I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).

I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.

I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.

I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.


I have two former friends who (in my opinion) seriously abuse their cat. "Tammy" will grab the cat by the back legs and spin it around, set it on the floor and flip it in circles, chase it around the house, pull it by its tail when it tries to get away, etc. She's 21, so she's not a kid at all. With her boyfriend, they will put the cat in a pillowcase a breathe lungfulls of marijuana smoke in on it. When they have parties, they will "pass the cat." Everyone in at the party will take the joint and the bagged cat, and on every exhale breathe their smoke into the cat's bag. This will go on for an hour or two before they free the cat. This is just what they do in front of other people.

I can only see where I have there options here, each with problems.
1) Call the police.
2) Break into their house and steal the cat.
3) Do nothing.

I don't want to call the police, because I smoke weed and so do a lot of my friends. Used to, if you got caught in my town you just went to jail. Now you reduce your sentence with every fellow pot head you turn in, all the way up to having no arrest record if you turn in enough people.

I don't want to break in just because...well...it's wrong, I guess. And I really want to do something to help the cat. I've already tried talking to them about it, and it doesn't help.

I would really appreciate any other suggestions, or help picking which option is right. Thanks!

Well, this is an innocent domesticated animal who is totally dependent upon it's owners to live a humane life. This is a cut and dry case of animal abuse. Anyone who knows about this and doesn't do something to help the cat is guilty too, in my opinion anyway.

It's great that you are reaching out and asking for advice, I can see you really want to help. Anything you attempt to do to save this cat is morally right.

If you have talked to them about this, they will suspect you turned them in if any legal action is taken. They will probably retaliate, so first of all be prepared for that.

I recommend that you stop smoking pot and get rid of anything connected with drugs---paraphenila etc. Take the home drug tests if you want...but in 30 days you should be clean. That way, if they do turn on you, nothing can happen to you. It's a sacrafice I know, but I don't think you can just sit back and allow an innocent cat to be abused for the sake of your own pleasure. If the cat dies from THC poisoning, I doubt you could live with that.

Once you are clean, go to the police and call the local humane society or SPCA. Most areas will allow anonymous tips as part of the crime stoppers program. If you give enough details this may enable the police to get a search warrant. They can also test the cat's hair for THC. No matter if the cat's owners get in trouble, I am positive the cat will be taken away and placed up for adoption.

This sounds extreme, I know, but that innocent little cat doesn't have a voice and can't do anything about his situation.

Search for Crime Stoppers in your City or County for more info.


(Rating: 5) You're right. It's worth to stay clean to save the cat. I think I'll try that. Thanks :-)

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