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Okay so I have a cousin that's really pretty. And all these guys like her and she has a boyfriend that calls her beautiful all the time. I dont have any of that and I think I'm ugly. i used to feel beautiful and sexxie and hott but now its not the same. i mean people tell me all the time I'm soo beautiful and they can't see why I'm sad. But its because guys dont like me, They'll talk to me but thats all. i mean a lot of guys talk to me all the time. They seem to like me but they are like 17 18 and i'm just 14. Maybe its my age but I'm ugly to myself. any suggestions?

Why are you even going after 17 and 18 year old guys? Go for guys your own age that aren't seniors in high school and are just freshman.


ok so i just had sex with this guy. he didn't use a condom, bad i know!! he pulled out and everything but now my best friend has me worried about pre-cum. is there anyway to tell if he came in me at all?

If he entered you without a condom, you can be pregnant. The pull out method is the result of teenage wishful thinking, and doesn't work AT ALL. Depending on how long he was in you, he had pre-cum for sure.

Depending on the guy, pre-cum can have less sperm than semen or in some cases, more.

Wait for your period and if you miss it, buy a pregnancy test.


Why when teenage boys are driving, they always have to speed and open their windows and BLAST their music so a car 100 feet away can hear it? I think they are trying to show off, but it's not cool. I was just standing in the McDonald's parking lot yesterday and a car like wizzes by me and blasts their music and I can see that it's a teenage guy and his friends and then they turn around and go by me again and then look at me, make a stupid comment like "sexy thing" and then honk at me 3 times. Do they think it's cool? I mean I'm NOT impressed when they do it. They look like idiots. Another thing guys do is when you're in a car and they're in the lane right next to you and they won't even look at the road as they are driving, they just stare at me the whole time, it's like turn around before you get in a freakin car crash! Ugh, why do guys do that? Is it cause they like me?!?!

They're just psychotic. Change lanes.


what are some bands that no one really knows about and they arent real popular? i like any type

Interpol and Primus.


like in the movie Bring It On, there was this thing called a spirit stick. and no i dont mean the deoderant, i mean like.. it was this stick that i guess was really important to the cheerleaders? whats so great about it? and what is it made out of? and how do they get it and stuff? im not a cheerleader so i dunno.

This is what you're looking for.



I'm fifteen, and a female. For awhile now, I've wanted to get my nose pierced. I think tiny nose studs on the side are really cute. I'm not the rebellious type, I've told my parents about it and they're considering letting me have it done. I don't want to betray their trust and do it behind their backs, you know? And I know the risks of infection, and I'll commit to cleaning it regularly, etc etc. So please don't lecture me about that.

1. Does what side a girl gets pierced make a difference, like guys who get a certain ear pierced? I was thinking my right side, because I have a freckle there too.

2. If I take it out, how long until it heals over to the point it has to be re-done? [My grandma might not be too thrilled about pierced noses at her Christmas party]

Make it small. Like very small. Not a hoop. I hate those hoops.



I'm worried about my height. I'm not really WORRIED...im just confused.

ok, so both my mom AND dad are 5'8..ok? but i'm only 5'2. I dont know if this helps but I'm 14 & I got my first period two weeks ago. My foot size is a 9..and thats about it.

haha, so do you think there's a chance of me growing?


For sure. I did a good deal of growing when I was 14 and 15.


does anyone know a cute site for background for your advicenators page

The cool kids go here;



I have pondered this for a while: does the name Thew have a meaning? I have been trying to figure it out, but I can't put my finger on it. Since you were the creator of Thew, I figured you would be the right person to ask =)

~ xoxo2girlinlove2xoxo



Hi guys

Uhmm i have this assignment at skool about prostheses and i cant find some information! If you guys can (hoping that you will), please help me out!!

I need to find some websites that answer these questions:
"Why it is needed to be fitted into/onto the body.
What is the prosthesis made from?
HOw long does it last before the need of a replacement?
How is the prosthesis fixed into/unto the body?"
about three prostheses for an assignment.

THREE, preferebly one should be "artificial limbs"






my name is ashlee and my middle name is marie, most people call me ash or ashlee. im sick of ash and i want a new nickname.i can be totally different then my real name and nothing stupid like ashlee marie or ashbo i want something cute and creative

Lee, Mash, Lash.


You suggested I fix my question. I did.

What do you look for in a girl? Are there any physical features you'd recommend? Are there any personality traits you'd like her to have?

Yes, and thank you. :D

Nothing really specific physically. Personality wise, the usual junk. Not to sound redundant... funny, smart, passionate about something, down to Earth, and that's probably everything.


whats good stuff to put in a beach bag?

A frisbee, lunch, a towel. I wouldn't bring electronics though unless you plan on not leaving your stuff alone ever.


what kind of things do you put on a ice cream sundae?

im just drawing a blank

Bananas, cherries, chocolate syrup or whatever that stuff is called, sprinkles, caramel, strawberry sauce or whatever that is called as well, and M and Ms or candies like that.


what kind of girls do you go for? are there any physical features you look for? any type of personality things you want in a girl?

I can't think of anything right now that's not related to capitalization and grammar.



my boyfriend and i have only had sex twice.. but he can only last literally like 5 seconds.. how can he last longer?

Tell him to beat off before hand.


my gf like to pleasure herself when im not able to be there to do it for her. so, i was wondering what are the effects of masturbation with girls? what are the pros and cons?
thanx for the help and support!

The pros are obvious. The only cons are that there are none.


my cousin wants to know if having sex ok for a twelve year old, well she isn't doing it with a boy, just an object. Because her Vagina is hurting. She doesn't want anyone to know , so do you think it is bad?

You mean is it normal for her to masturbate? Well yes, as long as her object isn't a knife or cactus or something like that.


what are some easy to do role playing, like you don't need to go buy stuff. i want to do some roleplaying with my boyfriend, but lack money to buy costumes or anything.

role playing realy turns me on but i'm not very creative.

You can be the teenage advicenator girl in distress, with him being a columnist named Matt that lends a helping hand...


I have two really great friends. Rachel and Megan. Rachel is like EXACTLY like me(we like the same stuff,same everything) and have the same "moral standings". But Megan is exact oppisite of me. She has pretty much no morals at all.
Well one day in Volley ball we had to choose partners and i automaticaly go for Rachel. And in Science, and History and Math i do the same thing. Idk why but i really don't ever pick Megan, and i feel horrible about it. I just don't like the way she goes about things. She is a bad student(gets C's and D's and sometimes F's) and Rachel and I are straight A's.
I don't know how to envolve Megan and idk if she is even like a friend to me.
How can i envolve her. And in your opion am i being a bad friend? I don't want to be that way anymore. HELP

Just to add input of my own to what everyone else said;



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