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I came here to answer computer questions. (This used to say "...and nothing more.")


What I meant was, I don't know how much help I would be with other things... NOT that I would be upset if you asked a non computer question!


No matter the subject, Ask Away! (I'll do my best.)


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(Thanks for the Latin, Fern!)

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Hi there,

You just posted this on a public forum. No idea who it was meant for, but this may not have been the best way to get your message through.

Hope it all works out.


because its not my prom!
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Sorry, what?


confused!? Entered today at 1:53 am

The writer says she is 5. I find that hard to believe given how well written the question is.

My concern is if she is 5 that she is being molested. Is there anyway for you to back trace this question and hopefully notify the proper authorities to check this out.

Adviceman49 (link)
Please, if you find something that needs to be addressed, file an abuse report. This way I have no link to look at the question, and no idea which question you are talking about as I have been gone for a couple days.

Please file an abuse report and include a link.

Thank you.


I forgot my username how can I find it out again (link)
Hi there,

Send another question with the e-mail address you used for your accunt, and we can look it up for you.

Thanks,

DN.


What is wrong with you. l read you comment and you kept on writing threw instant of through???????? (link)
Taking a wild guess that this wasn't meant for the site administrator. :-)

If you have a problem with an answer, file an abuse report (link at left) and we will look into it.

Here is a free piece of advice, since you are here: Any time to feel the need to correct somebody else on their use of language... you might want to proof read what you write.

"...you kept on writing threw instant of through????????"

They could just as easily have said: "You keep writing INSTANT instead of instead!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111!!1!1!!11"

Please also note: Adding more question marks doesn't make your question any more "questiony," it really doesn't. :-)

Hope your day improves now that you have gotten your grammar nazi fix, and we hope to see you again when you have a question we can actually help with.

Take care,

DN.


My indicator for questions of mine that others answered went off. It shows you answered me but not the actual answer itself. Not sure why I'm not seeing any text. Sorry about that. Definitely want to see what you wrote about the radio question. (link)
Hi there,

I wouldn't normally answer something you marked deleted, but I really need to know what happened with the answer situation.

I tried it in multiple browsers/versions, etc, and I could not make it fail to show an answer no matter what I did.

Could you please explain how you solved this issue, just in case there is something that needs tweaking on this end?

Thank you,

DN.


I have another technology question for you and hope you don't mind answering it for me. You're incredibly knowledgeable and easy for me to understand hence why I come to you again.

I'm going to be interviewed on a radio show this week that is is on a small community station with a low range frequency. This means you can listen to it at home or in the car but only within the town limits it was recorded in as the antenna only reaches a small town.

The station has an Internet presence and stream though. My mother is a 24/7 nurse and unable to listen in on WI-FI as her workplace and client is private and at 92 is not equipped with Internet or Wi-FI nor is the senior citizen's building he lives in. She has been their 6 weeks as he's had a major operation and cannot get the frequency.

While I don't want to do anything illegal here or violate copyright I was wondering if there were some way I could capture the Internet stream on a cassette or CD-RW from that for her this weekend? Is there free and reliable software and in do you have easy instructions for how to do so?

Alternatively, I can get the frequency on my IPOD dock from Sony but for some reason my tape/deck stereo can't bring it in while the dock/clock radio can. Are their cords or a device that I could use? If not I will wait and see if I can get a CD from them sometime soon for her to enjoy. (link)
Hi there,

Thanks for the kind words, and no I don't mind the question.

Man did you ask the right person! ;-) I have been on radio interviews quite a number of times, and, if you will allow me, I would like to simplify this whole process for you:

Recording a streaming broadcast from home/office while you are being interviewed live is... frankly, CURSED!

You simply would not believe the number of tools, times and ways I had tried this when I was a little younger, and had yet to figure out the real answers for this. Time after time, application after another fails in one way or another.

So, one time I brought my digital recorder with me and asked if they would mind me getting the whole thing from the studio side. They didn't mind at all, and this was a big corporate monster station with a legal team of their own, so I cannot believe that a small town station would object.

The other thing I figured out pretty early on in my experimenting with the recording disasters: Don't invite headaches where there aren't any!

Simply tell them what you told me: "My mom would like to hear this, but she is working and not able to listen. Would you mind making me a copy on cd-r? I would be happy to pay for it."

I have never had anyone accept money in a situation like that.

I had a look around to see what is going on with the state of internet stream recorders these days, and I see nothing much has changed:

There are free programs, that are pretty easy to use, but they are bundled with horrific spyware.

There are free programs that will do the job just fine, if you have the time to learn them. (Which, at this point, with a couple days remaining, you probably don't.)

There are paid programs that work just fine, but are spendy for something you may only use once.

Mostly, there are a LOT of "free" programs listed that either don't work at all, or barely function, but either way their main reason for being is to install spyware/adware on your system.

As for your home stereo not picking this up, you may not have an adequate antenna connected to it. A simple fm dipole antenna would probably get the job done, and they can be had for very little money, or, if you are handy and have the wire laying around, can be made in a few minutes.

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Also, just to cover the bases: If your ipod dock has an audio out jack, you may be able to cable your dock, to your cassette deck's line in jacks with one of these:

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... which I would be surprised if you don't have laying around from something else already. If not, these too can be had cheap and should be in every cable arsenal. :-)

Having pointed you towards those items, I still suggest that you ask for a recording from them directly and/or bring your own digital recorder when you come to the studio.

If you feel like sharing, send me a copy on skype. I like to hear what the site's long time users are up to. :-)

Best of luck on your radio interview!

DN.

P.S. The nerves are normal, even if this isn't your first time. Helpful hint: Look directly into the eyes of whomever you are talking to, and focus there, completely wiping the mics and all from your mind. It helps.

P.P.S. Sorry if there is anything odd written here, you caught me just heading out the door and I didn't have time to proof-read this.


Heading: got all kind of pain killers for saleemail me

Body of question: got all kind of pain killers for sale email me at bigcc91@yahoo.com... got phones for sale.. hit me up got alot of shit too sale.. email me bigcc91@yahoo.com im n da new jersey area

I attempted to report this as an abuse but the page would not come up. I don't think this is something you want on your site so I chose this method to report it to you.

Adviceman49 (link)
Hi there,

Don't know why you had trouble with the abuse report system... 4 other people reported this through there before you inboxed me. Nice to know you are all looking out for everyone else. :-)

Thanks for the report!

DN.


I am 20 years old and my family has been struggling since I was around 17-18. It's been such a struggle I HAD to drop out of school and pursue a job. I am 20 now, my life is STILL on hold. I am currently unemployed. no GED, highschool diploma. I have nothing. I can't find a job. My mother is bed ridden, we cant get her on disability because she would of had to work 5 years straight out of the past 10 years. Her name wasn't on the payroll when she worked at a funeral home, it was in her ex husbands name, they worked together. So it looks like she's been unemployed the past 10 years. I'm irritated by this, she's had multiple cancers, she has HIGH, HIGH at risk blood pressure, thyroid problems from the thyroid cancer , a car accident 2 years ago is what really messed her up, she can barely stand let alone sit up without feeling immense pain. She is physically un able to work and the government won't help us. I'm confused on what to do. we are SO close to being evicted all we have is 100 bucks left in the bank, I don't understand there's people with MORE, than we have who are on assistance, there are people with LESS problems who are on assistance. We need help. I don't know what to do. I really don't want to see my mother most of all go homeless. If we do she WILL die. she will. She's only 38. How do I cope with this? How do I live on the street? How do I get us back up on our feet? (link)
Hello there,

I am sorry to hear about all you two are going through. Dealing with SSI is a terrible experience for people that actually need it. I have a neighbor who is physically VERY badly off, and has had a hard time getting help, where there is someone else in town who has a "bad back" and got right one, or so it seems.

What I have learned, is that if you don't have a lawyer, you need one. There is no dealing with SSI without a lawyer... to do so, is to invite stress into your life.

The other thing I noticed was: Anybody who really needs it will be denied the first time around, it seems to me, so don't give up hope.

I don't know where you live, so I can't do much in the way of research on your situation to help you find people who might be close to you that could help, so I am going to ask you to do me a favor: Send me some more information on your location in an e-mail titled: "Disability help" and I will do what I can to help you find local help.

In the mean time, open your phone book and head to the attorney pages. Thumb through and find a few that deal with SSI/disability claims... then just pick up the phone and tell them what you wrote here. These people make a career out of getting people on disability... some make that living getting people with no disability... paid for life. You, on the other hand, have a situation that has a mountain of physical proof and documentation from doctors that should make this a cake walk for any of them.

Don't give up hope!

Russell...

My e-mail address is: DangerNerd@gmail.com if you would like some help finding other sources of help near you.


Hi, Thank you ever so much for the time, effort, thoughts & advice in your reply to the above question. I have already taken the time to talk to my partner. Strangely all the things I was worried about saying & asking him I had previously gone over. He said that I did expand a little on one part. I did feel better & he seemed to understand my need to get it off my chest again.
Unfortunately, as much as I tried to divulge everything I still found myself unable to say (admit to) one part - the main part:-( I woke up this morning with a knot in my throat. My body was uncomfortable & I started feeling sick again. As if I have to just blurt it out or vomit it out no matter the possible consequences. Sorry for the graphics.
Would it seem strange to you, if I was to expand more on the subject or blurt it out, like I suddenly remembered even after the chat he & I had last night? Take care (link)
Hi there,

In a word, no, I would not feel weird if you just blurted it out. What you just wrote here, and told to me is exactly what you should probably say to him:

This is so painful that even when I TRY to spit it out I wasn't able to get it all out. It is like I am choking on this whole thing, and I just need to vomit it out all at once.

Then just do it. I know this is hard, but you and I both know at this point it is the only way.

Whatever you do, tell him that you are having a really hard time with this, and commit to telling him. Commit by saying something like: "I have one thing I need to tell you, that I just haven't been able to... until now."

When you do this, you will find yourself having to go through with it. Once you commit, it makes things easier.

I once had a relationship where we exchanged typical background info, such as how many people we had been intimate with. She told me she was ashamed, and I told her, and meant it, that it wasn't relevant to me, so long as she was honest about it. I told her I could tale anything as long as she was honest about it.

She told me I would be guy number 4. I decided I could live with that, and she promised me that the number would never change.

Not even a week later, she cries and tells me it is actually 7 guys. Says she was just so ashamed that she couldn't bring herself to tell me. I told her I understood, and while I was disappointed, as long as she was sure she was telling the truth at this point, we would work past the lie.

Another week goes by... then it is 11 guys she has had sex with... a couple more days and it is 17 or 18 (she can't remember for sure... one night stands, meeting guys from craigslist and doing them in her truck, never to see them again kinda thing... course I didn't find that out until later, either.)

So, while I am no longer interested, I encouraged her to write it all down, and journal it just for her own sanity. I no longer remember the total she came up with, but guys that she shared the sexual side of herself with came out to 32 or 37, something like that. And who knows if there really shouldn't be a 1 placed in front of those numbers?

You see, honesty would have gone a long way in this situation. Sometimes people get in a bad way, go down a bad road and eventually decide that trying to collect every STD yet discovered... doesn't have a future. Sure, there is shame involved in having had indiscriminate sex for absolutely no reason other than a person's own insecurities, and well there should be, but then lying about that which has been overcome... ALSO out of insecurity, well that doesn't improve matters much. :-(


When people tell the truth, you can get past a LOT, but when people let things out a touch here, and a touch there... you never know when the next bomb will drop. You can never be sure that they are telling you the whole truth, and eventually the relationship ends from the stress of never feeling secure.

So, while I took a while to make the point, the one thing that I hope you will get from this is that honesty with him now means you have a potential future... and dishonesty with him now, when he has already told you he is open and receptive and ready to hear whatever you have to say, will be the end of this relationship.

You know, I am really proud of you. I know this is hard, and we have all done and said things we wish we hadn't, but you are going to make this right... I can tell. :-)

Once you have it out there, you simply won't believe the relief.

Once you start, tell him every last thing. Don't hold back. You only get so many: "That is all there is, there is no more to tell, no more secrets... honest!" statements before a person is justified in no longer believing you.

You are probably approaching that number here, after not telling him the whole story that has been killing you trying to get out. Don't make it any harder for him to trust you, if you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who isn't always looking at you going: "I wonder when I find out what else she is hiding?"

Now is the time.

Good luck!

DN.

P.S. If you feel up to it, I would really appreciate it if you would update me after you have cleared this all up and let me know how you feel. :-)

P.P.S. If you are curious where your former secret ranks in the spectrum of things that have been dropped on guys who were unaware... just ask. You wouldn't even believe some of the things that have been revealed to me one way or another after being hidden for a long time. Just the things that have happened to me personally, would make your head spin... but being on this site for several years has made me realize that even the things I thought were the worst ever, aren't. After this is over, which is in the next 24 hours, right? (Subtle encouragement mode...)

... it won't seem like as big a deal as it is to you now. Some of this things I can laugh about now, are things I thought would be the end of me... but as soon as the truth came out, the load lifted, and instead of this unknown thing causing a rift that seems world ending... it suddenly becomes almost trivial.

It is hard to explain, but what seems like that one giant thing that just can't be forgiven or understood... loses its bite. It is kind of like seeing the shadow of a fierce tiger coming around the corner, then freezing to the spot from sheer terror... only to have a kitten walk around the corner and you can see that it was just a backlit baby kitten casting a fearsome shadow.

So it is with the secrets everyone dreads.


Hi,
I have a past situation that still bugs me from time to time & I would appreciate a non judgemental outsiders advice who can step into both shoes please.
There is a long story to this situation, over about 4 years long but the same question remains...Do I tell my partner the whole truth about the situation or continue with him knowing parts or most of the truth, leave it in the past, let it go & move on?
I have been with my partner for 10 years (with a few breaks in between). He was around when this went on & does know a lot about it yet there are parts that I blocked out, feared revealing, were too painful, regretted, was a different person at the time & or traumatised by. Needless to say, certain parts have come back or are clearer now.
I am not fully sure why it comes back to bug me except that it is a part of my past I am ashamed of, the whole truth of it has not been disclosed to anyone, fear of always being defined as the black sheep in the family, no one understands, will I now lose my partner, if I do tell will it really make me feel better & improve our relationship?
I realise this is a grey area & that is why I get so caught up in the whole thing. Do I tell or don't I? I have bit my lip a few times plus started to say more about it then stopped, changed the subject or brushed it off but I am also sick of swallowing it back down, feeling caught in the web, letting it affect my soul & have it return.
We try to tell each other everything. We are normally great communicators. He has been my rock & is a wonderful man. This is something that stops me feel honestly worthy of his love & I believe creates distance between us (from my part) that I do not want us to have. We are looking at getting engaged/married & starting a family soon.
Is it something I must get over & leave alone or it is to be fully shared in hope it does bring us closer after the possible tears & hurt?
Thanks in advance!
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From personal experience with this, I can tell you that at least in the situations I have been involved in, the distance created between you by this will eventually drive you apart.

From reading your question, it appears that in your heart you know things are headed for disaster if you leave them as they are.

While the final decision is yours, of course, please consider the consequences of continuing as you have been. There is a funny thing about situations like this: somehow, some way... the truth always comes out! You mention marriage and children, and I have just one question for you: Do you think it would be better to get this off your chest now, begin healing and not have the guilt and shame you are obviously experiencing... or do you think it would be better for him to find out after 10 years of marriage, 2 kids, etc... and know that no matter WHAT you do then to try and fix things, you will never, EVER be trusted again?

Which of these has the highest potential for ruining your relationship?

If this is eating you alive, then get it handled. The fear of something like this is almost always worse than the worst possible response from the other person. You wouldn't even believe the things I have been lied to about... only to have the truth come out in the 10th year of marriage. Matter of fact, if I told you what it was, you would probably feel better about revealing what you are concerned about now. Yes, it was that bad.

So, what now? Well, it sounds like he is the person for you, so it should be possible for you to just get it out there and tell him... but, if you just can't do it on your own, you can seek counseling so you can have someone else there when you reveal this.

I will warn you, that if you feel the counseling is the way to go, there is a high likelihood that he will wonder why you were afraid to just tell him. What, were you afraid for your life, so you needed someone there to protect you from him? Do you just not care that you are telling this to a stranger rather than sharing it with him privately? See where this could go?

I know that isn't your intent, but you have to understand things from his perspective as well, before you make that decision if you want the best results. Imagine what it would be like if he wanted to tell YOU something, and he hauled you in front of a complete stranger to tell you something life altering? Would you be humiliated? Same for him.

Anyway, all that aside. You know in your heart that this can't continue. It will either drive you apart without him ever knowing why, as it is doing now, or he will find out someday through someone else, and it will be the complete and total irreparable end of his trust for you.

Whereas telling him, once you have actually done it, even if it is hard for a while, will free you of this burden.

Worst case scenario, and from what you have said here, I HIGHLY doubt this:

You tell him, he can't take it and ends things.

The alternative? Waste 10 years of your life in a relationship that you know right this very minute is doomed if you keep on this way, and create a couple children who will be scarred for life by the breakup of their parents when dad finds out your secret.

Even if he decided he needed to clear his head for a bit, you two have been getting back together for YEARS despite the strain and distance created by this situation that is tearing you up inside for the whole time.

You may well be surprised how well he takes it. I have had it go both ways. Some secrets were brought out in the open willingly, and though she thought it would be the end of it all, it wasn't. In fact, I was horrified that she thought some of it was a big deal at all, and had felt the need to torture herself for years rather than let it out.

It was the ones that I found out on my own, all those years later that were the problem. Even then, I would have been willing to work through things... but she let her shame drive her to do something yet more life altering instead. I will leave that part there, but I just wanted to reassure you, that love is a mighty, MIGHTY thing, and what you may feel is insurmountable, isn't. If you two are truly in love, you can overcome anything... anything except betrayal and secret keeping. Everything else, love can overcome.

Trust me. :-)

I wish you all the best, and if there is anything we can do to help you, please don't hesitate to ask.


Hello, I don't know how to start this out, but here goes, I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him? It's an old boy friend. of mine.

He's a stalker, I'm sure that won't make any difference. We broke up 3 months ago, on my 50th birthday.He got me to his house, I trusted him, I thought we were going to just be friends, and put the past behind us,.

When he pushed me in his bedroom and locked the door, I kept saying please please please don't do this to me. You can't talk to me the way you are, and you can't keep my aganist my will. He said I'm going to have sex with you all night long and there is nothing you can do about it.
He tied me up and heald me againist my will. He hid my keys, phone, clothes, and purse.

After he had his fill I said you planned all this out, and he said yes.

What I would like to know, what can be done now, to him?
Can I still be examed close to 50 hours later?
Will I ever feel normal again? (link)
Hello there,

I am terribly sorry this has happened. You should contact the police right away. Even if you have washed, there may still be evidence of bruising or other physical damage.

You should not wait any longer. Please, I am asking you, not only for yourself, but for all the other women this man will eventually rape if you let him get away with this.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are the victim here, and everyone wants to help you survive this and heal.

Please do it now. Pick up the phone and call the police, walk into the hospital and tell the nurse at the desk, whatever way is best for you, but please do it now.

You deserve to feel whole again. He deserves to pay for this terrible crime, of course, but YOU are the important person here.

Please take care of you, and let others take care of you.

There are a great many people on this site who have been where you are, and survived.

If there is anything any of us can ever do for you, please don't hesitate to ask.



How do I get rid of Coupon Bar Malware on a Windows 7 platform? (link)
Hi there,

Man... this thing is the gift that keeps on giving, isn't it?

The first thing to do, is to follow the instructions here:

"Uninstall the Coupon Printer & the CouponBar"

http://www.couponsinc.com/corp/source/u_uninstall.asp

... for your EXACT version of this goofy thing.

Then, clean up the remains with three programs you should probably have on your computer anyway:

SuperAntiSpyware:

http://www.superantispyware.com/

MalwareBytes:

http://www.malwarebytes.org/

Spybot Search and Destroy:

http://www.safer-networking.org/dl/

I would run these, in the order listed.

If you have any further residuals from this couponbar install, please let me know and I can walk you through the steps to removing the stragglers by hand.

Happy de-couponing!


I have known this friend for 2 years, and we were roommates for this year at college. I had bought an extremely expensive black skirt and brought it to college but I didn't wear it after September because it was too cold, so it laid in my drawers for months. The other day I saw my roommate wearing a black skirt that looked really similar to mine, and I asked if it was mine and she said no, it was hers and she had bought it at a major retailer discount store. I searched my dorm room and my skirt was missing, that following weekend I went home and searched my house and found no skirt. When she was in the bathroom I quickly looked at the tag and its the exact size and brand of my skirt that is missing.. I feel bad confronting her but she really doesn't seem the type to steal someone's clothes, I think it might just be a misunderstanding but I'm not sure how to confront her/convince her that the skirt is actually mine. (link)
Hi,

You have already asked this here:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=610648

Please check back there for answers after people have had a chance to look at your question.

Thanks,

DN.


i have great feeling when i finger myself and it looks like i have a orgasim but in have nothing coming out like what comes out of a male when he has an orgasim (link)
You already asked this here:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=610466

Please check for answers on the original post in a while.

Thanks,

DN.


I just got the e-mail that my account was upgraded... I'm truly touched that someone did this for me, because I certainly did not... Was it you? (If it was, thank you...)

I also can't remember if I thanked you a couple years ago, when you refused to delete my column without a good reason... so thank you. For everything that you've helped me through and given me the confidence to do. :)

Siren (link)
Hello there!

I am glad to have been of service to you as time has gone by, and you are certainly welcome. :-)

For more of the story behind why all this happened, please read my post in the Supporter forum:

http://www.advicenators.com/discussion.php?l=3

... and feel free to join in the discussion there.

I had forgotten about not letting you off the hook so easily about that account issue. I am glad, that you are glad I handled things that way. :-)

DN.


DangerNerd,

I believe you may know who paid for my column upgrade. If you do and you can send then a note of thanks I would appreciate it. It is always nice to know when someone appreciates your help. When someone thanks me I like to say thank you in return. Since I do not know who to thank if you do I would appreciate you sending them a short note telling them I appreciate their kindness.
Thank you
Adviceman49
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Hello Adviceman49,

You are welcome. Please head into the supporter forum and read the current thread.

Thanks,

DN.


My account: sarahwbabe was deleted because I am younger than 13 but I'm 14 so I really don't understand my cousin did go on my account because I let her to ask two questions and she's 9 but now my account is deleted and I find that really unfair (link)
Hi there,

When you create an account here, or anywhere else for that matter, you are responsible for everything that happens on that account.

I am sorry that you feel following the rules is unfair, but there is hope: If you can agree not to let your underage cousin use your account, you can create a new account.

Even if you had both been 14, sharing your account is one of the reasons that accounts here are deleted.

Do NOT share your account.

Hopefully, you can make a new account and all will be well.

Sorry you had to learn this lesson the hard way.

DN.


They always go to the Church on Sunday
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Hi there,

This is a statement, not a question. If you have a question, please re-ask it and elaborate more about your problem.

Thanks.




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