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I am the Turc, formally known as Kristin. I helped start this website, what seems like many years ago! Woo!

I'm a college sophomore, music ed major (all of the academics-relationship-extracurriculars-applying to college-switching your major-stuff), a musician, and a hardcore music fanatic. I am very quirky. I love Disney movies. I love giving advice. I also love reading, writing, movies, music, computers, piano, etc etc. I'm very honest, up front, and even blunt about some things. I'm pretty opinionated, but I know when to shut up. I like playing football and watching PSU football, as well as basketball, volleyball, and baseball in general. I know lots of stuff and like sharing my knowledge, and I tutor, so I'm all for the helping people with homework thing. :)

Go ahead and ask me questions... I'll do my best!
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When someone constantly says/writes things about their new boyfriend/girlfriend, is there anyway to tell that they're really just excited or if they feel insecure and just want to make people jealous? (link)
It's hard to tell. Sometimes it's one, sometimes it's the other, and sometimes it's a combination of both. If the person is really smiley and excited, chances are it's the first. If they're smug and snobby about it, it's def. the second.


my guy friend has always had a crush on me and he would always- i htought. i always kinda took it for granted that he was there for me to be reassured that i was still attractive but i jsut found out that he really likes somebody else. any advice on how to deal? (link)
Don't depend on a guy to feel "attractive"- you need to know inside you're hot, and then you won't need to worry about what other people think. :) I was in your shoes before, but then the guy changed so drastically for the worse that it made me feel like I had standards for guys. I guess my advice is you need to convince yourself that you're beautiful, and then you won't worry about this guy anymore.


OK IM 13 IN 8TH GRADE AND IM 5'6 AND WEIGH 130 LBS THATS LIKE SO FAT IM TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT I WANT TO GET DOWN TO AT LEAST 115 IM JUST FAT IN MY STOMACH WELL KINDA OF AND IM MOSTLY MUSCLE CUZ I LIFT HEAVEY THINGS AND PLAY SOCCER SO MY LEGS ARE MOSTLY MUSCLE BUT I THINK IM TO FAT FOR MY AGE I MEAN IM ON A DIET THE FAT FREE ONE BWECAUSE I WANT TO LOOK GOOD IN MY BIKINI BY MAY OR APRIL SO DO U THINK IM TOO FAT AND COULD U TELL ME SOME GOOD WAYS TO GET SKINNY I WANT TO LOOK LIKE PARIS HILTON BECAUSE THE BOY I LIKE WHICH IS MY NEIGHBOR SAYS THAT SHES HOT AND UR PROABABLY GOING TO SAY NOT TO CHANGE MYSELF FOR HIM BUT I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR MY NEIGHBOR HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS!!! HELP ME !!!! (link)
First of all, quit leaving messages in all caps, because it denotes shouting and it's quite annoying.

Secondly, you are not too fat! People like Paris Hilton and models are abnormally skinny and as teenagers, we are taught through the media that that's what we girls should look like. It's not so. Since you are muscular from your sports and lifting, there is absolutely no reason for you to go on a diet. If you want to tone your stomach, find ab exercises and do crunches or something. But by the sounds of your stats, it doesn't seem like you have anything to worry about by being overweight.


I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.

The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.

How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.

Ugh. (link)
Yeah, that.


What do you do when you've been dissed by the one guy you really really like? You tell him something and your happy and he wants you to stop being happy because he's annoyed. Is that being dissed or is he just stating his mind?
Need to know,
Rose Masaki (link)
I think he's being inconsiderate to your feelings, and I wouldn't waste any more time on him. If you did happen to go out, how much time would he give to listening to how you feel? Or would he cut you off and bring you down every time you feel happy?


My ex boyfriend dumped me over about 2 months ago and im still hung up on him. Even though he's moved on. I really want to get back together with him and I can't stop thinking of him, and he doesn't even notice me anymore. What do I do?
SL (link)
Well, there are three options to this dilemma. One, you can continue to obsess over him and manage to hurt your own feelings because nothing will become of it. Two, you can move on as well, and be better for it. Or, there is the third option, which has actually worked out for me. You can continue liking the person, even though he is "taking a break" from you, and he will come back to you. Inevitably, you will break up again, which is as much grief as it was the first time.

The chances of this happening are slim to none. Save yourself further heartbreak with this person and move on, it's the best thing you can do.


please can anyone tell me things to avoid on a dates ( mention whether it's for the girl or the boy) because i am starting a caution notebook on dates. (link)
Don't blow up your date.

:)


Im not so perfect at spelling, and puncuation! WOW! Who cares. .atleast im nto an ass and making people feel bad for asking a damn question!
Loser. . . And I am going to be what ever the fuck I want! So shut up and you might wnat to stop giving advice, cuz u suck at it. Im being serious! Punk is a lifestyle, and music. . Punk is being yourself and not trying to be noticed. . . You arnt born punk, so obvoiously people ahd to say I want to eb a punk. . and they became punk .. ok u cnat be born punk its not like punk is like japaneese or mexicna or english u know wut im trying to say!? Well I mean I dont know everything about punk, but I know its not just clothes. . So have fun and bye (link)
*clears throat*

"So shut up and you might wnat to stop giving advice, cuz u suck at it."

Ok, so some people were not born to give you advice. Fine. You came here and asked us a question, expecting answers, and you got some- whether you liked them or not. If you want someone to tell you what you want to hear, that's well and good, but what someone else things may not be the same as you, so don't expect everyone to be at your beck and call. Fine, you want to be a punk, that's all well and good. Maybe I could pretend I wanted the whole world to be a big punk wonderland, but if that's not what I want, why should I say it? Particularly if I have no idea who you are. I didn't do anything to offend you, I just gave you my honest opinion. But if you want to get all offensive, I'm up for it. Please. I don't often back down on my opinions.

For real, if you don't want our advice, just leave and don't ask anymore questions. It's not a difficult concept.


I wanted to work on a new look for the new year, I've been thinking about punk, not being way over board. . but adding my own looks, mixing and matching I don't want to be noticed, but I want some say in what I wear. . . For the past years I dressed to impress, now its time for a change. . . IM gunna be dressed cuz I feel like wearing w/e the heck I want! I love the color black. . and fire is pretty, but I wouldnt cal myself a pyro, cuz I dont really love fire. . There r ups and downs. . about fire ya know, And I feel depressed and silenced, and I write poems and write lyrics for songs. . Is that like gothy??? I mena The goth style is pretty nice, but I dont want to be a goth. . Iw ant to be maybe a skater punk. . or something. CAn you give me advice for this problem?? *I dont care what my friends think. . IM gunna chnage even if they dotn wnat me to, not my personality. . just my clothes. .why would they care right??* (link)
Wear whatever you feel like wearing. Don't dress to fit into a stereotype. Labels and stereotypes are stupid, and the whole emo/punk thing is getting to be a little too much. If you like black, fine, wear black. If you like flames, fine, wear stuff with flames on it. But don't dress to a certain label- be yourself, not part of a "crowd".


Hey I am going out with this guy i like and then i have all these other guys i like and i want them to I really dont wanna break his heart cuz i love him to death But theres these other guys that i have been out with and they Like me and i like them to I love them what am i to do (link)
Stick with one guy. It'll make your life easier.


Ok, I still really like my ex boyfriend. But, he has a new gilfriend, that he supposedly really likes. *Rolls eyes* But, my friends and I have caught him SO many times staring at me while I walk in the halls at school. And I wrote my friend this hilarious note, and he read it and laughed. Like, a lot. But, he doesn't make any effort to talk to me or anything. My friends think he still has feelings for me, but he's with this other girl and he's afraid to pursue anything with me. My friends also think I should try making him jealous and "flaunt it". Any ideas on how to do that?

-Thanks. (link)
Honestly? I think he's your ex-boyfriend and you should get over him. If he's not talking to you, it's obvious that maybe he DOES like this new girl. The truth hurts, but that's life. You have no idea what thoughts are running through his head when he's "staring at you", even if you could just be imagining it. Don't assume anything, because it will make the situation worse. If you try to get him back by making him jealous, I'm sure the other girl will get angry. Even if she doesn't say anything, if you "flaunt it", people will began to look at you in a darker light- like you'll do anything for anyone (cough cough) and I'm sure that's not what you want.



My daughter is currently 13 years old. She's fairly mature and doesn't dress slutty. Now, she has liked this guy for about half a year. Today, he asked her out. They want to go see a movie with another couple their age on monday. I don't know if I should let her go. What is your stance on this? Is 13 too young to be dating? (link)
If your daughter is mature and smart about things, she seems like she should be old enough to go out with the boy. Personally, I had my first boyfriend when I was 13, and after my parents talked to him and got to know that he was an alright guy, they let me go places with him. If you don't already know the kid, talk to him and find out about his background, his interests, etc. It'll embarass your daughter but she'll realize eventually that you were just looking out for her well being.

Plus, if it's a double date, it won't be as weird as her going off on her own with this guy yet.


ok last night i went to the movies with my friends peter and jules we saw the return of the king well all threw the movie i would talk to peter and stuf but forget a bout jules (i was siting in the middle of them) but i like this kid sean and then my sister is haveing her bday party today and her friend brian came over hes my age (14) and he had his girl friend with yhim and i was jelouse can any one tell me what this means
boy crazy (link)
It means your hormones aren't in check AND you're boy crazy. You need to get a grip on yourself. And don't talk in the movie theater, it makes other people mad. :-P


hey this isnt a question but i got a 160$ dress for 35$ great deal huh its so cute it is like a dark red at the top then it goes toa dark purple then to a black and it has black beads all ova it and the back part is an open back with these beads going straight across then it hangs down kinda hard to tell ya exactly
anyways its for the skol miltary ball and im goin wit my best friend kate
(no im not bi lez or anything) but i really wanna go wit nick or todd but ow ell
*******happy********




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May I suggest a freeopendiary?

www.freeopendiary.com


Who's better?
Britney or Christina (link)
Christina. She can actually sing.

It makes me sad, because when you see early tapes of Britney she has a good voice, but she's obviously not using it in her more recent work. :-P


This guy likes me..a lot! He is nice funny and all, but i cant picture myself with him..And yet when he went out with another girl..i got a weird feeling like i was jealous. And i could have gotten a boyfriend, but i was afraid he wouldnt like me anymore. I feel like i dont like him, but now im confused..What should i do??? (link)
You like him whether you like that fact or not. I can tell by the tone of your question.

If he likes you, let him know before he decides you're not worth the time and moves on.


Why is the grass outside my window green? (link)
I wish my grass were green. It's currently all dead and covered with snow.

Consider yourself lucky. :-P


Ok well i used to be the girl who wrote the best peoms ever.Then bout a year ago my other friend started writeing her peotry and totally just critisizing mine and then my other friend started writing it oo and then my friend said whoa is she tryin to take m y place and then said well i took urs i mean my poetry is better well she didnt say that but implied it ever since then i have felt so empty b-cz peotry is the only thing i had why is she doing this what can i do to help and y do i feel like this? (link)
Ignore her and do your own thing. If it makes you happy, there's no reason for her to belittle you this way. Write your poetry your way and when you're famous someday you can ignore her when she come begging at your feet.


Okay, I'm going on eight years of playing the clarinet, and I still have the same clarinet. I've heard that Buffet clarinets are really good, and I haven't really heard much of any other brands. Does anyone know a really good brand that's fairly inexpensive, as I'm on a limited budget? I don't want to ask the people at work (I work in a music store) because they're most likely to want a profit from it, and will tell me that anything is good. I thoroughly despise ANYTHING Yamaha, as they mass produce everything that they make and don't take as much time and care with any of it, as far as I can tell. Any suggestions?

Slan go foill,
Clarinetist (link)
Selmers are good, but unfortunately my Selmer clarinet has cracked like 3 times. I have quite a few friends with Selmers and none of theirs have cracked in the time they've had them, and so I think I just may have gotten a bad make.


What do I do to stay focused and quit procrastinating? (link)
Tell me when you find out, because I should be doing English, History, and Physics.

Yay.




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