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My name's Katherine. Call me that. Not Katie, or Kathy, or Katrina, or Kathleen. I want to learn to speak Spanish, and I'm studying it now, but I only speak English thus far.
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13/f

ok well i was beset friends with this girl last year...we'll call her sally. well over the summer sally and i got in a huge fight where she basicly dumped me as a best friend. i got over it (i mean a best friend who would just dump you isnt that hard to get over) and you know we're still like ok friends. like were in teh same group of friends and we dont hate each other (sometimes). she keeps changing her mind bout me, like one minute she'll be all like "i miss you" and the next she'll be telling everyone she hates me (i kind of do the same). Its been calm between us for like 2 months now though. well yesterday she called me (for the first time in months) and just asked if i wanted to come over (for the first time in six months). I was like um sure. I thought it would be really awkward, but it was kind of like comfortable. i just could walk in her fridge and get a glass of juice. she's been hanging out with these two other girls a lot lately so i guess you could consider those her "best friends" and i have two new "best friends" also, but it was just so random and i dont know what to make of it. it's not like i'd run back to her after what she did, but i didnt hate hanging out with her yesterday. it's so confusing. someone please help me!
thanks!

You can't just either be her friend sometimes or be best friends-you have to choose. If she would dump you like that, then there's a very big chance she'd do it again.

I know from personal experience [reading your question make me feel eerily like I was reading my own problem] that it's not a good idea to hang out one-on-one with an ex-best friend. It's fine if you want to smile at her in school, or ask her for a pen, or even talk to her out of your own free will.
But I would not advise hanging out with her outside of school-if you start having a friendship again, it's not likely that it will last and you'll be put through the same thing again.
People mature, and sometimes they can't grow up and take their friends with them.

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