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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.


I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

advice

There is this guy that i really like. My friends tell me that he likes me too because of the way he acts towards me, and that its obvious that i like him, so i know he knows how i feel about him. But, i just want to come out and tell him how i feel about him, and i want to ask him how he feels about me so i know for sure...but im not sure how to do that with out making it all awkword and all...PLEASE HELP?

as faras ive been able to tell something like that is NEVER NOT awqard i think that just telling him the next time you are alone is best so you dont worry about other people hearing that often helps

hoping and willing
Solemnstar

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I have liked a guy for a year now. And as we all know, Valentines day is coming up. My school is having a Sadie Hawkins Dance in honor of it. I really want to ask this guy but Im not sure how. Im so nervous...Im friends with him and some people say they think he likes me. But know one knows for sure. Please help. I rate high :) Thanks.

hey us guys normaly have to face uor doubts so should you so what if he says no its not like you will become the least popular person on earth or blow up or some other third thing.
so just ask and get it over with plain and simple

telling the obvios
Solemnstar(sorry about any spelling errors)

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okay there is this guy i really like, sam, i've liked him for a long time, yeah i told him, hes all like i like you alot but maybe we should star friends for now but who no's what can happen... well we are REALLY good friends now we talk all the time he always lylas which kills me!!!!!!!!!! it makes me sad anyway
valentines is coming up... well im not sure if i should get him anything... what do you think and if you think i should get him somthing what should it be?!?!? PLEASE HELp i rate high

first of all, DUH if you like him go for it silly person.also do not lose faith in what will happen i did and lost the chance to tell a girl how i felt so never EVER lose the chance at something really important

you should give him one of those personal teddy bears with a message or something that maens a lot to you both

i have always thought chocolates were way over done and jewelry can be expensive so personalized teddys are a great gift in my opinion

Hoping and helping
Solemnstar

p.s so wht if i used the same ending twice keep comments to yourself andie

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ok my best friend is dateing this guy that iu so totally had first and he kissed me and held my hand and then all of the suddenhe likes my best friend when i see them together i get so sad and she keeps on saying oh i will dump him and then she doesnt what should i do by lost and forgotten

that guy is a dirty rotten person you 2 were so close and he just goes with your best friend i say find someone else.also did your friend know about you 2 if she did shes just as bad if not oh well she did not know find another boy k

simple with stuff
Solemnstar

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hi im really confused because me and my boyfriend got into this really big fight and its all because he thinks i like this other boy and i kinda do but i dont wanna hurt him by dumping him because i really like him two and theres these to other boys i also like so this makes four boys that i like i dont wanna like that many but i cant help it there all soooo hot i only want one tho what can i do to try to just like one boy???

ok im pretty sure i know who this is
First of all do not judge people by looks alone you may hurt our self. second if you are going out with him try to stay together and third do not cheat on him try not to even look at the others because that will really make your b/f feel bad and you will feel even more confused
bottom line do not date anyone else and try to forget about the other three

mean but true
Solemnstar

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13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee.

Same here dude. forget it the people are jerks and do not deserve your kindness so just find somebody that they pick on also and stand up for your self.If worse comes to worse DO NOT FIGHT thats even worse for your stich

see ya in the astral plains
Solemnstar

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There's this kid named Brian, whos liked me since 2nd grade, and I've liked him since 5th grade. We're now in nineth grade. (freshmens) and There's this huge dance in April called Freshmen dance. He asked me to go with him, and I said yes, but he heard from my best friend Charles, that I was going with him, Of which I'm not. So Brian went and asked this 8th grader to the dance, and he PROMISED he'd take her. So now he's saying he'll break it off with her so he can go with me. I really don't know what to say. I'll feel bad for the 8th grader, but I really don't know. Should I stop him from breaking it off with the 8th grader? Or should I let him? Please help. Sry its so long!

first of all Brian promised and he will really dissapoint the 8th grader and why did your best friend say that to him if he knew(im guessing)that you were not going out with him i figure that Charles is jelous and that he likes you but for somebody to say that for that reason is just plain wrong and mean.UNDERSTATEMENT. maybe you should go alone to please the 8th grader and tellBrian thats it is o.k and you dont mind if he goes with her.but i think you should find out what Charles was thinking when he lied to brian

to sum up let brian go with the eigth grader and go find another date(thats probably best)but do not get upset if brian likes the 8th grader there are other guys right?Move on if thats happens

boring and cramped
Solemnstar

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Theres a girl at my school that i realy like Im 13 and i asked her out about 3or4 monthes ago and she sayd "i dont want to ruin our frendship by going out so for now that a no"
i dont no wat to do should i ask her out again-does she even like me?-wat should i do?

sometimes you get caught up in the glitter of the reward, and lose sight of the risk-MR.feeny BOY MEETS WORLD

wise words to follow.if you get the reward you date a girl you like but you may lose your friendship you should savor what you have insted of seeking something that the other person affected will dislike

sorry for the truth
Solemnstar

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OK guys please answer this.. girls u can help too...
for v-tines day i think im getting my bf...
sliky boxers... cologne... and maybe like a movie gift certificate?
is that totally stupid???
if so tell me... and also can you guys give me some ideas on somthing to get him!!
thanx in advance!!!!!!!!!
**Sammie**

in my opinion yes(sorry)it is kind of stupid I would prefer chocolates and some kind of horror movie(but thats just me) so a movie ticket is good i guess but he might think the cologne is because you think he stinks(stupid but some people do think that way.

not really helping but not on purpose
Solemnstar

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I said yes to this guy when he asked me out. I felt bad for him that is y i said yes. My best friend sadi he would like litterly cry if i said no. So what the heck i said yes. I don't like him and i like someone else but we r going out. Is it okay to like someone else but go out w/ someone that u don't like more than a friend??
signed,
lost lovr

I dont think that is right but for the best intrest of the boy try and find somebody who does to make him feel better and explain that you went out with him because you felt sorry for him.this may seem wrong but it seems that you should not be going out with him when there may be somebody who does

concerned for your best intrests
Solemnstar

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my boyfriends birthday is coming up soon. Im completely broke and have no money. what cheap, extremely meaning present should i give him? his birthday is a week before valentines day. i was wondering if i could come up with a great present that could do for both ocassions..any ideas? please help me. thank you.

I like scavenger hunts find a gift like a teddy bear or something and set a date for him to come over then have the hunt i dont know how old you are but my stepdad did this when proposing to my mom and she loved it maybe include a flower at each spot

Hoping for your best
Solemnstar

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okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

I dont belive in heaven or god myself so i cant really help you but my family make me go to church and it seems to help them so by all means go for it

bored but caring
Solemnstar

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What do you do when you someone tells you the guy you like will never ike you should you give up?

Signed
Should I give up?

no you should not plain and simple the person that told you to give up is a bitch plain and simple

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ok well i want my crush to notice me so..i was thinking of changing my look..i need so advice on what you think i should do...i have big blue eyes,dark dark brown hair a little past my shoulders,curly hair,5'4,not that skinner(more towards the fat side),freckles,im white kind of tan, and i have natural tanner shading on my eye lids..if you need more tell me..but please help

you sound a lot like a girl im attracted to so i dont think changing your image is right.
but if you want to try goth that really gets attention

Confused and helping(hopefully)
Solemnstar

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Ok well I'm in junior high but i still have no friends and the 1st semester is almost over!! Well, I have one friend, my best friend,a.k.a. my soul sista. I couldnt survive with out her!!! So the years half over and nobody wants to be my friend. I'm on the track team, I go to the basketball games and dances, and i'm in the school choir. So you would think I'd be miss. likable, righttt? WRONG!!!!!But nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not a dork and nothing is wrong with me....they just dont like me. I want to swich classes, but now that i think of it, no one in the other classes like me either. I want to swich schools, but i think it would be a hard transition leaving my best friend. What should I do plz plz plz help me i'm in desperate need of guidance right now plz!!!!!!!!!

STOP MAKING FUN OF US DORKS WE ARE GOOD PEOPLE (if it wernt for the sinus congestion).joking but dorks are nice people some of my best friends are dorks.as for your question maybe you need to be less quiet or observitave and just try to be friends with every body that seems nice enough and does not have a bad rep.also i reccomend seeing how you soul-sista is doing in the friends department and try to be friends with her friends

troubled and sorry
Solemnstar

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This person Ive been thinking of constantly is becoming one of my best friends. I think I like him because when I'm with my friend hes all I think about and i get this weird feeling when I'm around him. Valentines Day is coming up. I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to go out with me the day before but I'm wondering...What do I do if he says no? I dont wanna look like a moron or start crying or anything..

Listen NAME WITHELD so what if you mess up the person will forgive you but i recommend not worrying about what happens if he regects you after all there is probably another person out there for you but just try your best with this one first ok

hoping i helped
Solemnstar

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See i like this kid hes mad nice funny mad cute .. u kno ,, he got it all .. but i am in a relationship .. and i dnt no what to do ? what should i do .. thank you ! xoO*

I depends.if you care about your relationship then ingnore the other person. if you dont then break up then go for the other guy.If you care for them both then try to become friends with the other guy

confused and unsure
Solemnstar

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I dont appreciate your advice ur nothing but an asshole

IF YOU DONT LIKE MY PREVIOUS ADVICE THEN INGNORE ME BUT JUST FOR YOU HERES SOME NEW ADVICE DONT ASK QUESTIONS YOU DONT WANT ANWSERED.

your painfly hurt
Solemnstar
p.s I DONT APPRECIATE SWEARING??

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Ok im sorry if this is long but here is my problem....I dont think im attractive i think i am over weight...I always think my friends are mad at me and at times i can be a bit immature...I havent had a real boyfriend only stupid 2 week things and i think its time for sumthing real but i dont know what to do..all of my close family lives in Rhode Island so i never get to see them and my parents fight constantly..This is not how a 16 year old deserves to live...i am so stressed and its affecting how i work and my grades in school..Some times i just go driving around to clear my head...half the times i feel myself crying....On some weekends i tell my parents i am going out with friends and i take the car and i sit in parking lots and cry becuase i dont want my parents to think i have no friends and all i do is sit at home...but i truly have no friends...i am caring but i guess thats not good enough for some people...Please i am in desperate need of help...I wanna stop crying myself to sleep and when i tell my parents i am going to hang out with friends i wanna mean it...I rate! Thanks bunches....

YOU HAVE NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND FOR TWO STINKING WEEKS SO WHAT?HOW ABOUT US PEOPLE THAT ONLY HAD ONE GIRL(OR BOY) FRIEND AND IT WAS FORCED.as for advice you need some serious help sister go see the school qwack and get your parents to a counceller but by that piont it is always too late to repair the lost love(if it ever existed)

feeling sorry and sad
Solemnstar

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My friend is a horrible singer and he wants to be fameus and sing on american idol but he sucks really bad.. i dont know how to tell him

PLEASE HELP ME !

STOP MAKING FUN OF ME.its not my fault i was born with bad pipes
anywho if he sucks then buy earplugs and then let judges insult him there you dont have to listin to him AND he reilizes that he is a lousy singer(just in case thought keep yourself avalible)

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