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i guess i would consider myself a minority, i'm half chinese half white (swedish/german) and i guess im sort of having an identity crisis. i am a senior in high school and i have a group of really close friends that are all white. my group of friends in high school that are my age are all asian. its been really wierd for me but for the first time ive had to deal with people being racist against me for hanging out with asians, associating with asians, and just plain being asian. i can't help feeling ashamed about it and at the same time mad that i do feel ashamed because its part of who i am, and no one should be ashamed about it. i keep getting advice from my mom and from my best friend to not care what other people think but its really hard because "other people's thoughts of you" is so much about what high school is. i guess thats why im looking forward to college because its more a time for yourself. anyways i can't help feeling embarassed and im ashamed of myself for thinking like this. i don't understand why i feel the way i do but does anyone have some good insight or information-im having a real identity crisis.

Fuck the true form of todays American. Racist and shallow. Don't ever be ashamed of your heritage. I'm a native american/german mix, and am damn proud of it, even if some people think it odd. I don't care /what/ they think. They can go do a spiked rod for all I care. If people talk about you or give you nasty looks, just smile at them and go about your buisness. It will confused the hell out of them, and eventually they'll give up...

Everyone who isnt fully Caucasian seems to think about how bad heritage can be. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Any of the people who bother you about it probably won't make it far in life, and otherwise deserve to be shot. Being racist against you... for hanging with those of same or close ethnic backround to you? Also need to be shot. Fools.

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i'm going to islands of adventure and i'm kinda scared to go on dueling dragons.of those who went on it, was it fun, describe what it was like on the ride.also, what are otehrs rides you would recommend to go on while i'm there?

Dude, the Dueling Dragons is the best ride. Well, ok, so it isnt, but it still rocks. The Flame and Ice Dragon's each have different tracks, though. I love The Hulk the best though. So much adrenaline, its almost like skydiving, aka super fun. Spider Man is supposed to be good, but I didnt think it was worth the line...

Try SeaWorld while you're here, the dolphins are the most adorable deliciously addictive creatures ever. I'll be going there this Sunday with my family and spend the day down in the viewing tank :) (pointless info, yes, but I might as well say since SeaWorld is so much fun :P )

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okay i really think this kid is hott but i dont even know him...i see him in the halls alot but i smile and he smiles back but i want him to notice me what do i do???? should i wear something differnt put heavy makeup on? i know it seems really stubid because of a guy but i dont even know him!!!

Obiously you've got a little of it, with him smiling at you. Just try and make friends with him, or get to know some of his friends and let them know about your... feelings. Relationships take time to build, and if you want a sturdy one you will need to just wait it out for awhile.

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My boyfriend's a rather sexual person, and I'm..getting there, haha. I've given him an orgasm and we've been trying to give me one. I'm kind of reluctant cos it hurts! Should it hurt? We are not having sex, fingering, but no intercourse. When he touches my clitoris it seems like pain, but also kind of good, but like tickling in which you try to move away. It hurts when he presses too hard of course, but then doesn't give that weird kick when it's not hard. The other day he was touching my clit and my leg started spazzing, but the clit hurt, but it felt like we should keep going, yet we stopped cos it hurt me kind of. We don't think I came. Wondering, what aren't we doing? And what does an orgasm feel like for a girl (or anyone)?

An orgasm for a girl is a contraction of muscles in the uterus, as per men in the penis, all involuntary. You might consider using lubrication of some sort ( KY, vaseline, baby oil, any of that. ) Because it could be the fact his fingers, or /you/ are too dry. Both male and female genitilia are riddled with nerve endings, and they can be pain ones if there is too much friction to cause heat. If you don't know what /you/ like, how can he? Experiment around with /yourself/ first. Find out what ya like!

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are men (guys) supposed to masterbate?

They don't /have/ to masturbate, but they do. It feels good, and it helps them keep calm. If they dont all that testosterone isnt just going to disappear, its going to go to the rest of the body. To the rest of the world, this is known, as violence. >: Sadly thats not the reason why all they guys do it. They do it because its the closest thing to sex for them if they don't have that.

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some of the girls in my school like gettin called a tease. and others dont i am so confused by this that i want to know if its a goodthing being called a tease and wat it exactly means


x0 thanx 4 da help

Its /not/ usually good to be called a tease. A tease is usually a girl who explicits themselves in a sexual way to men, making them think they want to have sex with them. Then when the oppurtunity arrives, the woman just says no and leaves. It really messes with a guys head.

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ok... i just got a new camera phone. it is motorola and i was wondering....does it cost me for every picture i take?????

Nope, it just costs you when you message it to someone.

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is masterbation a sin? if so then how do i stop?

Masturbation is not a sin, unless its causing problems for you in life. If not, then keep it up! ITs a good way to keep away from unsafe sex and plus, its healthy. I do it on a daily basis, multiple times. It's a form of abstenance, in my opinion. Better to masturbate than have sex with someone without a condom..

So don't stop. Keep yourself happy and away from STD's and pregnancies and stuff. >=

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i need some backup for this:
this "Gangsta rap" dude at school slapped one and punched another girl in the middle of the hallway two days ago. needless to say he got suspended. I work with one of the girls and the guy. he is a lazy grocery bagger, she's also a bagger.
Question: need opinions from both sexes on the issue of "guys can't hit girls". personally, i want to thrash him within an inch of his life, as do most of the other guys i have talked to. is that a bad thing?
other info: he's done it before, and has had his ass kicked multiple times for it.
did i mention that he also dresses like a drug dealing lowlife? oh yeah i did, stupid kids trying to live like gangsters in suburbia.
-hilter

Dude, hitting women is so much bullshit. I've said this so many times to my friends and myself, women deserve so much better than the crap they get. Abusive husbands. Their wives cook, clean, take care of the children, housework, etc, and all they get is getting beaten and forced into sex. Its bullshit.

I think ANY guy who beats a woman needs to be shot. I agree with you, this guy /deserved/ having the crap beaten out of him for this. I've had myself roughed up several times for sticking up for some girl whos maybe 1/2 foot shorter than this drugged up stoner.
I didn't care though. I stopped a beating, and was happy about it.

No, though, its not a bad thing for you to want to beat him shitless... While alot of my friends have yet to mature, they think its wrong as well. Jump him with some pals next time you see him or anyone doing it.

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Is Ellen Degenirus a lesbian? I dont know! Help!

Yeup, Ellen is a lesbian. Has been for awhile too. Still funny though. Yay Dori! :P

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I need to make a cd for this dance/party. What are some good songs,like hip-hop or something you can dance to? Thanks a bunch.Oh, and by the way, what was that onesong from last year with trick daddy ... ahh i forgot who else and what it goes like. maybe someone knows? thanks a bunch. easy rating. =)

I can only think of one awesome CD you can dance to, and thats Discovery by Daft Punk. One of the few CD's I've listened to where EVERY song rocked. The best to dance to on it though is One More Time. Love it

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i don't know if i'm bi or not. i like guys but lately i've been attracted to girls too. i found out this girl was bi and now i'm really attracted to her and i like alot of other girls. but not just any girl, i only like really pretty girls. i don't want to be bi and i defnately can't tell anyone, that's not even an option so don't bring that up. so am i bi? tell me more about this.

Any girl or guy goes through the 'Bi Stage'. I find myself thinking how handsome that one guy is, but I dont want to have sex with him or something. Just thinking to myself how easy it'd be for him to get someone attraced to him like me (not as great as it sounds X.X ). As with women, you could simply be thinking how good they look and how easy it'd be for them to get a guy. :P

If you think of them sexually though, theres nothing wrong with it. Being bisexual isn't freakish, unless you want to marry the same sex. Wasn't meant to be like that. Avoiding that topic, dont try and run from bisexuality if you are such. Just think, heterosexuals only have one side of the homosapien race to choose from. Bi's have both sides :3

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What amount of sperm is needed to be in a female in order for her to get pregnant?

ANY amount of semen can get a woman pregnant. It only takes /one/ sperm cell to fertilize the egg, however when ejaculation occurs, only about maybe 100 sperm out of 500 billion (probably a huge understatement) make it to the egg...

But, simply put, any little bit of semen can get you...

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ok..i'm definetly not sexually active but when i was little i didnt know better and im a girl but i kinda had sex with a girl.I'm straight but I was only about 7 when it happened.I'm 14 now so how would I know if i got HIV or something? Would I know by now?

If it was homosexual? Hmm. I'm not sure you can get HIV from vaginal fluids, but anythings possible.... just get your blood tested at a hospital or something. If you're afraid they'll ask why, just go ahead and tell them. Anything you tell them is confidential, so they cant tell anyone without your permission.

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look there is this kid that i like a lot and i know him from school and we hang some times but i dont no if he likes me what should i do?o yea im a girl well u can kindof tell by my name but w/e

Hmm. Well, I've always found it easiest to find out if someone likes you by simply asking them out ^_^ Observe how he acts around you and other girls.... does he pay more attention to you than them? It can be hard to tell, but the easiest way to find out is to ask him out :3 Like I say, its always better to know what /could/ or couldnt have been, eyh? :D

If I didnt cover enough send more info and I'll gladly help more ^^

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i've been having these dreams, about breaking up with my bf. and i know i never want to do that. i love him with all my heart. then i have other dreams where hes cheating on me. i cant help but let these dreams get to me b/c its not what i want. i see him once every couple weeks and i miss him terribly, and i know some of you might say "maybe you dont want a long distance relationship" but thats not it. we've been together for a while and yes i dont like it but i would never break up with him b/c of that. hes too important to me. i dont know whats going on but i want these dreams to stop but i dont know how. and i refuse to break up with my b/f. i would literaly die first. please help. thanks.

These aren't dreams, obviously, they're nightmares. You don't take pleasure in them, so its bad. Nightmares.

What to do about them? You can take a B12 vitamin supplement once every day for awhile to help control your nervous system during REM. I had horrible repetitive nightmares where if I even touched something a maniacal laugh came forth and the world blew up in a supernova. o.O;;

Or, try thinking of something pleasureable before you sleep. What you think of before resting can sometimes affect your dreams.

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ok i know this sounds like pretty pathedic or something..but when i heard about anirexia, i thought to my self that..."that will never happen to me! i love my self to much for that!" but now im totally obessed with my weight...yes i do admit it... its like im always watching what i eat..how many grams of fat are in it..and now im looking at websites about anirexia..i tried puking..but it was to hard to do..is this a normal thing for my body to always feel fat?? i would really appreciate any advice..or help you can tell me...thanks

Don't even think about making yourself vomit to lose weight. You WILL die from it. You might tell yourself 'Oh, when I get my goal I'll just start eating more.' It doesn't work that way. Once you've done it on a regular basis, your body will begin to feed off your organs, your liver will go first. What you need the most. You may not want to, but your body will think otherwise.

Its natural to think yourself fat. You look at yourself from above. Its a whole different view to others around you from the front or side. I thought I was fat, and then I looked in the mirror. I was like, Swarchenegger(sp).

It is natural though, to think yourself over weight because of this. So ask a friend maybe. Or your doctor. Its really alot better if you had a doctor tell you you were a bit overweight.

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can you get birth control without your parents knowing? and how much does it usually cost?

You can get birth control FREE from PlannedParenthood, but you just have to hope you have one locally. Otherwise they can cost up from $150-$200.

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Do guyz like when girlz make the first move ? and what kind of move do they like when gurlz make it ?! does it turn them on wheneva a girl wants to wrestle?

It actually depends on the guy. Some guys want to make the first move, preserve their masculinity I suppose. Others find it better the girl does. You could put your hand on his hand or arm or somewhere, and by move you mean kiss I suppose, and then let your body do its thing. It goes on autopilot from there =P It'd turn /me/ on if a girl I liked made the first move.

So really, it just depends on the guy.

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You know how people say no guy likes a tease? I am so confused about what that means...I mean what do you do to be a "tease"?
I would really appreciate if you helped thnx!
I to anyone that at least tries to help!
thnx!

Basically exhibiting yourself in a sexual way in front of guys. Like not crossing your legs with a short skirt on on purpose in front of them to give them a look. Its called teasing though because you act very sexual toward them but refuse any activity with them. That really hurts us. I wouldn't be very friendly to some girl who was doing that to me, so just know its not a way to get attention.

So your friends were right. We don't like a tease. Its like stealing cndy from a baby.... you make it /very/ sad. >=

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