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Ok so I recently broke up with my boyfriend and he kind of flirts with my best friend, it bugs me but I dont really seem to mind much. He talked to me today and gave me a hug and said he loves me and started begging to get back together with him, he said that he cant move on, I said no because I dont want a relationship right now and he walked away upset and almost started crying, instead, I started crying. =( Btw, we were going to kiss today for no real reason but didnt because we kinda fought instead.

He sent me a message on facebook saying that he wants to kiss me tomorrow and everyday until he moves on and I said no because I dont want him to feel "the spark" if we kiss repeadidly and not ever get over me. I want to kiss him once but only once, should I?

For his benefit and your benefit, do not kiss him at all. I say this knowing you'll give me a poor rating -- that is how much I stand by this advice and how little I give a fuck.

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About a month ago i hooked up with a co worker (we are both married with children) and have been traveling extensively with him so the sex has continued. However, he has been flirting extensively with another co worker (which I happen to be her supervisor). He said he was doing it to protect our relationship so no one would suspect anything. Well i found out that he actually spent the night with her last night. I feel completely blindsided, hurt, and jealous. How do I approach talking to him because i don't feel like I have a right to feel that way.

You're right, you don't have a right to feel that way.

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For school I have to parody the song we didn't start the fire by billy Joel. Since its about events from 1949-1989, I have to do one for my life. I was born in May 1998 so all I have is Apple, 9/11, Obama. I need more events and how to put it in a song

Haha, I'll answer this because adviceman obviously didn't really help you at all.


In random order as they come to me:


The War on Terror, Libya, Syria, Hurricane Katrina, the earthquake and tsunami in Japan, the earthquake in Haiti, the Red Sox winning the WS in 04, cell phones, Limewire, Chinese Democracy by Guns 'n' Roses, the execution of Saddam, the killing of UBL, 7/7 attacks in the UK, train attacks in Spain in like 04 I think, health care reform, Wall Street regulation, the Great Recession, Bird Flu, Swine Flu, hybrid cars, blahblahblah.


Things have sucked since you've been born, thanks a lot!

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13/f
So I started high school this year and there is this girl I knew from last year. We have a class together now and I guess we could be considered friends. Today one of my other friends in our "group" told me that she found some beer in the girl's cup one day. Now, I don't know if it's true, but this isn't something that my friend would lie about and most likely she knows what beer smells like...So I'm wondering what I should do. I'm not going to tell on her because I have no idea if it really happened. But just in case, what would be the right thing to do in my situation? Because underage drinking is against my morals. I know that we're not close enough for me to ever feel pressured by her, but I know that my parents wouldn't necessarily approve of my even being kind of friends with her. Please no answers about reporting her. I have no idea if this is true, but I just want to be prepared in case I find out that she really has been drinking at school.

I would just say to mind your own business. The sooner you learn that morality is relative, the better. Your morals are not everyone else's.

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Is it a bad sign when your boyfriend splits his leisure time between you & his male friends

It's a bad sign for him that his girlfriend has a problem with this.

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i need a tumblr url
my names Nathaly
anything cute works or girly anything
thx

damnyouparents.tumblr.com

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I am talking to this girl she likes me and i like her but i know i can do better there is this other girl who is much prettier and i think she like me but im not sure i can get her if i tried and shes really fun what should i do?

Continue being as shallow as possible.

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hi im sure u have had many questions like this but im going to ask anyways. i apologize for the spelling.and its kinda jumpy sorry.

my boyfriend who i have been with for 3years & 2months so far, (we've been together sense i was 15 and he was 16, we are now almost 19 and 20) anyways he keeps haveing dreams about me being pregnant and not just a few months pregnant i mean like 8 and 9months pregnant, to where im about to have the baby, he has them all the time ah and hes also having dreams about us already having children its always a girl with blue eyes,blond hair, lightly skined and etc.he has always had these dreams about me, and im not sure why. yes he wants a baby girl so i know that could be a reason why, i know its not because hes afraid to get me pregnant because we both want to have a baby yes we do plan on getting married next year so you guys know. i dont know i was just wondering if there could be an actuall reason why hes having these dreams or is it just because there random? please dont have rude comments im just curiouse. and thank your for your answers or even just reading it. i want honest opinions though.

Could be a Nazi sympathizer?

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What is your opinion on age gaps? I'm talking 16 and 21.. is it wrong? is it okay if you've known them for a long. Is it okay to be friends with people that much older than you. I'm 16 f and hes 21 m. im worried even being friends makes him look like a bad guy.

His peers would rightfully view him with disgust.

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OK, so my boyfriend and I had sex last monday. I have been thinking that I may be pregnant (I'm 18)but my parents don't like my boyfriend. I am determined to tell them if I am pregnant that it was with my boyfriend ( of which they don't know about nor do they like). How can I go about telling them if i am pregnant that I am pregnant without them yelling at me or freaking out?

Get a pregnancy test.

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how would you economically solve the problem of illegal immigration? what would be the impact of your policy? what is the economic debate on both sides as to why immigrants are economically important, and how they are hurting the american economy? which do you agree with?

-just homework i need help with.

That's not help: that's an answer.


Extremely secure borders for 1-2 generations would solve the problem. Children born in the US, regardless of the immigration status of their parents, are American citizens. Preventing new illegals from entering the country means the old ones die, and the Constitution legalizes their American born children on its own. Problem solved without splitting families up via deportation.

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I know a couple of people that went to jail for traffic tickets and they said that it was the worst experience ever. They said that they got treated badly but federal inmates get cable tv good food and everything. Why is this?

Not sure if someone that actually went to jail for traffic tickets is the best source for anything.

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Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP!

When I was 17 one of my closest friends was only into doing drugs and drinking, and I resisted for a few years. I even asked a question on advicenators inquiring what to do.


Continue doing what you're doing and stay away from drugs: do not make the same mistake I did because it will fuck up your life.

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Yea I stopped all at one . The withdraw was horrible but I pulled through

With no relapse? Impressive.


You're obviously a strong person, your current issues are minimal compared to the ones you've already solved. See a mental health professional and they'll be able to figure out if you need some other sort of medication or just plain therapy.

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Well I mainly just smoked budd and did pills like zanies, serequel, etc there was a time my weed was laced with meth for two weeks. I also drank constantly wine, gin hard liquor. I drank alot of syrup (codiene) I did whip it's alot from air dusters and and out of that a/c box. And I use to do this everyday all day it wasn't like every now and then. I was faded off something throughout the whole day with a mixture of been faded off of everything.

Oof, you stopped all at once? How was your withdrawal?

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Hey you answered my question on my anxiety formed after doing drugs. And you asked why I did them. I just did them to have a good time and somehow I got caught up in them I was also kicked out my parent home at a certain time and drugs made time go so much faster at that point. So if that helps you understand a little Id really like your input in it

Makes sense to me. What were you using?

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So I have stopped doing drugs for two years now mainly because I noticed I was tearing my family apart and once I stopped I noticed I formed some anxiety or something maily social I think, I think it may been have been of the drugs because before that I was just fine confident had a good time now whenever there is company or I have to interact vocally with someone I become very panicy especially when I have to look them in the eyes. It's affected my last job and when I go to school it's horrible because i become very weird and akward. So what does this mean idk if I got this after I quit doing drugs but I never had it before. Can someone help me to over come this or know anything of this? If so thank you so much

I seriously doubt you're going through withdrawal if it's been two years since you last used (if I'm understanding you correctly).


I would be interested in knowing why you started using in the first place -- maybe your answers are there. I'd recommend seeing a therapist or counselor, who can refer you to a psychiatrist if they deem it necessary.


I'm sure this is impacting your life very negatively now, but you should be proud that you've stopped using and you're beyond that period in your life. The hard part is over.

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a girl's, if that makes a difference? and no i'm not ugly (not cocky, just being honest), nor do I consider myself to be "really weird" or whatever. this is just the type of music I enjoy the most. I can't explain how much I love it. just curious about what others think. a lot of my music taste in a nutshell are bands like Deerhunter, Radiohead, and MGMT

It means you're a regular person that enjoys listening to extremely popular music groups. Your taste is neither uncommon nor unique.

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I was in a partner work project where my partner didn't memorize her part so we couldn't pull off the play. When I would say my lines the other girl would be silent and would not say any of her lines. The teacher knew I had my part done, but she said she has to fail us for it. I spoke to her during our fifteen minute break and wrote an email to her. She was offended by it and responded to it a little too strongly, in my opinion. Was I too rude or was she just having a bad day?

My email: Hi, I'm in your Drama class. May I ask about my grade for the project? (blank) and I both worked hard on the play together and we practiced our parts, but we were somewhat less prepared for it than she originally thought. However, I had practiced and had the script memorized. I think it's a little unfair that you should count me as failing as well and I thought I tried the best I could with the given situation. I just wanted to know how you're going to mark our combined project. Thank you for reading.

Her response: Hi,

I understand you are concerning about your project grade. However, I hoped you could be more patient to wait for your grade and feedback. We just had a performance (assessment) in the morning and I have told you that I was going to grade according to the grading policy which has been published in advance.
There is no reason to hear that my grading is unfair as I haven't told any specific comments, result about your performance.
Actually, I didn't have any obligation to give you a second chance as no any other pair was granted. I gave you a second chance because the performance was way below expectation. (blank) has to look at her script every line and I believed you two have worked hard on it.
I think it is rude and unfair to use the word "unfair" to the teacher without any result on you yet. You also should not to tell me that how I should grade or what I should count.

Besides, you sent this email during my class, when you were supposed to focus on the class.
I again understand your concern about your grade. I would not count her errors on you as oral part is 85% individual grade (team work for 15% -seeing if you helped and collaborated well on script) which I have already explained and posted on the website. However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today.

I want to ask your patience for the detailed feedback and grade. I would be pleased to answer or explain further questions if you have then.


Stay warm.

My response: I did not mean to sound rude or as if I was telling you how to grade. I wasn't saying your grading was unfair as you actually haven't graded it yet. I was merely asking if you would tie my performance completely to the presentation and I apologize if you thought I was complaining about you as a teacher. I typed this email to you during break time and not during class, a time period directly after our performance. We are grateful for the second chance and once again, I understand that grading is your decision and I wasn't saying anything otherwise. My email wasn't one demanding you give me my grade, it was an email trying to express concern about how the problems in class are going to affect my overall grade. I was actually attempting to talk to you about it, and I apologize if it came off as rude, but my intentions weren't to criticize you. I'm happy to hear that my mistakes won't be counted against (blank) and that her mistakes won't be counted against me. I'm still not exactly sure why you wrote this, however:" However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today." I would like to repeat that I sent my email after the performance because I wanted to talk to you privately about the grade and you specifically mentioned during our skit that you'd like to see us personally. I didn't write the email because I wanted to personally attack you, and I'm sorry if you perceived it as such. Thank you and I hope you stay warm too.

What exactly went wrong here? You guys don't have to read everything, by the way.

I disagree with both people that have already answered -- I don't think you really did anything wrong. Considering how diplomatic you are (particularly in the second email), this is your teacher creating a problem/conflict, not you.

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Im 13/f,and my parents disapprove of who I am.
I'm a HUGE lover of music,it's my life.
I LOVE bands/artist like :Escape the Fate,Falling in Reverse,D.R.U.G.S.,Black Veil Brides,Get Scared,My chemical romance,Asking alexandria,Bring me the horizon,Vampire's Everywhere,and bands of the metal,screamo,rock,and alternative music.
I love "dark things".My favorite color is black.
I'm always learning about cults,love vampire's,and things like that.
But,my parents disapprove of my "emo" lifestyle.
They say it's "demonic".
But that's just who I am.
They've tried taking that music away from me,and "making me normal".
I've told them this is who I am,but they don't wanna hear it.
Help!

Fuck your parents, but fuck your pseudo-dark taste!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4iaj2w7Bp58&feature=related


Real darkness that will give your parents reason to worry.

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