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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable.

Yes, chances are the man you marry will not be a virgin. These days most teens seem to have had sex somewhere during their freshman year. As of today I don't believe in God, so whether or not the bible says premarital marriage is wrong doesn't matter to me. I go by my own rules of abstenance. Most of those who have sex usually end up with an STD or a kid, when they've just gotten into highschool. Not something you want on your hands, huh?

♥EJ(ST) or w/e...

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do most girls shave their pussys?

Most sexually active ( dont have to be though) do. Multiple reasons. It can be the guy's preference (honestly, who wants to pick pubes out of their teeth after going down on their partner? ) For guys, it can make them feel more confident in 'size'. And less hair for both = less cleanup/difficulties.


To answer though, yes, most women do. Wax it, even, so they dont have to boter with it later.

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is there a site where i can get free music and put it on a cd without downloading? because i only like certain songs from different bands so to buy the cd would be a waste so if you could help me out.. i would greatly appreciate it

You can't do that, really. In order to burn something to a CD it must be on your hard drive first. And the only way to get free music by downloading it is pirating it, whicch I don't suggest you do. You can, however, download songs really cheap. You can download a plugin from Walmart.com and buy music from them fo ronly $0.88 a song. Or iTunes, for $0.99 a song.

♥EJ(ST)

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I have webshots right now and you are only aloud 240 pictures on there for the basic one( so I dont have to pay) and I have made 2 ablums aready and I just want one! Does anyone know where I can get a *free* photo ablum that can hold more than 300 pictures? thx I RATE HIGH!!

Try Photobucket.com. Not sure about the picture capacity though. I use it and its easy, though...

♥EJ(ST)

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hi this question is for anybody who would like to answer it do you know how to create your own website like what steps or things needed to create your own website i would like to create my own website how would i go about doing it. thanks

Ok. If you want your own website, not some free crap like geocities, Angelfire or xanga, you need to first get yourself a domain name. I got mine the cheapest at NameCheap.com. I've surfed for hours, and no one beats them, and they're safe. My uncle uses them for his own three websites, and he's had them for 2 years, no problems. They're only $8.88 ($10 if you round it all up. ) And thats for an entire year.

Now ya got a domain name. Sweet, huh? Well, now you need to find a place to host it and the files you want to put on it. I also use Dreamhost.com. They give you about 200-something megabytes for the lowest of $9.99 a month. The most you /really/ need is 50, so you'll have a lot of extra space.

After you've got all that, both sites should be able to walk you through on how to get your site up and running on the Internet! -cheer-

♥EJ(ST)

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i might have one friend that is still a virgin besides me.... i mean when we get into deep converstaions about sex and stuff i can't relate cuz i am still a virgin. every single time i watch a movie with a sex scene in it i get this weird feeling all over my body like i want sex that very minute. could someone please tell me if this is all normal or should i just give in and have sex?

Its normal. I have it to. o.O Thats what masturbation is for. To keep you away from it until you're /really/ ready. Just wait for the right guy and the age and time. o.o

♥EJ(ST)

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ok so what exactly is a clitoris? yeah yeah... i know its a girls "sweet spot" and its where ya have ur orgasm n all that, but where is it located?? and how do you know when its touched? what does it do?? does anyone know??

thanks!

Thats what the clit is! The sweet spot. /That/ is it's purpose, to bring immeasureable pleasure to a woman. The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening. It's not /where/ you have an orgasm, the female's climax takes place inside the vagina itself. Its a series of muscular contractions (thats what the vagina/cervix is, a giant muscle. For giving birth more than anything) all involuntary.

Most women know when it's been touched because its so sensitive. Like a giant pleasure nerve.

♥EJ(ST)

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ok this is kinda weird to be asking but i had to know...If your going to tease about it dont write me... Ok here it goes
every time i get fingerd i tend to cum alot adn i was just woundering if it was normal to cum so much. and if it is normal is there a way to slow it down a little bit? Please, give me any advice.

When it comes to an orgasm, there's nothin' you can do about it. Both male and female orgasms, once begun, are unstoppable. A series of muscular contractions, all involuntary.

Why complain though? I can understand.... cleanup, can be a pain ( I'm a guy, think about it. Twice as bad x.x ) but thats part of it. If you cum, particularily vaginal lubricant type of fluids, its perfectly normal. Later in life *cough* that'll make things easier for you *and* him, if you know what I mean. :3

♥EJ(ST)

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can a doctor or whatever tell if u have already had sex? i mean how can they tell? cuz your hymen can be broken lots of ways other then sex.... and if they can tell otherwise.. then how can they tell?????????????

Honestly, you need some serious tech equipment only your Ob/Gyn will have. Most regular physicist's dont check your 'area', with women anyway. Thats what the Ob/Gyn's for.

I think the only visual way to tell so far is if the hymen has been ruptured, but even that can get torn by almost any daily activity.

You shouldn't lie to the doctor. Always tell her the truth, because in almost all the states, they're not allowed to tell the padres. If you tell your doctor, then they'll just try and help. S'what they're there for :D

♥EJ(ST)

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ok my friend wants to know and i just have no idea how to answer...is it normal for a girl to get really turned on by doing legslifts? it hurts but feels good. is that an orgasm?

I... I suppose it could. I mean, its possible. Sexuality is never limited... So yes, it could be a turn on for her, strange as it seems. I'd think it would take ALOT of leg lifts though to bring herself to an orgasm. Sounds like your friend is the type of 'I like it rough.' kind of person, if it hurts but she still enjoys it :P

So, I suppose it is possible. She does that enough, and might eventually bring herself to a climax.

♥EJ(ST)

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im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.

In a long distance relationship? You honestly can't have any sure-fire way of telling if he's seeing someone else... It's expected though, because he can't see you everyday. Thats probably the one reason long-distance relationships dont always work out. One or the other gets tired of seeing their significant other only every once in awhile, while they could normally see them every day.

Now, pushing that aside, yes, I think you should go to prom with him if possible. Being LD, you want to keep him as happy with you as possible.

He said no when you offered for his old girlfriend? That is a good sign, it may prove to show that he has the utmost amount of patience for you. It's a confusing siuation where I think you just need alot of faith and time put into the love life...

Hope I helped, did my best.

♥EJ(ST)

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ok, after everytime i masterbate, i feel really, really guilty...i wounder what my girlfriend would say if she had found out, i feel like it is a complete sin, and after everytime i do that, i feel that God punishes me, but he doesnt seem to punish other people i know do it... what should i think? is it ok, or should i try to stop?? HELP!!

MAsturbation is totally normal. Healthy, even. If your girlfriend found out? She does it too. Everyone does. If you're sexually active with her and she found out, all for the better. She could find out what gets you going the most. It may 'not be your body, but God's.' But in my opinion (im not religious, by the way. ) God stuffed your soul into the bag of meat, so you can use it how you please. You won't go to frigging hell just for relieving yourself.

♥EJ(ST)

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I have sex almost every weekend, with the same person Ive been with for almost 4 months, we usually use a condom & we've used 2 different brands, lately durex & we use the ky warming lubricant, I started my period a week early Idk if that has nething 2 do w/ it but my labia itch & feel raw, soap doesnt burn but when urine touches it it does would that be from too much sex or an allergy to the condom or the lubricant an infection or what??

Chances are it could be both. Some men are so large that they can cause friction burns on the labia, condom or not. It could also be an allergic reaction to the condom material.. Definitely want to see the Ob/Gyn about this one. They'll know what to do. Good of you to use condoms, though, most teens dont think about the consequences of sex.

Shortly put, either your boyfriend is one heck of a man, you have sex too often on the weekend, or most likely of the three, you've got a reaction to latex.

♥EJ(ST)

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I'm almost 35 years old, and I've never had a sexual relation, therefore I'm a virgin.

However, I'm not sure if I might have already ruptured my hymen.

Because when I was 17, I was once exercizing (quite moderatly), and all of a sudden I felt something rupturing.
It didn't hurt AT ALL...
I just felt something going through my vagina...

I can't tell if I bled because of this, since I was in my period.
(But there was a piece of unknown matter to me on the sanitary towel...)

So, I would like to know if this might have corresponded to the rupture of the hymen, and if I might bleed if I ever have sex.
(Furthermore, I've been a victim of some serious calumnies in the past, and I would be glad if I could prove my virginity if I ever have sex with a man...)

Thank you very much for your reply.

Icey0990 realy got this one down. Go Icey ;)

Chances are that unknown matter was the hymen after being ruptured. If you ever have sex, you won't bleed, because it's already been ruptured! If you still aren't sure, you can see your Ob/Gyn about it and ask them.

The hymen is practically /the/ way for a guy to tell if a woman is a virgin is the see if during intercourse, they break the hymen. Other than that, they just have to have faith. If they don't, send em out.... Guys, I think, the only way to tell if we're virgins, is to see how uncertain we are the first time in bed, eyh? :P

♥EJ(ST)

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Im really nervous. This guy who is like obsessed with me who i dont even talk to is taking me to a dance tonight. I don't really like being around him and I have never met his family. I don't know what I should say when he comes to my house. Can anyone help me not be nervous? I also want to be hyper tonight, so I'll have a good time. Does anyone know foods or ways to get hyper? Thanks a bunch!

Oy. For getting wound up, go with Bawls. Not sure where you can pick it up, I get mine at a local gaming hub....

When he comes over, just comment how he looks, ask a goofy questioin like if he's ready to go? You'll think of something on the spot. People always do. When it comes to things you're unsure of, the body seems to have an automatic 'autopilot'.

And if he's a good guy, then why worry? If he's not going to be all stalker-like, don't worry about it. HAve fun at your prom! Thats what its there for! ^^

♥EJ(ST)

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Sometimes I feel like the guys our age are so immature. I can honestly say I'm not the prettiest girl in my school, but is that really all that counts nowadays? Some of the girls that the guys I know go out with are dimwits who can't tell the difference between 1 and 2 and still the guys fall for them because they have looks. Sometimes I feel like working for the grades just aren't worth it even though I know they are. What do you think?

Alot of us don't mature, thank you testosterone. Keep working for your grades and dont worry about a guy during highschool. You dont need some teen drama in your life, it'll only make things worse.

You'll find the guy whos right for you, or he'll find you. Its one or the other, but it'll happen ^^

♥EJ(ST)

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Hey everyone, this question is for people who are really educated in like the body & medical stuff...

Well this morning I woke up around 4 AM and i couldn't go back to sleep because my chest was hurting.. like it was right under my boob - so i went to my moms room & told her what was happening and what it felt like and stuff.. but the hole thing is it only hurt when i breathed in ---- too hard. so i'm not sure what it is or what to do.. my mom was going to take me to the doctors today but i said lets wait and see how it is tommorow.. my dad thinks that it may be like i was coughing (im kind of sick) and that my lung is brusied or something because i was coughing so hard.. or when i was dancing i pulled a muscle.. i told him that i have never had that happen before & he was like it's ok.. it takes time to go away & stuff. well it is my first time happening other than when you get that pain in your lung that like hurts when you breath and you feel like you need to put your hand in the bottom of your lung& pull up to make it go away..& in a while it does. this isnt what im talking about though... pleasee give me some advice as to what it could be..

Dont be like "OMG YOUR GOING TO DIE GO TO THE HOSPITAL" .. i just want someone that knows a little about this to answer =)

Oh yeah, and i will definitley rate♥

I had this once. It was a nasty allergic reaction to something awful in the air the doctor said, and I eventually developed bronchitis. That was a year or so ago though, and I'm since better.

You want to see the doctor about this before it gets any worse. BReathing will eventually be really, really hard for you it will hurt so much, if you don't get on medications.

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Hey wat do laxatives really do ? i know i should know this but everyone says something different?
Thanks~

Laxatives basically force whats in your intestines and stomach out through your ass. Not fun stuff, I'd bet. I thank god I've never taken one, and dont intend to.

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hello im a 13 year old girl and my boyfriend is 15 and a half well ill be 14 soon but any ways.. he wants to have kids i want to but i still think im too young if i wasnt in school then i think im for it b ut i dont know i need some advice.

Ok, one thing, he's obviously using you. Drop this fucker like a ROCK. Children? At 13?? What the fuck? Shoot him in the balls with an air gun. He doesn't deserve to have them. Giving birth isn't a breeze. You DO NOT want to have kids while you're in school period. Tell him its over. I've seen it at my school plenty of times, and the outcomes are not pretty.

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I want to wax my bikini line, but im not sure what kind to use. I tried Nad's once but it didnt work and it hurt like hell, really really bad. I tried plucking lol but that didnt work too well and it still hurt bad. I want to wax cuz shaving, cream removal, and all that other junk doesnt work for me. So im asking for some suggestions for bikini waxing its from like CVS or Wallgreens, you know general stores and such. Also, my skin is really sensitive and i dont want it to look really bad because im going to a hotel and were swimming, so want it to be close and stuff. Thanks to anyone who has any ideas!!!
-KaTe

You might want to look into prfessional help for bikini waxes. They know whats good to use and do it really, really fast so it doesnt hurt like hell. I get my eyebrows done every now and then, because shaving only encourages growth...

Look around town or surrounding areas, your sure to find someone. If you don't, look around for this 'razorless shaving' stuff my friends talk about. It actually works and supposedly does a great job...

♥EJ(ST)

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