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What I meant was, I don't know how much help I would be with other things... NOT that I would be upset if you asked a non computer question!
No matter the subject, Ask Away! (I'll do my best.)
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I am 20 years old and my family has been struggling since I was around 17-18. It's been such a struggle I HAD to drop out of school and pursue a job. I am 20 now, my life is STILL on hold. I am currently unemployed. no GED, highschool diploma. I have nothing. I can't find a job. My mother is bed ridden, we cant get her on disability because she would of had to work 5 years straight out of the past 10 years. Her name wasn't on the payroll when she worked at a funeral home, it was in her ex husbands name, they worked together. So it looks like she's been unemployed the past 10 years. I'm irritated by this, she's had multiple cancers, she has HIGH, HIGH at risk blood pressure, thyroid problems from the thyroid cancer , a car accident 2 years ago is what really messed her up, she can barely stand let alone sit up without feeling immense pain. She is physically un able to work and the government won't help us. I'm confused on what to do. we are SO close to being evicted all we have is 100 bucks left in the bank, I don't understand there's people with MORE, than we have who are on assistance, there are people with LESS problems who are on assistance. We need help. I don't know what to do. I really don't want to see my mother most of all go homeless. If we do she WILL die. she will. She's only 38. How do I cope with this? How do I live on the street? How do I get us back up on our feet? (link)
I am sorry to hear about all you two are going through. Dealing with SSI is a terrible experience for people that actually need it. I have a neighbor who is physically VERY badly off, and has had a hard time getting help, where there is someone else in town who has a "bad back" and got right one, or so it seems.
What I have learned, is that if you don't have a lawyer, you need one. There is no dealing with SSI without a lawyer... to do so, is to invite stress into your life.
The other thing I noticed was: Anybody who really needs it will be denied the first time around, it seems to me, so don't give up hope.
I don't know where you live, so I can't do much in the way of research on your situation to help you find people who might be close to you that could help, so I am going to ask you to do me a favor: Send me some more information on your location in an e-mail titled: "Disability help" and I will do what I can to help you find local help.
In the mean time, open your phone book and head to the attorney pages. Thumb through and find a few that deal with SSI/disability claims... then just pick up the phone and tell them what you wrote here. These people make a career out of getting people on disability... some make that living getting people with no disability... paid for life. You, on the other hand, have a situation that has a mountain of physical proof and documentation from doctors that should make this a cake walk for any of them.
Don't give up hope!
My e-mail address is: DangerNerd@gmail.com if you would like some help finding other sources of help near you.
Hi, Thank you ever so much for the time, effort, thoughts & advice in your reply to the above question. I have already taken the time to talk to my partner. Strangely all the things I was worried about saying & asking him I had previously gone over. He said that I did expand a little on one part. I did feel better & he seemed to understand my need to get it off my chest again.|
Unfortunately, as much as I tried to divulge everything I still found myself unable to say (admit to) one part - the main part:-( I woke up this morning with a knot in my throat. My body was uncomfortable & I started feeling sick again. As if I have to just blurt it out or vomit it out no matter the possible consequences. Sorry for the graphics.
Would it seem strange to you, if I was to expand more on the subject or blurt it out, like I suddenly remembered even after the chat he & I had last night? Take care (link)
In a word, no, I would not feel weird if you just blurted it out. What you just wrote here, and told to me is exactly what you should probably say to him:
This is so painful that even when I TRY to spit it out I wasn't able to get it all out. It is like I am choking on this whole thing, and I just need to vomit it out all at once.
Then just do it. I know this is hard, but you and I both know at this point it is the only way.
Whatever you do, tell him that you are having a really hard time with this, and commit to telling him. Commit by saying something like: "I have one thing I need to tell you, that I just haven't been able to... until now."
When you do this, you will find yourself having to go through with it. Once you commit, it makes things easier.
I once had a relationship where we exchanged typical background info, such as how many people we had been intimate with. She told me she was ashamed, and I told her, and meant it, that it wasn't relevant to me, so long as she was honest about it. I told her I could tale anything as long as she was honest about it.
She told me I would be guy number 4. I decided I could live with that, and she promised me that the number would never change.
Not even a week later, she cries and tells me it is actually 7 guys. Says she was just so ashamed that she couldn't bring herself to tell me. I told her I understood, and while I was disappointed, as long as she was sure she was telling the truth at this point, we would work past the lie.
Another week goes by... then it is 11 guys she has had sex with... a couple more days and it is 17 or 18 (she can't remember for sure... one night stands, meeting guys from craigslist and doing them in her truck, never to see them again kinda thing... course I didn't find that out until later, either.)
So, while I am no longer interested, I encouraged her to write it all down, and journal it just for her own sanity. I no longer remember the total she came up with, but guys that she shared the sexual side of herself with came out to 32 or 37, something like that. And who knows if there really shouldn't be a 1 placed in front of those numbers?
You see, honesty would have gone a long way in this situation. Sometimes people get in a bad way, go down a bad road and eventually decide that trying to collect every STD yet discovered... doesn't have a future. Sure, there is shame involved in having had indiscriminate sex for absolutely no reason other than a person's own insecurities, and well there should be, but then lying about that which has been overcome... ALSO out of insecurity, well that doesn't improve matters much. :-(
When people tell the truth, you can get past a LOT, but when people let things out a touch here, and a touch there... you never know when the next bomb will drop. You can never be sure that they are telling you the whole truth, and eventually the relationship ends from the stress of never feeling secure.
So, while I took a while to make the point, the one thing that I hope you will get from this is that honesty with him now means you have a potential future... and dishonesty with him now, when he has already told you he is open and receptive and ready to hear whatever you have to say, will be the end of this relationship.
You know, I am really proud of you. I know this is hard, and we have all done and said things we wish we hadn't, but you are going to make this right... I can tell. :-)
Once you have it out there, you simply won't believe the relief.
Once you start, tell him every last thing. Don't hold back. You only get so many: "That is all there is, there is no more to tell, no more secrets... honest!" statements before a person is justified in no longer believing you.
You are probably approaching that number here, after not telling him the whole story that has been killing you trying to get out. Don't make it any harder for him to trust you, if you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who isn't always looking at you going: "I wonder when I find out what else she is hiding?"
Now is the time.
P.S. If you feel up to it, I would really appreciate it if you would update me after you have cleared this all up and let me know how you feel. :-)
P.P.S. If you are curious where your former secret ranks in the spectrum of things that have been dropped on guys who were unaware... just ask. You wouldn't even believe some of the things that have been revealed to me one way or another after being hidden for a long time. Just the things that have happened to me personally, would make your head spin... but being on this site for several years has made me realize that even the things I thought were the worst ever, aren't. After this is over, which is in the next 24 hours, right? (Subtle encouragement mode...)
... it won't seem like as big a deal as it is to you now. Some of this things I can laugh about now, are things I thought would be the end of me... but as soon as the truth came out, the load lifted, and instead of this unknown thing causing a rift that seems world ending... it suddenly becomes almost trivial.
It is hard to explain, but what seems like that one giant thing that just can't be forgiven or understood... loses its bite. It is kind of like seeing the shadow of a fierce tiger coming around the corner, then freezing to the spot from sheer terror... only to have a kitten walk around the corner and you can see that it was just a backlit baby kitten casting a fearsome shadow.
So it is with the secrets everyone dreads.
I have a past situation that still bugs me from time to time & I would appreciate a non judgemental outsiders advice who can step into both shoes please.
There is a long story to this situation, over about 4 years long but the same question remains...Do I tell my partner the whole truth about the situation or continue with him knowing parts or most of the truth, leave it in the past, let it go & move on?
I have been with my partner for 10 years (with a few breaks in between). He was around when this went on & does know a lot about it yet there are parts that I blocked out, feared revealing, were too painful, regretted, was a different person at the time & or traumatised by. Needless to say, certain parts have come back or are clearer now.
I am not fully sure why it comes back to bug me except that it is a part of my past I am ashamed of, the whole truth of it has not been disclosed to anyone, fear of always being defined as the black sheep in the family, no one understands, will I now lose my partner, if I do tell will it really make me feel better & improve our relationship?
I realise this is a grey area & that is why I get so caught up in the whole thing. Do I tell or don't I? I have bit my lip a few times plus started to say more about it then stopped, changed the subject or brushed it off but I am also sick of swallowing it back down, feeling caught in the web, letting it affect my soul & have it return.
We try to tell each other everything. We are normally great communicators. He has been my rock & is a wonderful man. This is something that stops me feel honestly worthy of his love & I believe creates distance between us (from my part) that I do not want us to have. We are looking at getting engaged/married & starting a family soon.
Is it something I must get over & leave alone or it is to be fully shared in hope it does bring us closer after the possible tears & hurt?
Thanks in advance!
From personal experience with this, I can tell you that at least in the situations I have been involved in, the distance created between you by this will eventually drive you apart.
From reading your question, it appears that in your heart you know things are headed for disaster if you leave them as they are.
While the final decision is yours, of course, please consider the consequences of continuing as you have been. There is a funny thing about situations like this: somehow, some way... the truth always comes out! You mention marriage and children, and I have just one question for you: Do you think it would be better to get this off your chest now, begin healing and not have the guilt and shame you are obviously experiencing... or do you think it would be better for him to find out after 10 years of marriage, 2 kids, etc... and know that no matter WHAT you do then to try and fix things, you will never, EVER be trusted again?
Which of these has the highest potential for ruining your relationship?
If this is eating you alive, then get it handled. The fear of something like this is almost always worse than the worst possible response from the other person. You wouldn't even believe the things I have been lied to about... only to have the truth come out in the 10th year of marriage. Matter of fact, if I told you what it was, you would probably feel better about revealing what you are concerned about now. Yes, it was that bad.
So, what now? Well, it sounds like he is the person for you, so it should be possible for you to just get it out there and tell him... but, if you just can't do it on your own, you can seek counseling so you can have someone else there when you reveal this.
I will warn you, that if you feel the counseling is the way to go, there is a high likelihood that he will wonder why you were afraid to just tell him. What, were you afraid for your life, so you needed someone there to protect you from him? Do you just not care that you are telling this to a stranger rather than sharing it with him privately? See where this could go?
I know that isn't your intent, but you have to understand things from his perspective as well, before you make that decision if you want the best results. Imagine what it would be like if he wanted to tell YOU something, and he hauled you in front of a complete stranger to tell you something life altering? Would you be humiliated? Same for him.
Anyway, all that aside. You know in your heart that this can't continue. It will either drive you apart without him ever knowing why, as it is doing now, or he will find out someday through someone else, and it will be the complete and total irreparable end of his trust for you.
Whereas telling him, once you have actually done it, even if it is hard for a while, will free you of this burden.
Worst case scenario, and from what you have said here, I HIGHLY doubt this:
You tell him, he can't take it and ends things.
The alternative? Waste 10 years of your life in a relationship that you know right this very minute is doomed if you keep on this way, and create a couple children who will be scarred for life by the breakup of their parents when dad finds out your secret.
Even if he decided he needed to clear his head for a bit, you two have been getting back together for YEARS despite the strain and distance created by this situation that is tearing you up inside for the whole time.
You may well be surprised how well he takes it. I have had it go both ways. Some secrets were brought out in the open willingly, and though she thought it would be the end of it all, it wasn't. In fact, I was horrified that she thought some of it was a big deal at all, and had felt the need to torture herself for years rather than let it out.
It was the ones that I found out on my own, all those years later that were the problem. Even then, I would have been willing to work through things... but she let her shame drive her to do something yet more life altering instead. I will leave that part there, but I just wanted to reassure you, that love is a mighty, MIGHTY thing, and what you may feel is insurmountable, isn't. If you two are truly in love, you can overcome anything... anything except betrayal and secret keeping. Everything else, love can overcome.
Trust me. :-)
I wish you all the best, and if there is anything we can do to help you, please don't hesitate to ask.
Hello, I don't know how to start this out, but here goes, I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him? It's an old boy friend. of mine.|
He's a stalker, I'm sure that won't make any difference. We broke up 3 months ago, on my 50th birthday.He got me to his house, I trusted him, I thought we were going to just be friends, and put the past behind us,.
When he pushed me in his bedroom and locked the door, I kept saying please please please don't do this to me. You can't talk to me the way you are, and you can't keep my aganist my will. He said I'm going to have sex with you all night long and there is nothing you can do about it.
He tied me up and heald me againist my will. He hid my keys, phone, clothes, and purse.
After he had his fill I said you planned all this out, and he said yes.
What I would like to know, what can be done now, to him?
Can I still be examed close to 50 hours later?
Will I ever feel normal again? (link)
I am terribly sorry this has happened. You should contact the police right away. Even if you have washed, there may still be evidence of bruising or other physical damage.
You should not wait any longer. Please, I am asking you, not only for yourself, but for all the other women this man will eventually rape if you let him get away with this.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are the victim here, and everyone wants to help you survive this and heal.
Please do it now. Pick up the phone and call the police, walk into the hospital and tell the nurse at the desk, whatever way is best for you, but please do it now.
You deserve to feel whole again. He deserves to pay for this terrible crime, of course, but YOU are the important person here.
Please take care of you, and let others take care of you.
There are a great many people on this site who have been where you are, and survived.
If there is anything any of us can ever do for you, please don't hesitate to ask.
How do I get rid of Coupon Bar Malware on a Windows 7 platform? (link)
Man... this thing is the gift that keeps on giving, isn't it?
The first thing to do, is to follow the instructions here:
"Uninstall the Coupon Printer & the CouponBar"
... for your EXACT version of this goofy thing.
Then, clean up the remains with three programs you should probably have on your computer anyway:
Spybot Search and Destroy:
I would run these, in the order listed.
If you have any further residuals from this couponbar install, please let me know and I can walk you through the steps to removing the stragglers by hand.
I have known this friend for 2 years, and we were roommates for this year at college. I had bought an extremely expensive black skirt and brought it to college but I didn't wear it after September because it was too cold, so it laid in my drawers for months. The other day I saw my roommate wearing a black skirt that looked really similar to mine, and I asked if it was mine and she said no, it was hers and she had bought it at a major retailer discount store. I searched my dorm room and my skirt was missing, that following weekend I went home and searched my house and found no skirt. When she was in the bathroom I quickly looked at the tag and its the exact size and brand of my skirt that is missing.. I feel bad confronting her but she really doesn't seem the type to steal someone's clothes, I think it might just be a misunderstanding but I'm not sure how to confront her/convince her that the skirt is actually mine. (link)
You have already asked this here:
Please check back there for answers after people have had a chance to look at your question.
i have great feeling when i finger myself and it looks like i have a orgasim but in have nothing coming out like what comes out of a male when he has an orgasim (link)
You already asked this here:
Please check for answers on the original post in a while.
I just got the e-mail that my account was upgraded... I'm truly touched that someone did this for me, because I certainly did not... Was it you? (If it was, thank you...)|
I also can't remember if I thanked you a couple years ago, when you refused to delete my column without a good reason... so thank you. For everything that you've helped me through and given me the confidence to do. :)
I am glad to have been of service to you as time has gone by, and you are certainly welcome. :-)
For more of the story behind why all this happened, please read my post in the Supporter forum:
... and feel free to join in the discussion there.
I had forgotten about not letting you off the hook so easily about that account issue. I am glad, that you are glad I handled things that way. :-)
I believe you may know who paid for my column upgrade. If you do and you can send then a note of thanks I would appreciate it. It is always nice to know when someone appreciates your help. When someone thanks me I like to say thank you in return. Since I do not know who to thank if you do I would appreciate you sending them a short note telling them I appreciate their kindness.
You are welcome. Please head into the supporter forum and read the current thread.
My account: sarahwbabe was deleted because I am younger than 13 but I'm 14 so I really don't understand my cousin did go on my account because I let her to ask two questions and she's 9 but now my account is deleted and I find that really unfair (link)
When you create an account here, or anywhere else for that matter, you are responsible for everything that happens on that account.
I am sorry that you feel following the rules is unfair, but there is hope: If you can agree not to let your underage cousin use your account, you can create a new account.
Even if you had both been 14, sharing your account is one of the reasons that accounts here are deleted.
Do NOT share your account.
Hopefully, you can make a new account and all will be well.
Sorry you had to learn this lesson the hard way.
They always go to the Church on Sunday|
This is a statement, not a question. If you have a question, please re-ask it and elaborate more about your problem.
At school theres this girl and she always talkes to him and she dated him too before me and she always walks with him I don't wanna tell him that I don't like it or her because they will say there just best friends but this girl is a hoe she dates everyone what should I do (link)
This was already asked here:
um i have been hoping to see a video called vote Barry Manilow or Neil Sedaka what do you think but it cannot be found so could you please upload for me thank you and be sure to answer this question (link)
I can't find any reference to this video even existing.
Where did you hear about it? Could you get the actual name of the video?
Hi thank you for noticing. My old profile name was: LuvStruckTeen|
it was with an old email address i already tried getting back into it.
You are welcome.
Everything should be working on your original account now.
Please let me know if you have any trouble.
I'm getting my boyfriend a tie for his 15th birthday (He likes ties, goes to church and stuff) and I bought 3 and can't decide (Buying ties are so overwhelming there are literally like 1000 o_o)|
I'm pretty sure the 3rd tie is too feminine (and ugly IMO) for him, but my mom picked it out and I sent these to his sister and she said they were all fine, and for me to pick the one I'd want to see him wear but I rather get him one that he actually likes -_-
So I'm pretty much debating between the first 2. He knows my favorite color is pink so he might like the first one but I don't know if that one's also too feminine, my 51 Yr old dad thinks it's actually kind of pretty but I don't know. :/
I'm sure he wouldn't mind the pink because he has a pinker tie but still I can't decide
He's tiny too so I'm not sure how a thick tie would be on him.
He's not a picky boy and he'd know it's the thought that counts and I'm giving a gift receipt but I still want him to like it a little ;__;
I honestly have no idea T_T
Taste is really subjective. If HIS favorite color is blue, then the middle one will be his favorite. The paisley one may be ugly to you, but some people really like the design, so you just never know.
The first or second ones would be the safer bets. The only problem I have with the blue one is that it reminds me of a college club uniform tie.
You might consider getting the first two, and telling him the truth: "I couldn't decide, because I didn't know which one you would like best, so you pick your favorite and I can take whichever one you don't like back to the place I got it."
If you really can't decide, then that may be your best bet.
M from india.nd M 21 yrs old i have a boyfriend.in d starting of dis relationship he is vry nice to me hmesha jada baat krta tha but ab i dont no kyu ab uska mn nhi krta itna uska milne ka mn krta h bs or mera baat krne ka bcoz i always missed him .some times i controlled my self that i dont call him but it doesnt happened.mujhe uski habbit ho chuki hain m very possesive nd i really love him m aisa kya kru ki use mere valu ka pta chle mujhe bi importance dai .pls give me a good advice i m very confused (link)
Please ask completely in English.
Hi, I'm trying to burn this slideshow that I made for my friends birthday onto my brand new BLANK CD/DVD but for some reason when I tried to do this it said that my CD is not writable and to please insert a blank one, but it was blank! how can I fix this? (link)
Your best bet is to try another disc. If you get the same result, try another recording program if you have one.
If you get the same results, then you may have a dead CD/DVD writer.
If you are using Windows as your operating system, then I wold like to suggest you do this before going any further:
Microsoft's Fixit utility can be very handy in certain situations. This can be one of them.
If you continue to have issues, please ask another question and include the operating system you are using, and the program you are using to attempt to burn the slideshow to a disc.
F/17 Me and my boyfriend of 4 months have been none stop arguing for a month or so, he takes me for granted, he never understands me when I try to explain how he's making me feel, I don't feel appreciated as I once did at the start of the relationship. I've said some really nasty things out of anger and hurt, he's not fighting for us, but I know deep down he does care, I think that it may be because as we always argue, it's pushing him away, I'm moaning at him because the lack of communication/effort he's bringing into the relationship, it's pushing him away. Anyway, after saying so many nasty things, I told him to move on and that he clearly doesn't appreciate and want me anymore. If I try the no-contact rule, cut all communication, is there a chance he will come back? Will he realise the lack of communication and effort that he's not put in, will he realise that he does want to be with me? He seems so cold at the moment, but the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true, right? How would I go about to getting him back to how he used to be with me, also to making him my boyfriend again. Thank you for your time x (link)
This is done, it is all over. I am sorry to be so blunt, but you have to understand: Once you drive someone away like that, they don't fight to get back into the relationship that was making them miserable in the first place.
Well, sometimes they do, but only if they are desperate and lonely... then they will stay until something better comes along. That isn't something you want, right?
I answered your other question:
... you should go and read that answer so I don't have to repeat myself here.
The first time you ragged on him for not texting you (guys hate texting) it may not have killed the relationship... but after he told you he was sick of the complaining over trivia ("he didn't text me first!") and you continued to badger him about this... he was looking for a way out of this relationship.
You decided to break it off, which made it easy for him to walk away. He probably didn't want to hurt your feelings by dumping you.
You decided to dump him... so this is over.
No lack of communication is going to fix this. No amount of time.
You want something from a relationship that THIS guy, simply isn't willing to give.
He may be the biggest ass in the world, but all we have to go on is what you typed in your questions... and simply from what you said about yourself and him... well, I can only say that if the person I am in a relationship with did this to me, I wouldn't wait for her to dump me.
Extremely needy/clingy people that want you to do things you hate doing (texting is a good example) are not fun to be around even if you aren't in a relationship. If you are, well that is pretty intolerable, as a rule.
You say this is because of a lack of communication/effort on his part? Well from your other question, you told us that HE told you that the constant "moaning" was driving him away.
He did communicate his thoughts to you. Did you take it seriously? Did you keep up the "moaning" over him not texting you first? If you did, then have a look in the mirror at where the communication problem lies.
I don't say that to make you feel bad... I would just like to suggest that relationship counseling is a good idea when you get into a spot like this.
You think it is awful that he won't text you first... I understand that. Can you understand that you were forcing him to do something he hates? Do you get that you complained constantly if he didn't do exactly what you wanted, exactly the way you wanted it done?
Does that make you a bad person? Nope. Just makes you BOTH people who would learn from study on interpersonal communications. Some relationship counseling would really have helped here.
"...I don't feel appreciated as I once did at the start of the relationship."
Do you thing he felt appreciated? Probably not. Relationships are about sharing with another person. They are your partner, not your slave, your servant or your one person "make ME feel special all the time or I will dump you!" team.
If I asked him what you did to make him feel special, what do you think he would say?
Trust me, "She texts me first and that makes me feel SOOOOOOOO special!!!111!" is absolutely NOT going to be what he says. ;-)
So, ask yourself the question: Did you do the things he wanted, that you know because he specifically told you, to make him feel special?
Equality is a beautiful thing.
I wish you nothing but the best in your next relationship. Please learn from this one, so you don't have to repeat this with another guy.
If you hit the rocks in your next relationship, then head immediately to relationship counseling. If he won't go, then you go by yourself. Improving yourself and your communication skills will only make him want to be a better person when he sees you making that effort.
No matter what you do... don't spend any more time on this relationship.
P.S. Please do read the other answer I left you.
I was with my boyfriend for 6 months when our relationship went down hill, I started to feel as though he was drifting away from me. He would never put the effort in to seeing me as much as he used to, he would hardly text me and I'd open up about it and say, look I don't like how you're behaving, he would tell me to stop moaning and being a bitch, he would never understand where I'm coming from and he made it out to be my fault that he was drifting and acting not interested, he would say that "you're pushing me away with your constant moaning" but I had to tell him how I was feeling, we got back on track for about a month, all I did was make effort, I texted him as soon as I got up in the morning, he never would text me first, I made effort in seeing him, making plans, keep the conversation going and he seemed really not interested, once again. So the other day, I told him that he's taking me for granted, I told him how he's making me feel, by all means I can't be the one putting the effort it. He never texted back all day, until night (I sent it in the morning) it's obvious he checked his phone. He replied saying "why do you send such long messages" ok so now I'm stuck in between what to do, I know this isn't him, he's not the person he used to be, what am I supposed to do? I told him "what's the point anymore? Move on. Take care" and he replied with "you take care too" Wow? He never even fought for me, he never turned around and said "no, I love you" I know I'm only young, but I have never felt like this for any boy before, he's blocked me on facebook also, and when I asked him to unblock me, he wouldn't. What's going on? Does he even care anymore? Please someone help me with this situation. Thank you, I'd really appreciate it. (link)
I know it hurts, but take it at face value. He has done everything but tell you to go straight to hell... he isn't hinting, not at all. He is telling you that he wants nothing more to do with you.
It would be nice if everyone was this honest about things. Rather than have him string you along for years then dump you for someone he likes better, wouldn't you rather have him be honest with you like he is? I have had the stringing along in my past, and I always wished after it was done that they would have just told the truth.
This is over. Period.
If you do get back together, it will just be till you annoy him to this point again. You two simply are not compatible.
I can give you a hint for your next relationship, though, if you don't mind:
GUYS HATE TEXTING!
It is a cold impersonal method of communication. If we wanted to date a "text-bot" we would be in a long distance relationship via text only. How many people really want that?
The constant annoying texts will drive most any guy away from you. Ask your male friends about this.
It doesn't take much to make someone not want to spend time with you, and complaining over something as trivial as him not texting you first... well, that would send many guys looking for a way to get rid of you ASAP.
I am sure there are guys out there that like texting, and guys that like it if you bitch at them for not texting you fast enough... I have just never met one.
This relationship is over. The best thing to do is learn what went wrong, and what you REALLY want from a guy.
The next guy you go out with, just tell him all your demands up front. This will save you wasting time and having a broken heart over a relationship that would simply never work.
Good luck in your future relationships.
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