.I started to have a crush on him.He said he had a crush on me every since 3 grade.We went together that 6th grade year then broke up that summer to 7th.He broke up with me for i don't know reason.Later in July he asked me back and i said no.Because i was afraid to get hurt again.This year we became close friends.One day in a connection class he was closer to me than normal and my friends was just looking like why he so close.The boy that had a crush on me was getting mad. Every time i see him he smile at me. when we switch classes he find some way to see me in my class. He always whisper stuff in my ear.I really do miss him we seem to have that chemistry.
My question is do you think he want me back.
And should i give him a second chance?
Thanx for your time.
You are 13, You are going to experience more breakups and hurt in relationships.
Does he want you back? I really don't know. Do I think it will last forever? No. Realistically, You are both young and have a lot of growing up to do. It's normal to have crushes at your age but boys don't actually know what they want until they are at least in their 20's.
Dating wise, You should ask him. Just remember once a relationship has been damaged it's hard to get it back to what it once was.
I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion.
Who said it was odd? Your friends?..
You are 13, Many young teenagers nowadays are stereotypical. No, There is nothing wrong with it not even a wee bit. We all like different things, Everyone isn't meant to like the same things.
Ya know what? My first boyfriend wasn't no prince charming to others as he was 5'7 about 210 pounds with long curly hair. It doesn't matter what others think, It matters what YOU think. We aren't meant to like the same things, So this guy might not be someone else taste but that's the whole point. Never judge someone by appearance as that is not what loving or liking someone is about. It's about who they are as a person. If you like nerdy guys then go for it, At least you know what you want. Don't ever let someone tell you otherwise
I'm so confused whether my crush likes me or not! I've searched dozens of websites and I'm still not so sure! So I'm going to explain how our relationship is right now.
1. He's really sweet and funny! Always making jokes and making me laugh all the time
2. We talk about the most randomness stuff ever and we're so comfortable with each other to talk about the most difficult subjects
3.We share food and drinks! Every time at lunch we trade drinks, share a cookie, etc.
4. IDK but I guess he's with me all the time and always wants to be with me
For example when the teacher made new seating arrangements he personally asked the teacher to sit right next to me!
5.He smiles and laughs a lot with me more than with his usual friends! And he always makes the dumbest excuses to be near me
For example "Oh I'm going to sit here because the sun is blinding me" ( He's saying this when it was cloudy)
So I know it definitely looks like he likes me but I'm not really sure and should I ask him out?
The best way to know is just to ask him, It sounds like he may like you but we can only judge from what you wrote.
A website isn't going to tell you whether he likes you or not.
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 days but we have known each other since I was 14 years old and I have no idea what to get the boy for Christmas . He is 25 if that helps any. I talked to his brother to see what he is into and he told me that he liked music and loved to read and liked sports but I don't have much money to spend either please consider i am on a $40.00 a week budget .
Doll, You don't need a butt load of money to get someone a nice gift.
Here are some very nice ideas that are in the $40.00 range. One thing you can't go wrong on is gift cards, These not only make a good gift but can be used anytime.
Movie Tickets - It's a perfect catch, Some theaters even offer discount on tickets one day a week! You can purchase the Movie Ticket package and use it on discount day.
Restaurant gift card
Does he like video games? How about Gamestop?
Frame a picture of the two of you if you have one too.
You do not need to go expensive, You never do. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and it's from the heart not about getting the bang for your buck.
F/24. Ok, so about 3 years ago i found out that i have polysistic ovarian syndrome and one of the side affects is that I will either have a lot of problems trying to get pregnant or I won't be able to at all. I just started seeing a new guy. Were only about 6 weeks into a relationship. My question is this. When should I tell him that I may never be able to get pregnant. Should I do it right away? Should I wait until we become more serious? I don't want him to think I have been keeping secrets from him. Also, how should I tell him??? Help!
I would wait
Also, I would never drop the bomb on someone until you have a better idea where you stand. I also suffer from PCOS and I was told that I had a high chance of infertility but I have a son. You can't assume unless you are told by a doctor that you cannot have children.
Also, I would wait until things get a bit more serious. Not only is it very quick to bring something like that up but the talk of kids 6 weeks into a relationship is a bit of a scare off. If he questions it then simply tell him you didn't think to bring it up until things became more serious with the two of you.
I'm 16, female. I need help with learning how to stop disrespectful people from being unnecessarily disrespectful. I need something that will teach me how to make them respect me. People pull/touch my hair, call me things that I'm clearly not, and are just plain rude to me when I even just talk to them. I don't know what to do, do I respond at all or not? It's not exactly bullying, but my blood boils every time this happens, which is more often as the days go on and I have no idea why. I can't afford to let this go on, because one day I'll get too angry and get myself in trouble. If I left out an important piece of information, please let me know. I thank everyone in advance for taking the time to read/answer me. Have a wonderful day :)
If people are touching you without your desire, Then tell them to please not touch your hair as you do not like it. If they don't listen then be stern and say "Don't touch my hair, I already told you once. Stop seriously" Unfortunately when it comes to people being rude in general, You can't stop it. Society is bitter these days and many people are rude, ignorant and just disrespectful. If someone is treating you this way then either tell them point blank how you feel or you walk away and cut them loose.
If someone was messing with my hair all the time, Well... I would probably say something along these lines.
"Please don't touch my hair I don't like it"
Stop touching my hair I really don't like to be touched"
Or... "DON'T TOUCH MY HAIR!" that would of course be my tone when I loose my patience but you need to be direct and tell them. Don't let people walk on you
How can I get over wanting to see his phone?? I wanna see it every time we're together.. Trust issues /: we been together 10 months.. I'm 16 he's 17
Has your boyfriend ever given you a reason to not trust him? If not, Then you need to loosen the hell up. Trust is a big factor, Without it then you don't have a relationship. Spying or being paranoid is only going to cause him to resent you. You are without saying it accusing him of possibly cheating. If you want your relationship to work then you are going to have to learn to trust him. Give him his space, Talk to him about how you feel without accusing and nagging, Checking his phone because you are feeling insecure is only going to ruin your relationship.
Hi, today I got diagnosed with anxiety, and I've been under ALOT of stress. My shoulders have been killing me, And now on my left side it's like my houlder cramps up for about thirty seconds? I was afraid I was having a heart attack, but I'm sixteen and healthy so I don't think that likley... No chest pain at all or numbness. Just my shoulders! Also I cry a lot due to m anxiety And stress. I am very emotional right now. Does it seem like a heart attack or just pain with the anxiety?
Anxiety can really fuck up a personal both mentally and physically.
I, A lifetime sufferer of both anxiety and depression know all to well what kind of pains it can cause. When my anxiety kicks in, It's in my lower back, neck, shoulders and at times even my eyes are strained. You are much too young for a heart attack, These like Rainhorse said are all classic symptoms of Anxiety.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now. Around about the time we got in a relationship together, it had been 3 years since him and his ex girlfriend had been split. All the way through our relationship, she has done nothing but harass him. Sometimes she will go weeks without texting him, then she will harass him all day for days, it's mostly when she's drunk. She sometimes texts him in a general chit chat, like "Hi, how are you?" Etc, and he replies being short and blunt, but when she texts him saying she loves him, he just says ok and haha. She knows he is with me, so why won't she leave him alone? Why won't he tell her to leave him alone? He says he feels sorry for her, I tell him that the only way she's going to get over you is for you to completely blank her. When he sees her in public, he won't even look at her. Why is this? I've told him to ignore her, for her to move on but he just doesn't listen... I know he doesn't have feelings for, but why is this? What can I do?
Over the course of a 3 years of his ex harassing your relationship, Why hasn't he put any effort into making it stop? Why hasn't he changed his number, blocked her or even grown brass balls to tell her to stop? I'm sorry for my blunt rant but it sounds to me that he isn't doing much to stop the problem but rather antagonize and escalate her to make the problem worse. Perhaps he gets a high off messing with her head, but in the end it is damaging on behalf of your relationship with him. His immaturity is what is going to drift you both apart. I feel personally that in some aspect he still cares otherwise he would of left the situation high and dry a long time ago.
You need to talk to him, Give him the ultimatum. Either he grow up or you move on.
As the title says I'm always afraid that someone close to me will die. Whenever my boyfriends phone is off or he isn't answering I imagine him being in a terrible accident. Whenever he's late I think the same thing. Or I think he just dropped dead. The same thing goes for my mom when she doesn't answer the phone. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've never had anyone close to me die or anything like that. I've never lost someone I love before so why is this always happening? Right now my boyfriends phone is off and it's probably because his battery is dead. He should be home by now but he's not which probably means that he just had to stay a little longer at work. But I'm still sitting here with an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that something terrible happened. I actually thought about what I would say at his funeral. What can I do about this, it's driving me crazy :(
It's a form of anxiety, I have been there also.
Anxiety causes us to worry, panic and stress. I would suggest talking to a doctor or a therapist to help you cope.
i am a 11 year old boy and my gf is 12 she wants to have sex some of my friends who have done it before say i should i don't know what to do
You are too young
Legally, You not able to consent to sex until you reach the age of 16. Having sex at your age is considered rape, Sexual assault.
Hello, I need help with my relationship with my mother. I am 18 and I feel as though we are growing more distant and hostile towards each other. I feel as though every time I do something wrong (which I will freely admit I am guilty of), my mother and I over react to each others response and it just ends in a shouting match. We continue to do this (and have done so for years) and I can certainly say it is not pleasant for either of us. It has gotten to the point that I am reluctant to talk with her as it almost always ends with one of us upset and angry at the other.
I am not writing this because they took my phone or Xbox or something and I am just complaining because they are unreasonable. I'm here because I need some genuine advice on how to communicate openly with my mother about why this always happens.
I know I am not the perfect son, but I feel as though the instant I do something wrong, we just get into it.
I can't stand to be angry all the time anymore.
This is something you should sit down and talk to your mother about.
Tell her how you are tired of arguing and feel the need to try and talk about the problem rather then picking a fighting match. If you openly admit to doing a lot of wrong things, Maybe you could try to work on these things. If you feel that talking won't get anywhere then you should try writing her a letter and put it somewhere where she will read it. Explain to her how you feel and that you are tired of attacking one another. It sounds like lack of communication on both parties, If you both can learn to talk about the problem then it will get better but again, Write to her.
I am 17 years old girl.I have a family and a friend,but everyday in my life..i feel so lonely.I have do a lot of things,to make myself happy,but it doesn't work.
I try to go hangout with my family,but..my heart feel so lonely and sad.....
I have talk to family about my problem..but they doesn't understand me.And i don't know what to do...i feel like, it's better if i die than live like this....
"It's better if I die then live like this"
I'm not a doctor but you sound depressed. As a 17 year old you legally are able to see a doctor without your parents. I would suggest talking to someone about how you feel and see if you can possibly get on some anti-depressants.
Im pushing my boyfriend away. Im 16 hes 17. We been together for 10 months on December 2nd. I have a BAD JEALOUSY problems and bad TRUST issues. Hes cheated on me before in the past. Im trying to trust him again and I do then I stop again. We fight so much. Im always mad about something, him texting this girl everyday. He comments on instagram photos saying to text him and stuff, ofcourse im going to get mad. Hes my bestfriend so how can I stop this? How can I stop pushing him away?? Please help me I don't want to lose him.. I need as much advice as I can get!!!
Unfortunately, When someone cheats in a relationship it can be very damaging to the point where we cannot allow ourselves to truly forgive someone. We can "forgive" but we can't truly "forgive"
The problem is that you don't trust him, If he cheated then I do not blame you. However, If you cannot both be faithful and trust one another then you do not have a relationship. This isn't really a factor of age, Maybe just a tad but the main source of the problem is how you handle a relationship and the maturity to be able to hold a relationship as two.
In my personal opinion, It is a mistake to forgive someone who cheats in a relationship, It is also a mistake to take someone back. Once someone damages a relationship, It's almost impossible to get that relationship back to what it once was. Meaning, In order to truly repair a damaged relationship you both must be mature enough to work as two.
Basically, You both are not right for one another. You are stringing along a relationship that is not there.
there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Is this creepy?
It's not normal, I disagree with the user who said it was.
It is one thing to enjoy someone's company, It's another when you begin to go out of your way to see them. In this case, This is classified as stalking someone, Yes.
It is okay to like someone, It's not okay to let feelings gain control to the point where it gets out of hand. This women is engaged, Therefore she is by all means not available. To try and come between her and her fiance is not only disrespectful but it may only lead to hard feelings.
If you have to ask, Then you must know that on some level this behavior is not okay. I would suggest leveling down until you can except the fact that she is with someone and not available to date. Give yourself space and time to get over it, If you feel that you cannot do so then it may be best to stop all together.
I just wanted to know if this is 'addiction'-
Sometimes (about twice a day now) I sneak into our medicine cabinet to get some ibuprofen pills (3-5, but the most I've ever had is 26 at one time). I don't really know why, but I tend to grab more pills after a stressful day than a good one, and they just make me feel.. better, in a way (I have no physical pain or need for them, though). Sometimes I ask my mom for Nyquil and pretend to be sick (because I'm afraid she would know if I just took it, but I've only done this twice in this past year) and get some just because I feel better and peaceful afterwords.
Is this addiction? If so,what is the deadly dose of both of these medications? (I swear I'm only asking that because I don't want to accidentally kill myself)
Is this addiction?
I've had depression/ social paranioa (I think every one secretly hates me) for a few years.
There doesn't need to be a label, The fact that you sneak into a medicine cabinet is enough to say it's a problem.
It is not normal for someone to take a large amount of pills, It's not normal for a person to want NyQuil because they want to ease painful feelings.
I would suggest letting someone know you have a problem. Nobody here can tell you how much of a dose can kill, Anything can kill if it's taken the wrong way, mixed etc.
An overdose can lead to brain damage, Foaming of the mouth, Increase heart rate, Low blood pressure and death I seriously think you need to let someone know ASAP.
I feel like I'm growing up and I'm going through a transition in which my values are changing. I'm starting to feel extremely distant from my friends who I once loved dearly, especially my best friend who is in the process of taking on a new boyfriend. These friends who 4 months ago made my entire life a joy now make me extremely angry and frustrated to the point in which I can't be around them because it gives me too much anxiety ESPECIALLY when alcohol is involved. I spend a lot of time alone but when the couple things I rely on besides people fail me, like music, my world falls apart. I also had a recent death in my family of someone I was very close with. Being away at college has been something I could rely on to escape the anxiety I feel about this family situation but right now I feel like there is nothing to make me feel better. I'm drifting away from my friends and I feel like a failure at life. Right this second I feel like I have nothing. It's not just my close friends that give me anxiety but people in general. When I get upset it surfaces as anger, frustration, and anxiety, probably making me an unpleasant person to be around. What should I do about all of this?
This is a nasty combination of a loss, college and just simply growing up and moving on.
Sometimes in life, Friends die out and sometimes they die out suddenly. You may have been falling out with these friends and have not realized it. Unfortunately, Apart of growing up is moving on with your life. Sometimes people are not meant to be in our lives forever, Some are meant to stay a little while. You are not an unpleasant person, You are juggling some personal things in life at this time. Sometimes life throws curb balls at us, Sometimes these curb balls cause us to move on, forget things and make new paths in life.
Take time to yourself to figure things out. If you still feel you want to talk to these friends then go for it. If not, Then it may be time to make new friends and start over. Sometimes that is what we need, We need a fresh start.
My dog is displaying conflicting behaviors. She growls sometimes when I feed her, but she has gone a long way to getting use to me handling her food. I fed her piece by piece so she's 90% use to me touching her food bowl now. She will growl at my girlfriend when she tries to touch her food bowl and I told her to do the same thing as I. Once we take the food bowl away she completely submits though, like she knows she did wrong, but couldn't help it. She will come to us with her lowered head and lower body and tail down and will put her head in between our legs. Today my girlfriend told her to sit and jump up before giving her a piece of treat ,which she ate and walked away, but when my girlfriend pet her she growled and barked. My girlfriend called her over and our dog laid down and displayed a submissive body language. What is going on? I am trying to figure out if she aggressive/fear aggressive/ or just has a strong attitude. She is a golden retriever shiba inu mix and I know that shiba inus are strong in attitude, so I don't know if that is just the shiba inu in her or what. She doesn't do that with me, maybe it is because I spend more time with her? I feed her the all the time as well as take her out to reliever herself. My girlfriend plays with her more though.
Confused pet owner
You didn't state how long you have been with your girlfriend or whether she lives with you or not.
Your dog is showing signs of aggressive behavior because YOU are her owner. Most dogs don't like people they aren't fully comfortable with handling their food.
I am sure the more time your girlfriend spends with the dog, The dog will begin to bond with her. Your dog may feel she is a threat or perhaps she is a new person that just recently came into the picture.
I have a Yorkie/Chihuahua mix and a Shih Tzu pure bred. Anyone who is not familiar that comes into the household will be barked at. Dogs are territorial and are dominate. She may be acting out because she is not used to your girlfriend being around. I would suggest not letting your girlfriend handle her food just yet but take it slow and try to spend time with the dog little by little and slowly she should adjust.
there's this girl who is my boyfriends best friend..whenever he chats with her he'll be online but he'll reply me a bit late(not always)..they were very good friends and mostly everyone thought that they liked each other.. i cant tolerate that girl..i have told him that i don't like her..but still they talk and my boyfriend is bit childish..i cant tolerate that girl..she doesn't like him but i don't like their closeness..it makes me insecure. he says that i'm the most important person to him but i don't feel so..what should i do..
Sometimes it's best to sit him down and express how you feel rather then flat out saying you do not like her. Explain to him that you feel he gives you undivided attention and you feel neglected. Don't assume, Don't make assumptions just talk to him about it. Let him know you don't mind him having friends but if he could maybe take it easy on the amount of time he talks to this friend.
If he is constantly talking to her and showing interest rather then you, Then there may be a slight problem. This guy may be developing interest in the other girl or vice versa. As long as he isn't breaking any rules, Then you can't accuse him of doing any wrong.
Okay, so.. I met this guy, Robert, from my old job. He was very nice and we talked sometimes when I needed to go to his department for something. We never exchanged numbers or talked about hanging out, it was more just coworkers being friendly. About six months into the job I realized it wasn't for me and I quit. I didn't say anything to anyone other than my boss so I kinda just disappeared. Well, I after starting my new job I began to run into Robert while on my way to work, leaving work, etc. We would talk for a little while and then part ways. One night while I was heading home I ran into him and we started talking about our day as usual but this time when I said goodnight and began walking away he stopped me and said we should grab drinks sometimes. I was surprised but agreed and we exchanged numbers and he said he would text me later. About an hour after I got home he texted me and we talked a little more and then I went to bed. Two days later he texted me, "Good morning!" randomly, which I thought was nice. After that, we started talking more and more and eventually made real plans to hang out. He was more excited than me about getting together (he even told skip some plans I had to hang out with him). When we finally hung out, it was so much fun! We spent most of the night laughing and just talking about life. The next morning he texted me asking when I'd be available again. I was working a lot so I told him I'd keep him updated. He seemed fine with that and we kept in touch. But he had some serious family issues that started going through so I have him my prayers and gave him space. After a month or so of not speaking I sent him a text and he never replied. I don't get all messed up about things like that but I know that things are okay with him now (we have a mutual friend from my old job that told me) and I'm just wondering why he went from being the one to push the friendship progressing to not communicating at all? I actually really like him; he's sweet, really funny, smart, very attractive and single. And he seemed to show a ton of interest but it just suddenly died. I don't know if he just wasn't really into me, thinks I'm not really into him, he's super busy, etc. It's been almost three months since we lasted talked and I would like to try again but I don't know where to start. And I fear if I text him that he won't respond again. What should I do?
I would just wait for him to text you, You have reached out to him not wait and see what happens.
If you don't hear from him within a week, You could try again. If he still doesn't reply then leave it open to him to whether to contact you or not but don't sit around waiting. We cannot put our lives on hold either so just continue doing what you've been doing and if he contacts you, Great! If not, Then just figure he lost interest and move on. It could be possible that you may of read into it more then it was, He could of also liked you as a friend. Text him again, Wait and see if he replies or not but don't keep bothering with it.