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Question Posted Wednesday August 21 2013, 3:37 pm

Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do
Hi there,

Stop asking this over again.

You already asked this here:

... and it has been answered.


Question Posted Wednesday August 21 2013, 3:37 pm

Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do
Hi there,

You already asked this here:

... and it has been answered.


My bf is shammy Singh kya ye mera life partner banega aur mai life me apne papa mummy ka sapna pura kar paungi. I am Indian. (link)
In English, please?

I want this on my phone and was wondeing the name of the app!!!! (link)
Hi there,

What app are you referring to? "I want this on my phone..." I would like to help, but you didn't say what you meant by "this."

If you give me more info, maybe I can help.



I googled my email address and last year I answered a question on this site with my email address so it came up.
I shouldn't have done that because I don't want friends to randomly google my email address sometime and see it. Is there any way I can get rid of it or edit the answer? (link)
Hi there,

I removed the e-mail from your answer.

Take care,


The story is confusing I asked this question twice and no one answered because it was too long.
So I am going to try and make this really short.

School is starting up I am going into 4th year and this Is a really important year I have exams ! So I am going to study ALOT this year and last year was the first year we all got different people in different classes that is when It all changed and me as a person. I drifted from my best friend and during that summer I got a lot closer to one of our friend and we have been friends for like over a year. Everything changed it use to be me ,lara ,morgan and then lara started speaking from our old friend from primary and then she got close to me now and now she's my bestfriend.

Also the old 3 of us I speak to them now and then in school it was me and lara joint to the hip and morgan was our best friend aswell but we were closer and this was a year ago and we have admitted its not the same between us because I have changed so much. But I don't mind but my best friend and lara are in like all the same classes this year and they will get a lot closer. But I really want to speak to more people this year make new friends because its only me my bestfriend and lara and my bestfriend will get close. But I don't mind I guess but last year I just didn't speak to anyone at all but my best friend and I don't want it to be like that this year.

I want to get close friends with more people instead of just the one person because we just speak about her love life I do not mind that at all because im helping but I never get to talk even though there is nothing to talk about I just give advice and we have a good laugh. I don't want that too change ! But I would like to speak to more people.
But I dontknow who my type of person is. The school is **** theres the Popular ones so far up their own **** there is the nerds omg me hanging with nerds im too stupid no , then the neds smoking in the back of the school nah , the one me and my bestfriend stand with the crazy/emo group and we have decided were not standing there again there annoying we will go now and then but nah we looked like lost puppies !

So I just want some friends and get close to a few people id prefer a boy just a good guy friend but I dontknow what type of person I fit into and how can I speak to them and should I just block everyone out again like I did last year I shouldn't have done that last year but my classes were full off bitches and neds and probably the same this year . So where do I start what will I do ?

Also today my bestfriend was telling me lara asked her to go too a concert she asked me to go too and said that we haven't been speaking we did until she sent a message complaining and me and my bestfriend for not inviting them out so shes fell out with me and not her

Read more: (link)
Please stop posting this over and over again.

Someone will answer it. Be patient.

I'm a 24 yr old female, my boyfriend and I just got into a fight. I'm having female issues and don't want to have sex like I used to. He threw a tantrum bc I didn't want to be tickled. He really hurt my feelings by what he said so naturally I started crying. I went to get situated to sleep on the couch. I had to turn on lights to get blankets n pillows. I was moving stuff n he got mad bc the light was on. He slammed the door n called me a bitch. I broke down, I am completely heart broken. We r working on yr 5 of our relationship, not married, this has never happened before. I don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
Hi there,

As I read this, I see two likely possibilities:

1.) He is the emotionally unstable psychotic abuser-in-training you have described here. This would mean that everything has been perfect, up until he tried tickling you, then he freaked out like someone flipped a switch.

If that is true, then this relationship is most likely over unless you both find your way to counseling immediately.

If he won't go see someone with you, then it is time for you to leave before things get worse.

2.) The second thing I see as a possibility is that this was a pressure release from something that has been building for a long time. In my experience, this is more likely that the first.

Would you mind if I told you a story? About 3 years ago a woman posted a question nearly identical to yours. The ages were different, and such, but the theme was identical. He tried to do something as innocent as hug her, she told him she didn't want to be hugged, and he flipped the hell out on her.

She came on here, and painted the worst possible picture of him, so that people would tell her how bad he was and how she deserved better. She did this without realizing what she was doing. In fact, because she hadn't communicated her feelings to him for years, she had no idea why he flipped out, and thought she was right to vilify him by telling only one side of the story... because she had NO idea there was another side to the story.

Now, there are a LOT of questions like this posted here. I mean a LOT. The reason this one particular one sticks out in my mind is that she responded with more details in feedback to people who had answered her, and then asked dozens of followup questions.

By the time the actual truth came out, this is what REALLY happened:

They had been together about as long as you two have. She changed BC pills, and lost all sex drive. (More common than you would believe)

For him, flipping out came after over two years of patience, and love while he tried to get her to seek help for the problem.

They had had sex 3 times in two years by this point, and that, as it turns out wasn't the problem. You see, she told him that he wasn't allowed to pleasure himself because that would make her feel bad that she wasn't doing it. He wasn't allowed to watch porn, because that would make her feel bad.

So, pretty much she told him he could find sexual release only on her terms, and no more than 1.5 times per year.

Now, what would you think of a man who told his wife that she was forbidden to please herself, couldn't fantasize, and was only allowed sex (and I mean bad sex at that) 1.5 times per year?

He would be a rotten bastard, wouldn't he?

So, if a woman called him a rotten bastard and flipped the hell out on him... you would completely understand, wouldn't you?

Now, I am not saying that this is what happened in your relationship, but it is within a couple words of identical to a previous situation that ended up like that.

If this is similar to your situation, have you talked this out with him, or is he completely in the dark as to why you are no longer interested in him like you used to be?

Imagine what it would be like if he suddenly stopped having sex with you, wouldn't tell you why, and just basically shunned you in the bedroom? How would you feel? If it went on long enough, you think it is possible you would freak out?

As for him calling you a bitch... well, that shouldn't have happened. This should have been dealt with a long time before it came to this.

I imagine that at some time in your life you held one emotion or another inside... until it overwhelmed you, right? If you say no, you would be the only one on the planet, so I am imagining you nodding your head right about now.

What SHOULD have happened here is this: He should have come to you, and told you that he feels like you aren't interested in him anymore, that you are shunning him in the bedroom and that he needs to know why you no longer love him or want to be intimate with him.

At that point, you two, if you were willing to be honest with him, and if you even know why this is happening (most people with the hormone swap have no idea why, and may not notice at all how COLD they are being) you could have told him, or told him you had no clue.

Then you could have, together, as a couple sought professional help.

If you refused to do anything about it, he should have walked away from the relationship until such time as you decided to take responsibility for your mental and physical health.

Odds are, that would have given you an idea that this was, indeed, a big deal to him.

Regardless of what might have been, there is still time. Talk with him, and tell him all of this from your end. Let him know what is going on with you, tell him how hurt you are, and ask him why it came to him blowing up like that. You may be surprised at the answer.

He needs to have empathy for your situation, and you need to have empathy for his. This is what being in any kind of relationship is really about. Without that empathy, it is all doomed to failure eventually.

I would love to tell you how the other questioner's situation ended up, but first I would like to hear what you have to say about all this. Please let me know, in feedback or a new question, if this is sounding in any way familiar to your situation.

Either way, there is hope if you both actually love each other.

Common misconception, by the way, is that when a guy flips out at you for some reason like this it means he doesn't love you. That is not often true. If he didn't love you, he would have most likely walked away from you by now, rather than put up with the stress he is, by your question here, obviously keeping inside.

We both know there is probably more to this story... so see if you can find out why this happened, and perhaps it can be fixed.

I wish you both the best, going forward, and look forward to your response.


recently iu asked once called how can you not act like youre in high school and the answers were useless so anyway i was wondering if you would kindley delete it thank you (link)
Hi there,

Nobody has any idea what question you are talking about. If you wish anything doen about this, you will need to provide a link to the question.



Me and my bf have just got engaged he is 16 and I'm 14 I just don't know if its wrong (link)
Hi there,

You already asked this:

... and it has been answered by two people.


I seen your answer to another problem like this, but i use Chrome, and my internet sound isnt working although my normal media player is?? can you tell me how to fix this?? please (link)
Hi there,

There are a couple possibilities: There has been a recurring bug in Chrome that has caused this. It has been going on for years now, and is just completely unbelievable that it isn't fixed yet. Here is the most recent post I know of:!topic/chrome/e1y-Zd4zL6E%5B1-25-true%5D

... So, if you have a realtek sound chip in your machine, make sure that your sound is set to stereo, and, in theory, it should work.

Also make sure that you don't have the volume slider for chrome muted:

(It is ok if the sound doesn't work, just do what he does in the video.)

Beyond that, you can do what I do, and that is use FireFox until they fix this... again... and again, and again. This is enough to make me give up on Chrome. Not that there is a bug, but that there is a bug that keeps coming back for a period of years now.

I hope you get it sorted, and the Chrome team gets this sorted out. Otherwise I really love the browser.

I'm a boy. Is it ok to wear these running tights for running (when the weather is cold)? My gf like it, but i dont no... what do you think?
1. pic - in cold weather:
2. pic - in cool weather: (link)
The links to the pictures are broken. Please re-ask with working links.

What is up with store #1143 taking so long to update active employee that has transferred,but not in system to be scheduled? Needing to start back to work NOW! (link)
Hi there,

What caused you to think that posting this complaint here, where nobody has any idea who you are, or what company you work for... is going to resolve your problem? Not complaining, just would like to know what made you think this was a good idea.

As for getting your situation sorted... please contact the store manager at your destination store. They will get this taken care of quite a bit sooner than an anonymous complaint to the internet as a whole will. ;-)

Good luck at your new store.

I really really need to know something, can rodenticides kill a dog??? I'm really worried about this since I think my dog has been poisoned...Thanks in advance. (link)
Take your dog to the vet, right now.

If you believe your dog has ingested rat poison, you need to take care of this right away. Call the emergency number if it is after hours. Do it now.

I hope your dog survives.

can you poop with a tampon in (link)
Yes you can poop with a tampon in.

A while back, I asked for help on how to get my videos to stop pausing while the audio continued on.

It's not happening more frequently so I have to wiggle my mouse at least once every couple seconds and this is just so annoying. It happens on all the websites I try to watch a video on now, including YouTube. Netflix is the only one that plays normally. And the videos work when I don't full screen, but once I put into full screen, the entire thing screws up. I've even had a few videos basically short out and close my browser down on me.

I tried cleaning my cache, my computer, and running a scan, but still nothing came of it. I also ran the RegTweaker program as previously suggested, but I was asked to pay a fee in the end, so I couldn't continue with it.

One of my friends suggested that something may be wrong with my video card, or whatever that is, and I really don't know what it is.

Is there anyway to get this fixed or do I really need to pay a lot of money to have it fixed? (link)
Hi there,

If it works in netflix, but not elsewhere, then this is an easy answer: Remove and re-install Adobe Flash.

Netflix uses the Silverlight plugin, and most of the rest use Adobe Flash to display video.

Somewhere along the line your flash install either became corrupted, or hasn't been updated in such a long time that it has become pretty useless.

Let me know how you do, when you leave feedback.

I need D'Angelo album Ultimate plz get so i can download it on my phone. Im from south africa kwazulu natal pinetown. 31 yrs male. My email address is (link)
Hi there,

I don't know what kind of phone you have, but here are links to download the album:




... so hopefully one of these works for your area of the world.

Happy listening!

I have two dance dance revolution pads for playstation 2. They are wireless, and I lost the sensors for both of them since i haven't used it in awhile. I can't find these sensors anywhere. Does anyone know a good website where I would be able to get them? (link)
Hi there,

If you would be so kind as to share the brand and model of the DDR pads, I will see what I can find for you. Without that information, there is just no real way to help.

Please put the info in your feedback, and I will have a look when I see you have left the info.

Thank you,


I am 16 and my boobs have been hurting alot lately i am not sexually active but I do masturbate. Would masturbation have anything to do with my boobs hurting. I also think its Because of my period, but my period isn't support to come until two more weeks. Should I be worried or does this just mean my boobs are growing.? (link)
Please stop re-asking this.

You asked it here:

... and when people answer, that is where you will find the answers.


I liked this boy a lot and he seemed like he liked me a lot to . I added him on skype and he accepted quickly... Then two days afterwards he deleted me and don't know why. I hadn't spoken to him when we both online. I hadn't spoken to hom since he was a contact either... What have I done??? Thanks for any help!! (link)
Often, when you ignore people, especially people who really like you, it hurts them.

You are feeling hurt, right? Imagine how it felt when he added you and you refused to talk to him?

That is the best guess I have, only knowing this much about you two.

If you want to save it, then contact him in real life and just tell the truth: "I was stupid, and too shy to say anything first."

He will understand, since obviously, he was stupid and shy too. ;-)

Good luck!

I need D'Angelo album Ultimate plz get so i can download it on my phone. Im from south africa kwazulu natal pinetown. 31 yrs male. My email address is (link)
You have already asked this here:

Please only ask once.

Thank you.

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