Razhie


"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.


Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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    The Question
    well theres this boy i like and my best friend knew him before me but never talked to him or anything. she said he was ugly but after i said he was cute and that i liked him she said it to and she starts flirting with him and kissin him on the cheek when im standing right there. He wants us to blow him but take turns. Have one of us blow him while the other one makes out with him then switch. my {best} friend is all like "ya lets do it sexy" and stuff like that and im soo freakin mad cuz she knew i liked him alot!! i told her about this and she just said that im makin a big deal out of nothing and that hes mine. what do you guys think am i overreacting or should i be mad? i mean would you want your best friend making out and givin bj's to the boy you like?

    The Answer
    Yeah, I'd be a little ticked off if my friend put moves on a guy I liked and agreed to do something sexual with him. I might not hate her for it, but I would certainly remember that about her and keep my crushes to myself next time.

    However, in this case I would thank her for proving that the guy I liked was mindless sex fiend who wasn’t really interested in me or my friend but just wanted to get a cheep sexual thrill with anybody who came along.
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    The Question
    Dude, alright i live in missouri and I went to a walgreens to purchase some condoms and i am 15. so i was at the check out and the lady said "i'm not going to sell these to you" and i said "uhm lady why not?" and she said "you are too young to be having sex and im not gunna sell these to you" then she put it in the bag to be put back on the shelf...so yah is that legal? (she lectured me for about a 1/2 hr on the subject so please dont lecture me as well

    p.s. i rate for good answers

    The Answer
    Well it's not technically illegal.

    A retail store has the right to refuse service as long as it doesn't go against the Human Rights laws. You could argue that she discriminated against you because of your age, and although that is exactly true, it couldn't be held up in court, because age discrimination isn't a viable complaint when dealing with services that are generally available to public like retail services. The reason age discrimination doesn’t count in this situation was because if it did, stores might be forced to sell cigarettes to underage people, or not be allowed to offer a seniors discount. I know it sounds a little fishy, but trust me on this one; you’d never be able to hold this up in a legal forum as age discrimination. Even though that is what happened, it just doesn’t quite fit the legal definition.

    HOWEVER! It is terrible business practice, and probably against company policy. So write the lady’s manager. What she did was very inappropriate, if no one under eighteen ever purchased condoms at that store again, they would take a serious hit. Write the manager and focus on how rude and insulting she was, and how you do not plan on patronizing their store again and will tell others about your awful experience. If you get no response from the manager of the store, write head office, call a customer complaint line. Unless they are trying to go out of business, they won’t be anymore impressed with that cashier then you were.
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    The Question
    I used to work at Walmart, until yesterday when I got fired for stealing $50 out of the cash register, to buy a present for my boyfriend for his birthday.

    I loved my job more then anything, like it didn't even feel like a job, just because I had so many friends there, and going there was actually fun. I have to pay them back the money & stuff, so I'm not worried about anything happening, because we've already discussed it.

    But it's really hard to get over. My parents are so disapointed in me, because my mom told me when I started the job, "Never to steal, you'll ALWAYS get caught." Obviously I didn't listen to her advice, but I just don't know what to say to them anymore, I know it's going to take time. But what can I do to gain their trust back? I get good grades in school, I'm always doing good things for other people, this just happened to be something bad that occured and I got caught.

    Please help, I'd really appreciate it.
    16/female.

    Thanks.

    The Answer
    I’m sorry dear but you are going to have a very hard time earning back their trust if you think this was just ‘something bad that occurred and you got caught.’

    That would describe skipping a class or taking your mom’s earrings without asking.

    What happened here was a completely and totally wrong decision that you followed through with an immoral and illegal action.

    If you talk to your parents using the language you used in your question and talking about the theft like it was no big deal and like it was just a rough thing that happened to you are going to have a really hard time earning their trust back. You might not actually feel that way, but that is the impression that your words are giving.

    Wand to prove to your parents you are trustworthy? Treat this with the seriousness you should and recognize this wasn’t just something unfortunate that happened to you, but something very wrong that you did, that you choose to do. Understand that, and then apologize and express that to them.

    Your parents want you to learn from this, they would probably like to know you feel the proper amount of remorse and shame over the whole thing, not just getting caught, but the fact you even did it in the first place! The way you talking about it sounds like all you learned was that it sucks to get caught. If your parents have that impression too, it will take a very long time to gain their trust back.

    Other then that, simply never do that, or anything like it, again. Your parents might punish you pretty severely for this, but with a bit of time, they’ll be able to trust you again.
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    The Question
    ok i have a lot of discharge, i have not started my period yet either. i live with my dad so its really hard to bring up the subject. i can't have a aunt, a friend, or a cousin take me either. i need pantyliners but i dont know how to get them without my dad knowing. what should i do???
    plz help me, A.S.A.P.

    The Answer
    If you really can't go to another family member or friend you can buy them yourself and hide them, you can borrow them from a friend, or you can explain to your father that you need them.

    Those are pretty much your only options and there are problems with them all:

    The problem with buying them yourself is that they are kind of pricey, and sooner or later, your father will figure it out but until he does you will live in pointless anxiety and fear as you try to hide it from him.

    If you borrow from a friend, again, they are sort of pricey and they won’t supply you forever.

    Lastly, if you tell your father, yes you'll be embarrassed and he will be too probably. But it will be done, it will be out there, and when your period does start you won’t have to go through all this nonsense all over again, you won’t spend months or years worrying and hiding this basic fact of life from him.

    I know it's embarrassing. It shouldn't be, because it's totally natural, but I know it is anyways. The thing is that if you don't get over it now you'll only prolong your torture, but if you do just talk to your father now, it will be over with, and you wont have to worry about getting pads or panty liners every again. It's not like he going to refuse to get them for you, he’ll understand that women need them.
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    The Question
    I curentally live with my boyfriend and his great family. Everything is great except I wonder one thing, he is 19 years old and anytime we go anywhere he mom calls to see where we are and when we are going to be home, he also cant go a day without talking to her, and can never stand up for himself when she says no. She also calls him habebe whichs means "my baby", and she says she dosent like it when he is out late. I understand she is worried but he is 19 years old and I thought at 19 they would be a man. Mabye I am wrong but I was thinking of marring this guy because he is the love of my life but I dont wanna marry someone who is attached to there mother and can never grow up and be a man. Mabye its just me But i would really love any advice anyone can give me! Thank yOU!!

    The Answer
    A nineteen year old who lives at home is not a man. Very few nineteen year olds are men yet, no matter where they live.

    I am twenty-one and when I stay at home or live there for a month or two, I call my mother so she knows where I will be and when I will be back. I speak to her everyday and I back down when she says no, because it's her house, I'm just adult who lives in it happily rent free. The house is hers, so the rules are hers.

    If anything, being nineteen in your parents home doesn't mean you have more freedom, it means you have more responsibility and higher expectations. Your boyfriend's mother clearly expects your boyfriend to be a responsible young adult who lives at home and therefore is required to be considerate to those he lives with and obedient to those who support him. Sure, a nineteen year old should be able to go a day or two with speaking to their mother, but if you live with her that might just not happen.

    Would you rather marry a man who is rude to his mother? Feels no need to call when he will be out late? Doesn't care what other people's opinion is?

    If anything, take a clue from your boyfriend's behavior. He is the perfect person to live with, considerate, responsible and understanding of his position in the household.

    So my advice: It's just you. You shouldn't be in rush to get married anyways, so give your boyfriend time to grow up into a man. Sounds to me like he is well on his way to becoming a pretty good one.
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    The Question
    i have a vaginal yeast infection, and i was just wondering if it was ok that my boyfriend fingered me even though im on a presciption to get rid of it

    The Answer
    As long as you weren't uncomfortable or in pain, it should be fine.
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    The Question
    16/f
    is it possible to be a "whore/slut" and still be a good kid?
    okay. i seriously think i have a problem...like i do not know when to say no. If i get asked to do something or anything of that nature i just dont know how to say no. I'll just do what ever he asks.

    and i know its not true, but i feel like all the guys i like and spend time with and get to know will stop liking me if i dont do something for them...
    how do i shake this image??
    thanks.

    The Answer
    It is certainly possible to have an enjoyable sex life and still be a good person (not a kid, a kid shouldn't be having sex) but being a 'whore', that word only means badness. There is no good way to call someone a whore.

    It takes only a few mistakes to get an image, it could take ages to shake it, and the only way to shake an image, is to stop conforming to it.

    Stop dating guys you are only sort of interested in. Stop doing anything they would like. Stop letting your sex life become gossip around school. Stop giving in to your every sexual urge.

    OR Develop a thicker skin and ignore what people say about you.

    Those are really your only two options for happiness. You can change the choices you aren't happy with, or you can be happy with your choices and ignore what others think.

    You are in complete control here and you are the only person who can make your choices when it comes to sex. If you decide to stop, then stop. I don't have any tricks for you there, when the moment comes, you just need to make the choice that is going to make you happiest, not just in the moment, but over all.
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    The Question
    i herd somewhere that if a guy does you from the back you cant get pregnet.is that true? and if it is does that meen your still a virgin. alot of people on adviceators say having sex is inserting the penis into the vagina so is it not considered sex if he inserts it in the back? thanx to all that answer!

    The Answer
    If you are talking about anal sex (which I can only assume you are talking about from your play-ground variety vernaculars) then, no, you can indeed get pregnant that way. That hole is desinged for things to come out, not stay in, so obviously sperm leaks, and if it comes in contact with vaginal fluids you can certainly get pregnant. It's less likely then unprotected vaginal sex, but it is definitely quite possible. Use a condom.

    Yes, I suppose if you had anal sex you would still *technically* be considered a virgin. You certainly wouldn't be a very innocent one. Anal sex is considered a rather serious sexual act and carries the stigma of being a rather kinky out there sort of thing for a girl to be into.
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    The Question
    For the past 2 years I have gotten really close with this guy who is A LOT older than me. He's 36 and Im 14/f But latley we've gotten really close. Like were dating? I don't know. its not like he's a pervert or anything. But I've i guess fallen in love with me. We're both musicians and we share an amazing passion together. I can stop it whenever I want to , but i can't. I guess you can't help who you fall in love with. The thing is that no one knows about it and hes married! So im really confused. but if i tell my mom or anyone there goes my lessons with him and band and everything ive worked for. and i love him. what should i do and is this okay that were together?

    The Answer
    No. It's not okay.

    Even if the age difference wasn't there: He is married. Also it sounds like he might be a teacher of yours, which makes it even more immoral, and then there is the fact you feel you have to keep it a secret. Ignore the age difference for a second; all of those other things I just listed equal an impossible and terrible situation.

    But you didn't need to ask that question dear, you already know it's not okay.

    So how about figuring out what this not okay thing you two are doing is? Define 'seeing each other' and define 'dating'. What is it you are doing together exactly?

    Crushes are fine and fantasies are great! It's okay for you to have these feelings for him. What isn't okay is getting your feelings and reality mixed up. Take a good look at what he says and does around you or even talk to him about his feelings for you. That might help you sort out what is happening here. Either realize he isn't interested in you that way OR figure out for sure that he is a rather scummy person who thinks it's okay to use his position to flirt with you and cheat on his wife.

    Either way, you need get over these feelings. If he is interested in you in an improper way (although I have to be honest dear, I very much doubt it) you should tell somebody, because he could hurt you, and his family, and other young girls too.

    I promise you dear, if a thirty something year old wants to cheat on his wife with a fourteen year old, not only is he a deeply disturbed and self-centered person, he is not the kind of person who will only cheat once. There would, and maybe already have been, others. Don't break your heart over him. If something that isn't okay is going on, tell an adult you trust. You'll be saving your own heart and many others as well.
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    The Question
    Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.

    The Answer
    Just because a young lady is mature enough to hold up her end of the conversation with a twenty-something, doesn't mean she is ready for twenty-something kind of relationship. She isn't. She simply doesn't live in your world, sounds like she is even smart enough to know that she doesn't want to yet.

    She is backing off from you. She is not interested in you. You probably even frighten her a bit, with good reason: she knows she can't be on equal footing with you. She is smart enough not to try.

    Your obsession with her is unhealthy. It would be unhealthy even if she was your age, but because of the age difference it is both unhealthy and impossible.

    Back off from her, big time. Stop causing her pain and confusion. She is a kid: She shouldn't have a whole bunch of past relationship issues, and all you are managing to do right now is create an issue that she is trying to avoid as politely as a teenage girl knows how.
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    The Question
    16/f

    in july like the 26th or something my family went to florida for vacation. my dad said each of us could invite a friend (me and my brother) but they would each have to pay $300 for like the plane ticket and the hotel. well i invited one of my good friends amanda. and so im like will u be able to get the money? her parents are divorced and lets say amanda and neither of her parents get along. her mom is usually always drunk and he dad has a bad temper. she said she would be able to and then 2 days before we are about to leave her mom calls me and says amanda is grounded and cant come. well i tell my parents and they are like they cant do that we bought the tickets and everything already. amandas family doesnt have alot of money so we knew that they were just trying to make up some excuse because they couldnt come up with the money. well my parents feel bad for amanda because she never gets to go anywhere and her parents arent that nice. so my dad talks to her parents and is like is the money thing an issue? and hes like if it is then you guys can pay me back when we get home or whatever or when you have the money. and so then we all come back and whatever and now its been almost a month and still no money! she only brought like 70$ with her down there so we even paid for some of her souvineers she bought. my parents are always on me about getting the money because we arent exactly rich and we need this $300. i keep asking amanda about it and shes like well my dad is getting money for selling our cabin so he said he will give it to me when he gets it. my dad said he doesnt even care how he gets it..i told her that she could give us a $100 one time and like $200 the next and she is like okay! and still NO MONEY. i feel really bad for my parents because that is $300. i mean i keep asking amanda about the money but i feel bad always bringing it up and i know its probably annoying her but im just trying to help my parents out you know! any suggestions on how i can get this money and be done with it? all my parents were trying to do was be nice..thats just how they are and they always get screwed over =(

    The Answer
    Sometimes when you decide to be nice, people aren't nice back.

    Yes, Amanda's parents should do the right thing and pay back your parents. But your parents could have avoided this whole thing by not lending money to people who clearly couldn't pay, and were willing to lie about it as well! Your parents didn't need to agree to take the money later; they could have looked more seriously into getting their money back (it's not impossible, it's just hard work is all) or you could have invited another friend, or they could have invited another person or family member! They did have other options, they decided to be nice.

    What I am trying to say is although your parents are definitely owed money; they made a choice that put them in this situation. You need to stop feeling bad and being the go between girl, this isn't your problem! This is something the adults need to short out.

    Amanda doesn't have the money, maybe her parents do, but Amanda clearly has NO control over her messed up parents, so stop hounding her. Her hands are just as tied as yours, so don't risk this friendship over money that she doesn't have and can't get.

    So, ask Amanda for any contact information for her parents, phone numbers for work or e-mail addresses, and give those to your parents. Tell them that is the best you can do. It IS the best you can do, and it is the only thing you need to do. Let your parents contact hers and figure it out. If they actually want the money back they are going to have to talk to them like adults, and not make excuses like it's uncomfortable or they are never home.

    It is amazingly unfair of your parents to try and make you do this nasty work, you and Amanda are innocent in all this and should just let it go and go back to being carefree friends.

    Take this as a life lesson for yourself and don't loan money to people you can't trust to pay you back, and even if you do trust someone, get the fact that they are suppose to pay you in writing.
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    The Question
    Ok to start 14/f
    Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
    Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin

    So now my question is
    do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
    or just leave it alone and let them apologize.

    I rate depending on the quality of the answer.

    Thanks, DarkChocolate794

    The Answer
    When you make a mistake, when you do something wrong or when you hurt someone, you apologize.

    It doesn't matter what the other person has done. We don't really apologize to other people for their sake, we do it for our own, and so that we know we are good fair people who always aim to behave in the best way.

    So apologize, because you were a smart mouth, because you were rude, and because your parents aren't trying to drive you nuts. They are trying to make you behave, to make appreciate what you have, take care of your body and manage your sleeping habits. Basically, how to be a good person.

    Apologize, and show them you are getting it.
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    The Question
    I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?

    The Answer
    Maybe he could be violent, but you don't need to wait for him to hit you to decide this relationship isn't working.

    He is being a jerk now! Most people are on their very best behavior during the first month of a relationship. If getting into your face and screaming at you is his very best behavior, can you imagine what his bad behavior looks like?

    I for one wouldn't want to stick around and find out.

    Don't wait for someone to cross the obvious line. If you aren't happy, that's a plenty good enough reason to end a relationship.
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    The Question
    What's that thing called, that director's use to start a scene? It's black and white and they push the top part down and it sorta clicks, then they say ACTION!. I just need what it's called!! Thanks.

    The Answer
    Depending on your region it can be called a clapboard, a production board, a production slate, a clapper or a scene slate.

    A clapboard seems like the most common name, but I have heard all of those labels used.
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    The Question
    after i get an orgasm 10 sec. later it dosnt feel good anymore ... is this normal?

    The Answer
    If you are continuing to stimulate yourself after you have a reached an orgasm, stop. A lot of people find that direct stimulation right after an orgasm is an unpleasant feeling.

    If you are feeling bad before or during an orgasm, then no, that isn't normal, and you should either change what you are doing, or see a doctor.
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    The Question
    I think I may have depression. I don't know if it is temporary or not. I have shown several classic symptoms of depression for nearly three months now, and I am so afraid to ask for help. I feel like there shouldn't be anything wrong with me, and I can't talk to my family about it, because I don't want it to become a huge ordeal. My mom has three sisters - the way they gossip, my problems would be all over the family before the words even left my mouth. I really don't want to draw any attention to myself because I am ashamed that I can't shake this feeling. Are there tips for dealing with possible depression without seeking help? Should I just treat the symptoms as they appear?

    The Answer
    There is NO way to deal with a mental illness without seeking help.

    Only treating the symptoms is like treating a flesh eating disease by gaining weight. The disease will be as bad as ever; it will just take longer to eat you all up.

    The truth is, the feeling that you should be able to fix it yourself, the guilt and the shame, are all parts of the mental illness. Those emotions are the way the illness traps you, pins you down, and never lets you go.

    I have been there. Trust me, it gets worse. I tried self-mediating, meditation and yoga, herbal remedies… If you can think of it, I tried it, but it only helped me cope a bit longer. I didn't get better until I asked for help. No one does.

    If you are worried about going to your mother, start with a school counselor or trusted teacher. Really, any trusted adult will be good. They can help you and guide you through the rest. Talking to your mother about your need for privacy might help a great deal, but at some point you are going to have to just say "Screw what other people think, I want to feel better!"

    I can see JC see already suggested this, but seeing a physiologist or therapist would be my advice too. I saw a physiatrist for a few sessions, and I didn't like her, but then I went to a cognitive behavioral therapist and I found somebody who I could really open up too, and she helped me to totally defeat a lot of those terrible thoughts floating through my head.

    Getting better is hard work, but getting better alone is impossibly hard work! And you don't have to work alone.
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    The Question
    I am an 18-year-old female and I feel as though my boyfriend controls me. He limits the girls I can talk to and talking to guys is definitely out of the question. In turn I feel as though I should do the same to him, so I do. Except I won't simply tell him to not go out at all. I will tell him to not go out 5 times a week, get drunk with his friends and pick up underage girls. Yet, I still feel guilty for telling him not to do this because I feel as though I have stooped down to his level and that I am now controlling him. He makes me feel this way as well. I love him, we are very close and have been dating for a long while, but what should I do?

    The Answer
    Controlling in a relationship is wrong.
    You can't make it right by trying to control him the way he controls you. You can only make it right by refusing to control him, and refusing to let him control you.

    So, you should start talking to the people you want too.

    You can explain it to him this way "I have always been true to you and honest with you, you have no reason not to trust me. Your controlling behavior isn't fair, because I have done nothing wrong and it makes me think you don't trust me. I am going to start hanging out with the people I choose too. I want you to know that I love you and will always be true to you but I hope you respect my choices, even if you don't always like them."

    A loving relationship can survive this. He can change and so can you. If he is uncomfortable about certain people, his feelings should be listened to and respected, but that doesn't mean he gets to order you around.

    Stand up for yourself and take this step to change the dynamic in your relationship. It will make you happier and more secure in his affection for you too.
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    The Question
    i don't want to have to change my tampon during school, but i'm afraid of getting TSS. if i left it in all day i would have it in from 6:30-3. that is like 8 1/2 hours. i know that your not suppose to wear it for more than 8 hours, but what are my chances of actually getting TSS if i do this? thanks :]

    The Answer
    It's possible you could get TSS but not too likely. It's far more likely that you will get some leakage if you wear a tampon that long.

    Either change your tampon (lots of people do it, there are little boxes right there in the stalls for you too) or wear a thin pad along with the tampon, just to avoid embarrassment and the icky feeling.
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    The Question
    i've been having yeast infections lately, my doctor told me to buy the over the counter stuff. so i did and got rid of it. well me and my boyfrind ended up having sex two days after i was done with the medicine ((finished saturday. sex on monday)). in a way i could feel it comin back but i didn't think it was that. wed. me and my boyfriend had sex again. and now i have the yast infection AGAIN! i plan on buying the meds again but i was woundering that bC i had sex in such a short time after i finished the meds is that why it came back again? also how long should i wait to have sex again when i finish there next meds? ((my boyfriends is buy it for me this weekend))

    The Answer
    You don't need to wait more then a day or two after you finish the medication to have sex again. As soon as the medication has leaked out of your body, as some of it is sure to do, you are fine to have sex.

    What you should do, is have your boyfriend go a doctor. Men can yeast infections too, and they notoriously don't notice them! (Apparently they aren't nearly so annoying for the guy as they are for the girl.)

    If your guy has gotten a yeast infection you and him can pass it back and forth forever and ever! So he needs to be checked out and treated as well. If he has a penile (or mouth) yeast infection, he'll just get some ointment to treat it. No big.

    If he comes back clean, go back to your doctor and explain the situation. They can delve into the problem a bit deeper and find out what is going on. You might simply have gotten back-to-back yeast infections, it can happen, but I would check out your boyfriend before you do anything else.

    Last bit of advice: Unless you notice the yeast infection immediately you should really use a three-day treatment, not a one-day. One-days are only effective if you use them in the first day or two of the infection.
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    The Question
    I'm going to europe this sunday. I need to straighten my hair or i won't look good! I wanna pack it but I can't hide it because they'll look through my dad and my dad will see the straightner and he won't let me do it! Is there something I can say or do... where am I gunna put it!

    Thanks

    The Answer
    Dear, unless you are staying on an American cruise ship you wont be able to use your straightener anyways.

    The plugs in Europe are different from an American plug. The outlets are shaped differently and provide a different amount of power. Unless you have a converter (which you could buy for about $10 - $20 bucks) no American appliance will even work.

    If you do have a converter, wrap the straightened in your underwear or put it in tied close bag with your shampoo and other hair products, throw it in your swim bag if you have one, anything were it is covered will work. Underwear or pajama rolls are particularly good, since your dad wouldn't likely look in them, put a thick sweater works too.

    But really, is anyone you know going to see you in Europe? If not, why do you even care about the straightener. Stranger's wont give a damn about your hair and it's just more to lug around the airport. My advice would be to just leave the damn thing at home.
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